Your twin flames are your karmic road map

3D, 5D, ascension, chakras, core wounds, empath, energy, intuition, karma, mind-body, narcissism, past lives, relationships, stress

In case no one has told you: we are all here to resolve our karmic debt. To absolve it, to work through it, to right the wrongs, to change the age-old script — to finally fucking do something new and healthy. The karmic system is crumbling, as we have witnessed over the last few years. Skeletons are coming out of closets, victims are spilling the secrets, and small steps towards societal change are coming about. “Yes, finally!” you may think. But before the world can step into 5D awareness, the greater empathic collective must resolve our own personal karma. It is a monumental feat but we are up for it.

Navigating your own karma can feel impossible at times because it is the old “can’t see the forest for the trees” scenario. When life is throwing you all sorts of curve balls, you wonder which direction to take, what is true, and how to see the reality in a world of projections and distractions. I can read your karma based on the situations you are in. It’s not hard to find, to a trained eye. Karma presents itself in the form of triggers, wounds, conflict, worst fears, anxieties, and, well, other people. Twin flames are our biggest source of karma.

If you want to figure out what your karma is in order to resolve it, begin by identifying the people who are surrounding you. Truly, they are your best road map. There will be people you know whom you have no past life karma with and that is great. These relationships will feel easy, light, and you will be allowed to be your true self (and vice versa). However, there will be many others whom you have known before in incarnation after incarnation, with whom you shared varying roles but the underlying energy was always the same. In fact, the underlying energy gets worse as lifetimes of unresolved conflict build up on your soul.

What that means is that any karmic partners you are currently in relationship with (or those with whom you have gone your separate ways) are a big red bullseye as to your karmic debt. Ding, ding, ding. They’re giving you the way out of the karmic system in order to get into your true soul’s path and purpose without the indebtedness and constant drama. But because they tend to trigger us so much, we get caught in stress cycles instead of doing something about it. Despite the hurt they inflict, despite the wounding, they are giving you the way home. Listen, watch, and feel for the clues.

Here’s how to read your karmic map in relationships:

How does this person trigger you on a subconscious level? (Ie: I always feel powerless around them, I feel anxious around them, I can’t trust them, they always throw me under the bus, they are not open to me, etc). Your conscious mind may not be aware of these things but when they do something that upsets you, ask yourself why on a deeper level. It’s not just about the present circumstance (like, for example, they said something nasty to you). It is about the deeper underlying energy (they make you feel less than in their presence).

How does your body react around them? Based on unresolved wounds from past lifetimes, you will tense your body in certain ways to compensate for the stress of the relationship. Do you always feel a certain way around them (stomach aches, sweating, shakiness, etc)? This will likely get worse over time as issues remain unresolved.

What do they tell you you need to change about yourself? No one likes to hear that we are imperfect and need to change. But a twin flame or karmic partner is going to go out of their way to try to change you. This is unhealthy when they are forcing it on you or not accepting you for who you presently are. However, despite the pain they inflict, there is sometimes an element of truth in what they say. Take a deep look at yourself and ask if there is even a grain of truth in what they say. If so, don’t react to what they say but begin the personal work to cultivate your strengths and let go of any perceived weaknesses.

What would you need to do to make the relationship better? What is being swept under the rug that finally needs to be addressed? That is the karma. And the reason why it is being swept under the rug is because if it were to be addressed, it would require a huge effort to correct it. Stop ignoring what needs to come up. Face it once and for all, then try to right the wrongs.

What or whom does the group remind you of? You can have one twin flame or many. Whether you call these people twin flames or karmic partners doesn’t really matter. If you begin to see them on a soul level, who or what do they remind you of? Sure, it may be a group of people at your work you are facing challenges with but do their energy and intention, interests, or behaviors seem more like they are from another place or time? Do they seem more like a group of religious fundamentalists? Do they seem more like mothers rather than men? Do they feel like siblings? Your present roles mean very little, while their energy can tap you into who you were in past lifetimes.

