Break your second chakra chains
The clients that come to me don’t only have thyroid or fifth chakra imbalances. They also carry wounds that have affected their other energy centers, much to their detriment. The second chakra isn’t spoken about too often (the fifth and sixth chakras tend to get most of the attention), but it’s equally important to your health and well being.
The the second, or sacral chakra as its called, sits a few inches under your belly button in the center of the body, at your pelvic region. It’s associated with the emotional body, pleasurable experiences, sensuality, creativity, and flexibility. If you identify as female, there is a good chance the demands and expectations of others have caused major blockages within this chakra, tightening the energetic chains and fascia around this area of your body.
If you’re being sexually repressed, sexually abused or intimidated, or if the sexual energy in your relationship/sexual needs are not reciprocated by your partner, or you are otherwise scared to express this energy (even alone), you are scared of being sexually in control and powerful, your health will begin to suffer because it will lead to stress, tension, resentment, fear, anger, fight or flight responses, inhibitory responses, avoidance, and cognitive dissonance.
Years ago, I worked with a nutrition client who was an Indian-American woman. Her family had immigrated from India years prior and most of them lived in the states now. Although we were working on a nutrition plan for her, inevitably she kept going back to stressors that she believed were affecting her health. In one session, she told me about her uncle’s inappropriate behavior that left her feeling victimized. Her uncle was married to her mother’s sister and a few times when no one was looking, he had pushed my client up against a wall in her home. He pressed himself into her from behind and made sexual noises into her ear, and she quietly stood there in shock and unsure of how to get out of this situation. Even though she was an adult at the time, she knew if she said something he would call her crazy and blame it on her; she would look like a harlot and the family dynamics would shift forever. When my client told her mother what had happened, her mother said, “All men do that. Please don’t tell your aunt; she would kill herself if she found out.” Talk about pressure.
In another session, this same woman told me about her marriages. She was currently married to her second husband, but had been married years prior to a man she met in college and it was her first “true love” experience. Coming from a family with traditional values, she had waited to have sexual relations until the two were married. Once they were legally married, they moved in together and she expected typical romantic and sexual encounters with her spouse. Except, to her surprise, they never once had sex. They didn’t even consummate the marriage. He suffered from impotence but did not want to talk to her about it. They never brought it up once. She went years suffering silently as her expectations for a healthy relationship went unmet and she didn’t feel she could talk to her husband about this because of the family pressures to stay married, and because she worried she would upset him. They were little more than roommates and it was the elephant in the room.
In both of these instances, this woman’s second chakra energy was being severely blocked. She knew the truth and wanted to speak it to work through the problems, but in both cases, she was under so much pressure to remain quiet and play along that it ended up causing her serious physical complaints. She had a history of miscarriage, and even though she was now happily married with a child, she could not allow herself to relax and enjoy sex. She was always stressed, had perfectionist tendencies, over-analyzed everything, and didn’t trust people enough to open up.
Before she spoke with me, no one had ever even confirmed how wrong and terrible these experiences were. She just thought she was the difficult, bad, and crazy one. The loss of matrilineal intuition and the dominant theme of patriarchy within the family structure had allowed my client to experience injustices she shouldn’t have. Had she been taught to trust herself and her initial reaction, she wouldn’t have questioned her own sanity — she would have questioned the behavior of those around her (her perpetrators). She had been talked out of her intuition and talked into patriarchy and it hurt her deeply for years to come.
I’ve also worked with many women who desperately wanted to get pregnant but felt their partners were not receptive to this. As a result, they felt their fertility was being controlled by someone else, or they would be (or were) punished if they got pregnant. They were typically women who experienced menstrual problems and irregularities, required surgery for cysts, fibroids, heavy bleeding, irregular ovulation, and even sometimes required hysterectomy. They often sacrificed their true desires in relationships in order to keep their spouse or partner happy, which meant giving their all to a relationship in which they wanted children but knew they would never get them. Again, the “untouchable” subject, the elephant in the room. This is unfair to you and is keeping you from self-actualizing into the person you want to be. Letting go of a relationship in which you love someone but know you cannot pursue what you really want is very difficult, but it’s a choice we all have to make if not getting what we want deep down will cause us stress, resentment, or heartache in the long run.
Anytime there is such a “threat” — whether emotional or physical — to a particular area of the body, you will learn adaptation methods in order to cope with the stress. This means muscle tension, improper use of structures and posture, and restricted blood flow and nutrients to adjoining areas. In time, you will develop fascial adhesions (thick layers of jumbled connective tissue) that are dysfunctional and prevent you from feeling and using those affected areas of your body. The “bad” fascia becomes chains that keep you imprisoned at one level of self-actualization because you will live in a state of triggering based on your past traumas due to the feedback the fascia is giving the brain, nervous system, immune system, and hormones.
Let me go a little bit deeper here because we’re all adults and I’m pretty sure you can handle this information — it’s life changing and will free you. It’s medical, not graphic, and we have to be real and specific if we want to heal. As you can see in the picture above, all of the bad fascia/fascial adhesions are stemming from the genitals. While genital trauma (again, emotional or physical) is the root cause, the fascia branches out and grows thick layers in neighboring areas, including the hips, stomach, lower back, and legs.
Why would this occur? Well, if you are having inhibitory sexual responses (based on trauma, guilt, shame, fear, intimidation, etc), you will tense adjoining muscle groups and use them improperly. You could also be tensing as a form of self-protection (subconsciously protecting the vaginal area at all costs), which includes keeping legs tightly crossed and closed, rotating hips inwardly (so you can control how much of you other people are seeing or attracted to), or, you may tense your stomach muscles as your orgasm, to prevent it, or in anticipation of it.
Do you see how it’s all connected?
To break your second chakra chains, you must:
- Identify where your fascial adhesions are located, then use myofascial release to restore healthy fascial function and appearance
- Restore the balance of power in your sexual relationships where you have a say and your needs are equally met
- Stand up for yourself when you need to and tell predators no
- Embrace your kink (it’s a way to tap into your subconscious mind and work through stressors in a safe way)
- Get in touch with what you actually enjoy sexually and pursue it
- Let go of guilt, shame, and fear around sex or your sexual responses
- Find fun, creative things to do with your time to free up stagnant energy
- Don’t be afraid of being sexually powerful, just because you fear judgment or punishment from others (sexually powerful women are often perceived as a threat)
- Let go of perfectionist tendencies, embrace the beauty of who you are, not who you “should” be
- Find ways to calm your nervous system
- Feel life, don’t just intellectually experience it
- Practice being present