How to tell if you are spiritually ascending

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Spiritual ascension is a process where you wake up out of the spiritual amnesia, understand there is more to life than having a good job and trying to be a good person, understand you have lessons here to learn, and heal the wounds in your soul. It’s taking off the rose-colored glasses and seeing things for what they really are — and it’s catapulting you into deep change because shit just ain’t right.

As an empathic collective, we have been undergoing major ascension acceleration the last two years. If your life has seemed topsy turvy, this is why. If you have been put through the wringer, understand that there is a rhyme and reason and it is because you are being pulled out of the 3D karmic system and into 5D Christ-consciousness. You are becoming a multi-dimensional being rather than a mere meat body. At times you feel this, and at times you question if it is in fact real. Let me assure you, it is real, despite little evidence in the 3D world.

There are two waves of “ascenders” at this point. Some got the trumpet call two and a half years ago and some only more recently have joined the journey in the last few months. The ones who went first are helping show the way to the newbies. One is not better than the other but we’re here to work together to show others what is possible. See below to discern whether or not the things you’ve experienced over the last few years are part of your spiritual awakening.

Here’s how to tell if you are on this spiritual ascension journey:

Your life has undergone major changes over the last five years. I don’t mean a change in job, a new baby, or other normal expected or anticipated life milestones that you wanted or worked for. I mean “tower” moments where shit comes crashing down unexpectedly and things you once enjoyed or wanted were taken from you so you could move in a totally new direction — a direction you never even knew existed.

You no longer desire to hold onto things that easily fall apart. Anything that causes you undue stress, where the pieces are constantly breaking apart, and that requires you to sacrifice who you really are no longer interests you. You have begun waiting for synchronistic events to come to you in an organic way, rather than trying to grasp water or sand that easily falls through your fingers.

You run from things that are low vibe. Before, you likely entertained anything and anyone who low vibed it into gossip, hatred, feuds, and all other forms of negativity. Now, though, it causes a deep resistance in your soul that you do not feel comfortable around. You would rather leave that shit and head for the exit than play along.

You are tapping into your natural gifts. Whichever gifts you suppressed, didn’t think you had time for, or didn’t think could make you money are now high on your priority list. You want to do what you came here to do and what you are truly good at, rather than playing along in a system where you can only be good at your day job.

You have recognized the abuse you have endured. You can no longer play along like you haven’t suffered on this planet. You have, you did, or you are, and anyone who tries to minimize the torment they inflicted on you is someone you want to avoid or confront. You will no longer accept poor treatment from anyone in your life, even longtime friends or family.

You have had to face your emotions head on. New emotions and old feelings alike can no longer be pushed down. They are coming up to the surface to be addressed, felt, and worked through once and for all. People around you may not understand why you feel so overwhelmed by this.

Your physical body has been purging and healing. Health problems that once plagued you likely came to a head these last few years and you have been able to reduce or resolve them through natural healing techniques or energy work. There is a chance this has happened on its own without your efforts as well.

You have released toxic relationships. Whether you purposefully chose to release toxic people, or whether they were taken away from you by the divine, you have seen a major overhaul in who you associate with, spend your time with, and enjoy being around. Anyone who doesn’t match your vibe is swiftly given the ax.

You understand your life’s story. You have begun to see how all of the challenges you have undergone served a great purpose and you have given yourself credit for how far you have come in life. You share your story freely with others in order to inspire and motivate them.

You welcome new life lessons. You understand that life is about learning and growth. In the past, these things scared you because it made life feel unstable and chaotic. At this point, you know life is but a waiting game — waiting for the next shoe to drop so you can gain more spiritual clarity and develop more character that will get you to another level of personal growth. You know as long as you work hard and have good intentions, the divine has your back.

You have started putting yourself first. In the past, you put everyone and everything above your own needs. Now you have come to see how much this drains you. You know you cannot pour from an empty cup and work hard to meet your own needs so that you are not physically and emotionally depleted.

You are being drawn to metaphysics and other spiritual information and practices. You have started questioning your entire belief system, what it means to be alive on planet earth, and how you choose to honor your existence here. You read books, blogs, listen to podcasts, and follow people on social media who are sharing spiritual information on this wavelength. You have a thirst for this kind of knowledge because you know there is more.

You have met a divine partner. Twin flame, soulmate — call it what you will. There is a good chance you have felt an otherworldly connection with someone you have already met. The purpose of these relationships is to resolve karma and learn life lessons at an accelerated rate. Whether or not you actually end up with this person in a romantic relationship is up to you — and dependent upon the soul growth both of you do. But simply meeting them is evidence of your path towards ascension.