When it comes to your karma, follow the clues and cues. The answers are all around you.


How to become a multi-dimensional being

3D, 5D, ascension, chakras, core wounds, empath, energy, intuition, karma, mind-body, past lives, relationships, stress

We’ve entered the Age of Aquarius. It’s been written about, sung about, and foretold. It’s an era of taking off the masks, righting the wrongs, and pursuing revolution. It’s weird, eccentric, and raw. It is honest and requires a connectivity — within ourselves, the world, and experiences — like no other. It is getting to the heart of the matter and no longer pretending or glossing over. It is a time of innovation, for natural genius to rise, and a great big karmic reckoning. I hope you’re as excited about it as I am.

In this age, the old systems we have been indoctrinated into, the falsehoods and standardization will — and are — coming crashing down. It is a chance to access your true soul nature, rather than play the part others have written you into. You are a divine being having a physical experience and while we have long been talked out of this truth, it is rising. You are being asked to follow your soul’s longings rather than what societal demands have expected from you thus far. The role you have been playing is but a crumb compared to who you really are.

This time will allow and in fact, demand of you, to become your true self rather than “just the mom”, “just the employee”, “just the realtor”, “just the child”, just the… whatever. You are not your role and while we once identified as the person with the job, the family, the income level, the education level, the activities, the religion, the age, the community — you are so much more.

Becoming a multi-dimensional being means you accept all that you are, all that you have been, and all you are capable of becoming. It means you stop identifying with the 3D external factors and start seeing yourself as a soul who always was and always will be. It means integrating all of the experiences your soul has had and no longer defining yourself by the bad things or good things but by seeing everything was but a lesson that aided in your soul’s growth. Accepting that you are multi-dimensional also means you recognize all of your skills and talents and put them to use, rather than focusing on one or another. You are all of it. And if you want to be able to cope in the age of the eccentric, soulful revolutionary, you must finally accept and integrate your soul.

How to become a multi-dimensional being:

Allow 3D and 5D timelines to collide. As I have written about before, we are being asked to stop clinging to the 3D timelines that tell us we have to accomplish certain things before a certain age, before the next bill is due, before the holidays come, and by the time our ego or others demand. The divine is in control and we can no longer expect anything to happen by a certain time frame. Allowing the 3D and 5D timelines to collide means that you will no longer be surprised when past life lessons, wounds, people, or situations enter your present moment. This can come in the form of intuitive messages, dreams, gut reactions, feelings of deja vu, synchronicities, and meetings with certain strangers or people we already know. Yes, you have been here before, done this before, and you have known them before. Don’t be startled. Do not question, “is what I am feeling or seeing real? Can I trust myself?” The divine is trying it’s damnedest to assist you. Let it.

Remember who you were in past lives. Who you are today — your health, your habits, your likes and dislikes, your talents, and your wounds are all a reflection of past cycles that were never acknowledged. You don’t consciously know you have been here before but your soul does. First, you must identify the karma. Then you must resolve the karma in the situations you are in so you can finally move forward into your true life’s purpose rather than being dragged down by karma, stress, problems, and indebtedness. You are all of it.

Stop identifying with your physical body. You are a soul who has a body, not the other way around. Your weight, how you look naked, the wrinkles and fine lines — they mean nothing when it comes to the strength and beauty of your soul. Stop judging and punishing your body. Stop expecting it to be something other than what it is. Yes, pursuing good health is worth it and virtuous. But the shame, fear, and anxiety that attachment to our physical form produces is not worth it. Society may be disappointed when you don’t look a certain way but the divine does not give two shits if you look like the model or actress. You were made to be unique and your life experiences have created the person you see in front of you. See the strength of your soul before judging if your physical form fits someone else’s mold.

