What’s keeping you from tapping into your intuition

Being talked out of ourselves is nothing new. In fact, it is as old as time itself. Throughout history, systems have been set in place to purposefully or unwittingly keep people from processing and digesting what is truly happening to them and around them, in order for others to maintain control; you intuitively understand the truth but are talked out of it — or talk yourself out of it.

Monarchs, politicians, masters, employers, teachers, government, parents, spouses, and religious figures have told us what is real even when the reality of life is something so much more vast, sometimes derelict, hidden, magical or incredulous. Often only years or decades later, do we learn the truth behind the false story lines we have been fed and then we question why no one told us the truth (or saw it for themselves) in the first place. Often we are gripped with the regret that we did not trust ourselves or fight hard enough for what we “knew” was right all along but were talked out of.

Finding the truth is important to me, likely as it is to you, and I feel driven to help people understand how to not only uncover the truths that have remained hidden and suppressed for generations, but also to learn to instinctively trust yourself based on your gut reactions to situations you find yourself in. In other words, I want to help you become intuitive and tap into your true gut instincts because it is your best guide in life. 

In doing so, you liberate yourself from false realities that are keeping you stressed and sick and unable to be the authentic expression of yourself that you were born to be. In trusting the truth and learning to tune into your intuition, you are able to rid yourself of old stories and attitudes that no longer serve you, and you are able to recognize the ills of the world and take action to remedy them instead of quietly waiting for someone else to do it. When we recognize the truth, we all become better people. When you recognize your truth, you become the person you were born to be. There is no greater gift.

Anything that keeps you in a state of stress, chaos, confusion, distraction, or trying to please others will prevent you from truly feeling what is going on with your life and will therefore block your intuition. Think of this as the “housekeeping” that must be done before you can move onto greater spiritual lessons. We have to address the common annoyances in life and find a way to work around them but not become consumed by them. We have to maintain our spiritual integrity and purpose despite the ways the million ways the “real world” calls to us. 

Here’s what keeping your from tapping into your intuition:

1. Denial

Everyone is in denial about something because denial is what protects us from feeling pain or having to admit we were wrong and change. It is normal to have some level of denial because it is a defense mechanism while we are alive on a planet full of harsh realities. However, denial will be a deterrent to becoming intuitive because it keeps us from seeing the truth — we purposefully avoid the truth in order to avoid unpleasant feelings. It may be impossible for any one human to be completely free of denial but so long as you genuinely want to get out of any denial you experience, you can begin tapping into your gut instincts.

The difference between someone who can become intuitive and someone who may not is the level of desire to truly see the truth which is separate from our own projections and ego. The truth doesn’t care about our preexisting belief systems or comfort. If it is in you to pursue the truth no matter which unpleasantries rise of the surface, you can be assured you will continue to be guided in your process. Those who do not wish to get out of their own denial may never be able to see things for what they really are. It is really just a matter of saying “yes” to the universe/God/holy spirit/source even if you really want to say “no” because you know that peeling back the layers of denial is good for you. It is truly about mindset, attitude, and desire. You want to emphatically say “yes” to whatever life has for you and begin to examine every situation in your life through a lens of “what is this meant to teach me?”.

2. Cognitive dissonance

Cognitive dissonance is another form of denial but this is often imposed on us by others. We feel we know what is true, but are talked out of it. Or, narcissistic personalities are controlling the groupthink so that the truth is suppressed for their own benefit. It’s where your subconscious feelings and experiences are downplayed or you are flat out told you are wrong. 

Keeping record of your experiences and feelings about those situations can be very helpful to show you the truth even when others are imposing cognitive dissonance on you. Remember that what is true for one is not necessarily true for another so friends and family may have good intentions in directing you or giving you advice but keep in mind that their perceptions have no bearing on your reality. 

3. Distraction

Anything that acts as a distraction will keep you from seeing the truth. First, distraction keeps us in a constant state of fight or flight nervous system response. This is where your blood pressure and heart rate elevate, you can start to feel fearful, anxious, excited, or nervous, you become hyper-vigilant and get stuck in negative or cyclical thinking feedback cycles. Ultimately it takes you out of yourself and your real feelings. Your true feelings become afterthoughts and get swept under the rug day in and day out: the things in your relationships that are begging to be resolved, the personal growth that should be occurring, the gut feeling that you need to pursue your real interests and talents, etc.

Distraction becomes a threat that takes center stage and occupies our time and thoughts: who will win the reality show, what terrible things are happening in the world today, who said what on social media, how old your profile picture makes you look, how much weight you need to lose to look like her, how much money you need to not be in debt anymore, which outfit you need to get a date, and on and on. And your physical body responds accordingly. You get hooked on the feel good peptides (a group of two or more amino acids) released at the anticipatory excitement about “one day”, versus feeling all of the authentic emotions that come up in the day to day, begging to be resolved.

Social media, television, unnecessary tasks, events, holiday planning, and obligations, and superficial goals keep us from living in the moment and are forms of distraction that keep us from understanding the truth.