You have learned the real meaning of self-love and acceptance. All of your insecurities have been brought up to the surface and dealt with. In the process, you learned that you are more than capable, worthy of love, and able to be loved in return. You understand that love is within you already and you don’t have to look for it externally.


Visual guide to 5D ascension – relationships & roles

3D, 5D, abuse, ascension, chakras, core wounds, empath, energy, karma, life lessons, mind-body, narcissism, past lives, relationships, stress

I decided to create a visual format for much of the information I have been sharing over the last year. The empathic collective is ascending into 5D spirituality and consciousness, which means getting out of the 3D karmic checks-and-balances, you-owe-me-something, I-deserve-to-hurt-you system and into true unconditional love. I think seeing it in one place can be helpful to integrate the information.

Once you begin to understand your role and relationships from a higher, metaphysical place, you can see nothing is coincidence. It all happens in order to help us ascend. Please know, many in the spiritual and metaphysical community refer to your true life partner and other half as your twin flame. Because of my own soulmate spark in the eye experience that launched me into my own ascension process, I reject that and instead refer to a soulmate as your true life partner. But keep in mind that the term doesn’t matter so much — it’s the meaning behind these relationships that matters and that helps us ascend. We chose certain relationships in this incarnation and others in order to be able to resolve our karmic debt, en mass as a collective, in order to change the frequency of the planet into 5D Christ-consciousness. As such, you can flip the terms around if you need.

If you are interested in reading more, please see these posts:

The real differences between twin flames and soulmates

Your twin flames are your karmic roadmap

How to spiritually ascend

The effects of twin flame relationships on children

Understanding karmic storylines

Understanding abuse from a 5D perspective

How to switch from 3D to 5D timelines

How to become a multi-dimensional being

Narcissism is true spiritual warfare

Empath subcategory type 1: Indigos

Empath subcategory type 2: Rainbows

Karmic relationship trap: “mutual enemies”

5D, ascension, core wounds, empath, karma, life lessons, past lives, relationships, stress

Unhealthy relationships can be called many names: twin flames, soulmates, karmics, karmic partners. As I always say, the term you use and what you call it doesn’t really matter. I generally refer to twin flames as your genuine karmic partners but you can have karma with anyone — even your soulmate. (Many in the spiritual community refer to twin flames as your true life partner, but I reject that, so just FYI). These relationships can take the form of romantic partners, family, friends, and business associates.

The dynamics in these relationships vary but they often have a few things in common: they start in a fiery frenzy, you sweep issues under the rug, you can’t communicate, it is as if you are speaking different languages, you have different goals, you operate differently in life, and you just can’t seem to make forward motion in order to find happiness or fulfillment in the relationship. There is generally at least one empathic person (you) having to engage with one narcissistic person, plus a whole bunch of people who are neither empathic or narcissistic but have a sort of spiritual amnesia where they follow the crowd. In these situations, there is always another fire to put out, always another fight to be had, another miscommunication around the corner, and a deep prevailing sense of turmoil, stress, or loneliness because you know you two just aren’t on the same wavelength.

Karmic relationships are not meant to last forever. They are meant to teach you a lesson about something in life. They are meant to bring up your core wounds so that you can recognize and resolve them. Once the lesson is understood and you begin to heal the wound, the relationship will no longer resonate because you are ascending spiritually. The problem is that most empathic people work hard to maintain relationships with anyone and everyone — whether they are healthy for you or not. We want people to like us and see our good nature, and we want to give people the benefit of the doubt. We hate having to cut people off and tell them no. We hate having to assert boundaries and put ourselves first. Unfortunately, this ends up draining your energy, keeping you in stress cycles, and never able to get forward in life in order to truly self-actualize.

Karmic partners do not have enough in common to keep them together organically. Sure, at first you may experience a sense of excitement because you seem to share one or two things in common (aka: traits or patterns from past lives). So you allow this to cement the relationship as if you were truly connected. But as time goes on, you begin to see how different you are on a basic level and it begins to cause you both upset. One or both of you work hard to keep the connection going on a superficial level. Mutual enemies are one of the ways this is done.

One of the biggest ways to recognize if you are in a karmic relationship is this: do you only get along when you have a mutual enemy? In other words, can you only bond or become closer when there is some kind of perceived external threat? Do you only come together under duress and stress? If this is the case, there is not enough connection to keep the relationship strong and steady because once the “threat” is gone, there is little to nothing left in common. This can manifest as gossip as the only way you and your “friend” connect, family problems that bring you and your partner close and then the distance grows once the problem is no longer relevant, and (business or romance) competition that is fleeting.

Take an inventory of your relationships. Can you bond and grow closer organically or do you only seem to have something in common when something external is coming at the relationship? That’s a great way to determine if it is in fact karmic rather than from the soul.