Access your gifts and pursue them. Your talents are not a mistake. We have been told to accept one or two of our talents and pursue them. We are standardized, sent to school to pick a specialty, told to pick the one route and show only that one gift to the world. You have many skills you can put to use — not just one or two. Accept them all, pursue them all, and finally share them with the world — even if they are weird, different, can’t make you money, and something others do not like. Combine them and create new systems, structures, and revenue. Stop putting your soul in a box of “either, or”.

Do not hide your inner wisdom for other people’s benefit. Age is but a number and it can do serious harm when you identify with it. Your soul’s wisdom is infinite and timeless. You are not your physical age and you carry wisdom from many lifetimes on Earth. Young and old alike are wise and well-seasoned in the art of living. If you are young, speak the truth even if people call you inexperienced or silly. If you are older, speak the truth even if younger people don’t want to listen.

Open your chakras. This gets said a lot. It sounds cliche at this point. But I assure you, the chakras are real. As an energetically sensitive person, I read this on myself and others all day long. Where is the energy in your physical body and soul blocked? Where are you wounded? Do energy clearings and exercise the principle of the opposite in order to open your chakras once and for all.

Shine. Shine so fucking bright the haters will need shades. Your light has terrified you thus far because of what other people will think. You hid it, dimmed, and became a lessened version of yourself so they wouldn’t be intimidated. So you wouldn’t be called names. So you would be liked. Stop this shit right here and now. You are a product of the divine and hiding this light will only keep you stressed and sick. Hiding this light will not bring about personal or societal change. Let them talk. Let them wonder what it is about you. Let them invest in some high-quality sunglasses. Get rid of the energy vampires, they’re only holding you back. The time is now.

The empathetic energy vampires

3D, 5D, ascension, chakras, empath, energy, intuition, karma, mind-body, narcissism, relationships, stress

Energy, QI, life force, kundalini. Call it what you will but know that we are all energetic beings, divine in nature, lit with some heavenly spark, having a physical experience for our own personal reasons. Over time, and after dulling experiences, the spark becomes more dim, less bright, and altogether hidden. The trick to working the karmic system in your favor is to face your karma head on while not losing your energy. It is a game, a match of chess, and strategic planning is required to both resolve your karmic debt and not go energetically bankrupt in the process. Choosing just one or the other won’t work — you need to do both to beat the system.

There are certain personality types who zap energy from others — because they cannot generate energy themselves (they haven’t learned how to so they get a “feel good” peptide high off of negativity) and because they feel powerful when they steal it and leave others in the “red”. I’ve spoken before about the empathic vs. narcissistic spectrum. There exists a range or scale of sorts that helps us understand the people around us and their natural energetic “temperament”, if you will. On the far left side of the spectrum are empathic or highly sensitive people who posses a good heart and good intention (they don’t have to be shy or lack confidence but I think of these people as meek). On the far right side of the spectrum are narcissistic personalities who thrive on invoking harm, chaos, and pain in others. Somewhere in the middle of the range are people who are not empathic but also not deviant or altogether toxic. We are all on varying degrees of this spectrum and this will also change over time as we learn our life lessons.

To the far left of this scale are the (empathic) people who were never taught how to protect their own energy. It has always been stolen, usurped, and forced into hiding. This leaves them feeling powerless in their lives, emotions, and bodies because their energy has not been encouraged to expand and be exposed for appreciation. To the far right are the people who have trained their neural pathways to thrive on energy stealing, power taking, and oppression. They create devious scenarios that invoke fear, shame, resentment, anger, and confusion to trap empaths in cyclical stress cycles that they can then siphon. In working with enough empathic clients over the years, I can spot these patterns immediately and know that unless something is done about it, it will leave the empathic client feeling sick, stressed, and drained. But there is another element to the energy vampire phenomenon that, once you learn about, will come in very handy when learning to identify and avoid these people’s tactics. The secret is: they lay traps.

Empathic people are attracted to beautiful things. They love love, art, happiness, joy, togetherness, nature, spirituality or religion, philosophy, music, smiles, laughs, and well, good energy. An empathic person may not look around a room to see who all has entered but they know who is there based on how the people around them make them feel. They know beauty when they feel it and they are attracted to things like them: things with good energy.

