How to release built-up tension
“Stressed” isn’t just a mental state—it’s also a physical state.
Every time we have a stressful thought or are in a stressful situation, a sudden cascade of physiological responses sweep over us: blood pressure changes, muscle tension, sweating, a release of inflammatory compounds such as cytokines, and heavy or shallow breathing.
The sympathetic (fight or flight) stress response is a major cue from our nervous system that something isn’t right and we should heed its wisdom.
Remember, humans are mammals with a complex, instinctive operating system. If we choose to disregard this inner wisdom, we won’t be able to stop the nervous system responses that:
Keep us chronically fatigued and drained
Keep our immune system in overdrive
Leave us living in a chronic state of inflammation
Keep our sex and stress hormones out of balance
Prevent us from tapping into our own higher wisdom about which direction to take with our health and lives
To combat stress, people commonly rely on yoga, meditation, prayer, other forms of gentle exercise, and modalities such as the Emotional Freedom Technique.
While I think these are great compliments, I also know that unless you get to the cause of the stressor and extract it by its roots, so to speak, you’ll continue the stress response cycle.
Such modalities will only act as a bandaid.
This is where energy work comes in because it helps you identify the root of problems to start untangling yourself.
Energy is the sum total of your intentions and experiences as well as the intentions others have for you and have acted out on you. If you have been through exceptionally difficult experiences in your life (and really, who hasn’t?), you’re likely holding onto a dysfunctional energy pattern that needs to be released for you to reach optimal health.
Energetic patterns take root through our subconscious mind, which is the gatekeeper of the truth of our life experiences. The egoic or conscious mind is what tries to gloss over the subconscious mind in the form of downplaying, gaslighting, denial, and ignoring the subconscious clues.
Tapping into the subconscious mind is a way for us to start living out the truth rather than living the cover story, like:
“You’re not that sick; other people have it worse.”
“It’s genetic, there’s nothing you can do to improve this illness.”
“There’s something wrong with me; I’m inadequate.”
When it comes to your health, this is critical to address. I’ve seen clients improve greatly once they:
Acknowledge what has been done to them
Talk about how they felt powerless and stressed as a result
Release the internalized tension patterns
When we do this, we dramatically alter our nervous system for the better, allowing us to access the parasympathetic or “rest and digest” response that’s a healing requirement.
For example, growing up, perhaps family dinners at your home were seemingly uneventful but still rather stressful: everyone ate in a rush or panic, some complained about the food, or your parents and siblings tried to hide the underlying relationship tensions. You inevitably felt there were problems no one wanted to resolve so you suffered chronic stomach aches, felt food just sitting in your stomach, or you had little desire to eat.
Or maybe, like one client told me, she had a fear of eating alone despite living alone, so she often put off meals. For this woman, eating alone was a form of childhood punishment—being put in the corner with her food until she ate it all. So every time she ate alone, she was triggered back to a stress response that involved getting nauseous, losing her appetite, becoming anxious, or choosing to eat with the TV on or speaking with someone on the phone out of sheer panic.
Though she was no longer a small child who could be punished, her subconscious mind was still obeying the orders she had received so long ago. As a result, she suffered constant heartburn, hormonal fluctuations, irregular blood sugar, underwent extreme dieting, and had a fear of being alone which was keeping her in an abusive relationship that she knew wasn’t healthy for her.
The #metoo movement is a prime example of subconsciousness prevailing: victims are coming forward, often after many years, to acknowledge the stirring of their souls and situations that left them feeling violated, used up, and discarded, despite others in their lives telling them it wasn’t a big deal, they were making it up, or it’s something to ignore and move on from.
For the first time in a long time, instinctual memories are coming up to the surface in order to be reckoned with rather than suppressed.
It’s an awakening of the subconscious mind to acknowledge that which isn’t right and needs resolution. The longer we ignore such feelings and experiences—whether it be tied to abuses or other unhealthy situations—the longer we’ll deal with sickness that we just can’t put our finger on.
In my Energy Reading sessions with clients, I like to walk them through a simple visualization to begin deconstructing and unraveling the layers of subconscious energy or tension patterns they’re currently bound to.
[My Energy Reading services do not replace any medical or psychiatric treatment. If you believe you have a medical condition, please seek qualified professional care. I’m not acting in the capacity of a licensed or unlicensed therapist. My role is to support, encourage, motivate, and provide information and guidance.]
Bring your awareness to your chest. Imagine you can see inside of your body—your nerves, blood vessels, organs, muscles, and bones. Now also imagine you can peer outside of yourself to your external appearance so that you have awareness of both the internal and external of your body. Go to each energy center or chakra of your body, starting at the base of your pelvis and working your way up to your belly button, your stomach, your heart, your thyroid, your forehead, and the top of your head.
In each area, ask yourself how many layers of tension you’re holding, tuning into any physical pain. The tension may feel like an unspecified blob so imagine each layer of tension is a sheet of paper.
How many pieces of paper are covering each area? Go inside of yourself and once you see what’s written on each sheet of paper, make the connection between the words and how your body feels due to those words.
Each answer represents one sheet of paper. You may start to have thoughts come to mind. For example, the tension over your thyroid area could read, “chronic ear/nose/throat problems as a child,” “frequent antibiotic use,” “voicelessness,” “shame,” or “hiding.”
Or the sheets over your stomach may say “restriction,” “food allergies,” “rushing to eat,” “eating when angry,” “lack of trust,” or “body armor.”
Once you acknowledge the feeling, imagine flicking away the paper, one piece at a time, and releasing the feeling from your body. There are no right or wrong answers, This is simply a way for you to begin deconstructing the many layers of dysfunctional tension that’s keeping your body in an altered stasis.
Tying the feeling to the word is important because the acknowledgement is what helps you release the tension and trigger for good. It may happen immediately or it may take longer. Either way, it’s worth it to keep working through.
Once you begin to get a handle on which energy center of your body isn’t functioning optimally, you can begin to work backwards to greatly improve your health.