Imagine driving down an idyllic country road one weekend. You don’t have to work, you have no real responsibilities, and you are enjoying the scenery. To your left is an old wooden fence with a patina to match. To your right is a field of tall grass and wildflowers. You are listening to music you like on the radio and forget the stress and responsibilities. You tap into your subconscious mind and feel. You start thinking back to circumstances in your life and how those situations can be resolved or improved — or just how thankful you are for this moment. The music, drive, and nature have put your back into your self and it feels good. Suddenly, an advertisement for fast food or a car dealership comes on the radio. You are jolted back into consumer fight-or-flight mode — what you need to buy to be satisfied or happy. A disc jockey screams through the radio with false humor and bravado about how wonderful these products are. You suddenly stop feeling. You suddenly forget how beautiful this moment is and how you can improve your life. You begin to get stressed again. 

Or, perhaps while you are working your desk job, you daydream about the next big event you can look forward to: your birthday in two months, the plans you will make for this party, who you will invite, where you will go, what you will wear, what color to dye your hair, which decorations you will buy, and on and on. The party comes and goes and while it was fun, it wasn’t quite as great as your anticipation of the actual event and now you look for the next holiday or social gathering to look forward to. So you start making plans for Christmas — presents you will buy, food you will cook, place settings you will create, pictures you will post to social media. Again, you are not being present for the day in and day out of life because the distraction has told you that only “big” life events are what you should think about and focus on.

Remember, the truth exists within your experiences, feelings, and perceptions. If you are constantly being distracted by external forces, you will not be able to feel who you are, who you are meant to be, and what is going on in your life. If we’re relying on external distractions to tell us what is true, pertinent, or relevant, we will not feel confident accessing our own perceptions about what is happening in our lives and we will not have a chance to work through our soul problems. We will just continue to sweep intuitive insights under the rug.

We all have to make the choice between listening to the loud noises of everything around us or tuning into the whisper of our souls. We need quiet and solitude to truly feel and trust our intuition. Also, if we are sweeping reality under the rug just to get “high” on the nostalgia of the next holiday or birthday party, we’ll be living in a constant cycle of ignorance, hoping the temporary sensations those times bring up will make the bad things go away. They can’t and they won’t unless we stop distracting ourselves and trust our intuition to purposefully work through the problems. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be excited for holidays and look forward to events. It just means we can’t make those what we are living for.

4. Clutter

Clutter can allude to mental stimuli that is unresolved (unpaid bills, appointments not written on the calendar, a never-ending to-do list, energetic strings others are holding over your head) and it can also be physical objects that get in our way. The first thing you’ll need to do to become better at tapping into your intuition is to start compiling your to-do list and checking those things off. Maybe it means buying a date book or utilizing your phone’s calendar for greater organization in your home life or office. Maybe it means putting bills on autopay so you don’t have to remember when each of them are due. Perhaps it means paying off bills in advance so you don’t constantly stress about money. The goal here is to make life easier for yourself and get systems in place that aide you in remaining calm, rather than reacting. If you are constantly reacting instead of being proactive you will find yourself drained and emotionally unable to tap into your greater truths.

We have to think about the reasons why things are cluttered. Often times, the clutter is signaling deeper issues that we would rather not deal with. It can be a way to prevent the subconsciousness from surfacing, to keep the pain at bay, to keep people away, or to signal to others that we need more help or we’re sick of working so hard. So as you work to literally declutter and organize your home, workplace, car, or other environment, you open yourself up to the meaningfulness that has remained hidden and repressed beneath the junk. When we acknowledge and admit to the things of value in our lives, we can access our intuition instead of being constantly overwhelmed and caught up in the mire. Once you have decluttered, put your home or office back together how you would like it to feel most like you.

5. The need for approval

As I have said before, planet Earth is a place of extreme groupthink (don’t think so? Try self-actualizing and see what ensues). It feels very scary for an individual to venture into uncharted territories — following their heart, mind, and soul rather than the crowd. It’s because we have learned that when we do things on our own, for ourselves, we risk losing the approval we have been conditioned to seek. “What if I trust myself and they reject me?”, “What if I follow my heart and it goes wrong?”, “What if they tell me I am wrong even though they haven’t felt the momentum behind my life experiences and decisions?”, “What if I am too different to be loved?” you may subconsciously think. 

The need for approval from others runs very deep. If we look to ancient religious texts, we can see it transcends time, people, and places, and is ingrained into our every decision (remember my thoughts on The “Eve” wound?). “I have to get their opinion so I know what to do with my life”, “I have to do what is ‘normal’”, “I will be totally alone if I trust myself”, “They will punish me if I don’t do what they want”. This feels scary because humans are mammals that crave commune and connection with others for survival. If we make choices others don’t approve of, we risk losing the community support we need to thrive. It’s the proverbial fork in the road on the path to self-actualization — will you keep playing the part or will you realize their approval is but another control tactic and that you do not need it? You cannot both please others and trust your intuition because they will always always always be at odds. 

Get these things sorted out first. Stay tuned for the next part in this series where I’ll discuss how to develop your intuition. 

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