One would think a narcissistic person or energy vampire would only seem negative, horrible, and mean from the exterior. But these people have learned to become beautiful, at least for a time — to project a good energy, to seem empathetic, caring, and kind, just long enough to rope you in. Once an empath has been roped in, it is highly unlikely they will be able to overcome the cognitive dissonance that ensues (without any help, that is). It’s a matter of “this person’s energy felt good at first but now they don’t treat me well, or they make me feel drained in their presence. It must be my interpretation. They must still be a good person.” How many times have you had that experience? My guess is many.

I’ll give you an example. A few years ago I was in a non-work-related meeting with about twenty other people. A long-time friend came and sat down next to me. We had known each other for some time and while we weren’t super close, our families were and I felt she was someone I could trust. We had shared conversations, food, and our kids played together often. She was fun, talkative, and helpful, so I downplayed that she was also judgmental, inserted herself into my relationship at times, and never seemed to listen to me when we spoke. I also had to affirm her reality — nodding in agreement with everything she said and if I expressed any difference of opinion, she acted more like a disapproving parent or judge and jury rather than open friend. She was both things at once and I had never realized I needed to reconcile this. I had pushed the bad things into my subconscious mind while I played up the good. I had never admitted to myself how I truly felt around her.

In the room full of empty seats, she sat down next to me and looked at me and nodded, while I smiled at her and said hello. Then she bowed down to her phone, staring at it for a good 15 minutes without saying a word. As she sat next to me, I began to feel the energetic power struggle. She wanted to take and I did not feel good about giving but felt I had no option. I had always given to her, why and how would I stop now? The problem was, I was already very sick and didn’t have any energy to give. She didn’t “ask” permission, but she zapped me and when she walked away without saying a word. I felt powerless, used, and like a dead battery. “She just recharged herself” I thought. I was just coming into my empathic abilities at that time so I wasn’t even sure what this meant but I knew I was suddenly so drained and stressed while she sat next to me. It’s about the subconscious power struggles.

You see, when it comes to energy, empathic people expect a give and take, a please and thank you, a “does this work for you too?”. It surprises us when people just do as they please without an energetic compromise of sorts. If you want to take something, you ask first, then wait for the answer. If the answer is no, you respect it. This comes naturally to an empath. If you’re not energetically sensitive, it will be hard to understand how someone could feel this without imaging it. But if you are empathic, you will know exactly what I mean. You feel you must oblige someone else’s energy demands. You give, they receive. You feel used in the presence of certain others — as if they were taking without asking. That’s because they are.

In that example, the “beauty” of my friend caused me to overlook her energy vamping because I was in too much cognitive dissonance about what was happening. I wanted to like her but I subconsciously felt powerless around her. Only when I reconciled how I truly felt in her presence could I see the beauty was not enough to make me stick around. The beauty was a facade that keep me close as a battery charger for her.

In many cases, the “beautiful” thing is that energy vampires can actually present as highly empathic people. As an empath your initial reaction will be, “Yay! Someone like me” and you will feel drawn in. In my experience, they also tend to be highly intuitive (though as I have written about before, they are utilizing a malignant intuition — one that relies on groupthink, gossip, worst case scenarios, assumption, etc, rather than inspiration from their soul or higher power). Once you are reeled into the idea that they are like you, you will gladly give up loads of free energy to them. You will invest time, effort, and love. You will give without asking in return because you assume that one day they will do the same for you — except that day never comes.

It is sometimes difficult to navigate who in your life is an energy vampire and who is not. A good rule of thumb is: if you ghost them or cut them off, do they go crazy? Do they try to pull you in deeper with attachment, or stress? If so, no matter how empathetic they appear, they may in fact be siphoning your life force. With trial and error, and greater development of your intuitive abilities, you will be able to spot even the most sly of vamps. I promise you.