Why empaths can’t organize the way narcissists can (and why we need to learn to)
The dichotomy between empathic people and narcissistic people transcends space and time. If you’ve woken up to the spiritual undercurrent, the soul in the mundane, the sacred in the profane, the 5D hiding behind the oh-so obvious 3D you know that we are here to do more than pay bills, work a job, pursue a “good enough” relationship, and try to be a decent person until we die. We’re here to engage in a spiritual battle, one as old as time itself. The battle between good and evil, in order to cultivate change on this planet once and for all. Problem is, empaths have by and large been relegated to the position of a proverbial servant, and narcissists have taken the proverbial role of king.
Narcissists are in charge because they not only know how to take power and control with no care for checks and balances (aka: concern for others by way of empathy); they also know how to organize. By “organize”, I don’t mean straighten a drawer, fold clothes, and place bills in color-coordinated binders (or apps). I mean community organizing: coordinating cooperative efforts and campaigning carried out to promote specific interests. They know how to get other people to engage in their cause. They know how to get what they want. And because they lack the empathy to care about how their desires will affect other people, they will do anything to get their way — and usually do.
I’ve said this before and it may come as a surprise to you but empathic people need to learn from narcissists. Not only learn to identify the spectrum of narcissism to understand who to trust; not only to learn their tactics so you can keep yourself healthy in a world full of narcissism — but to learn their methods so we can replicate them in new, caring ways.
You see, our high degree of empathy has caused us to forgo everything we believe to be righteous, true, and worthwhile. We have put our own intuitive inklings, messages from the divine, and soul missions on hold so other people can be happy. So other people can remain comfortable. So other people will like us — at the expense of progress and peace. We have to understand we can still be empathic and kind people without tolerating evil, injustice, abuse, and general selfish bullshit.
In doing so, you will begin to feel selfish yourself. You will begin to question, “If I am also utterly driven, does that make me a narcissist? If I’ll follow my cause without abandon does that make me any better than them?”. Here is the answer to those queries: if you genuinely are acting with good intentions under the direction of your higher self or higher power with no ego involved, you are doing the right thing by finally — finally — taking the reigns and putting your foot down to stop and reverse evil. Evil people will have their ego bruised in the process. They will hate you. In the end, you will see they were only ever using you and never really liked or loved you to begin with.
Still, the guilt an empath internalizes when they have to take the lead and go against the groupthink can become all-consuming. It causes us to distance ourselves from others and disconnect instead of generating community and creating new functional systems. It is easier to play along and fly under the radar because 1). you won’t upset anyone and 2). you won’t be targeted. Do you think this is the kind of life your higher self or higher power would want for you? Living so plainly that you never ever upset people, thinking this is kindness and love? No, it is martyrdom and lifelessness. It is slavery and servitude. It is not true living or creating change for the greater good. Going to our graves as push overs and saints isn’t worth it because we will have done nothing for the world but make other people happy.
My goal when working with any empathic person is to remind them of their spiritual authority, how it has been usurped, what it feels like to reclaim it, and how to finally act on it. In fact, we have already been given all of the authority we need from the divine to fight the good fight and stand up to narcissist and evil in all forms. It is simply up to us to remember and take grip of it:
“I have given you authority to trample on snakes and scorpions and to overcome all the power of the enemy; nothing will harm you.”
Here’s what narcissists instinctively know that empaths need to learn:
- How to get people to believe in their ideas and cause. Narcs use all forms of cognitive dissonance and brainwashing to make their point accepted, but this can also be done in a healthy way. Explanation, enthusiasm, connectivity to the cause, understanding the effect of each other’s efforts, positive affirmations, and more.
- How to bring people together. Narcissists are great at generating groupthink and using people to appear connected, popular, and community-oriented. They use other brainwashed community members to convince the nay-sayers. As natural lovers, empathic people can also bring people together to generate a positive, single-minded mindset (rather than controlling groupthink) due to our high-vibe energy. Empaths — people want to be around you because you share your soul, even if this is still hard for you to believe because of what you have been told about yourself.
- How to use resources towards their cause. Because empathic people have been placed in roles of subservience and therefore codependency, we often feel stressed when it comes to generating resources such as money. Releasing this subconscious belief system will bring you more of what you need and much less stress. Be fearless in your desires — your vibe will attract what you need.
- Taking the lead. Empathic people I have met and worked with generally like to observe and play the backseat role rather than be the leader. Sometimes we are put in positions where we have to take the lead but this probably isn’t your comfort zone. We have to flip this dynamic on its head and stand up fearlessly to take the lead when evil is leading the group or cause. Anyone can upset the balance of power — us included. Stop feeling guilty for it — it’s not a manifestation of ego if you aren’t doing it for self-glorification.
- Playing up their abilities. Empaths downplay their talents and narcs play them up. We have to stop hiding, communicate what we are capable of and our past experiences so people learn to trust the empaths rather than dominate them. You deserve respect for what you have learned and done in life. You posses natural wisdom that narcs do not.
- Communicate. Narcissists do not communicate clearly, no, but they do know how to convince people of their ideas to win people over. Empaths often feel so much that communication becomes a huge barrier. You don’t know how to express the rich, complex inner intelligence to the outside world. The more you work on opening up your throat chakra, the more you can learn to communicate to the ego of others so they understand what you mean without having to go into lengthy explanations that many will not understand.
Empathic people, it is time to rise up. Now is the time. The battle is already half-way over. Stay strong and take your rightful seat at the table.