Dealing with the reality police

I’ve written before about how court proceedings are a necessary step towards humanity collectively resolving their karmic debt in this Age of Aquarius, as well as the implications of the scandals and fraud that have been coming to light in the last few years for both laypeople and the rich and famous alike. Not only do narcissists need to be brought to court to expose their devious deeds, but also chances are, if you are empath, they will drag you to court in an attempt to bully, control, and smear you so that they maintain an image of “purity” and so that you become their proverbial sacrificial lamb. They will attempt to prove your soul, actions, and beliefs wrong by way of the highest form of groupthink in the land: the court system.

Laws are necessary when people cannot self-regulate according to universal truths. An ethical and moral person instinctively understands right from wrong and therefore, will abide by such principles whether or not a law is in place. This is because they posses empathy; i.e.: “If I wouldn’t want it done to me, I shouldn’t do it to you.” Narcissists and sociopaths, on the other hand, find ways to get around the law so that their dirty deeds are obfuscated by legalese and interpretation. It’s easy to get around the law if one has enough clout, money, or penchant for lying and acting; or if one has a well-trained lawyer, versed in “alternative” legal interpretation working on their behalf.

While we expect the court to perceive the truth in a given situation, we find time and time again that since both sides have a stake in the outcome, truth is often nowhere to be found. The guilty are exonerated, the innocent are found guilty, the sentencing doesn’t fit the crime, judges are manipulated or selected for their loyalties, and on and on. Overall, there is no universal truth to be found, even in the system presiding over all human reality. Think about it for a bit and perhaps you will begin to see this is the case, despite the belief system to the contrary that is continually reinforced.

See, a primary function of the legal system is in fact to enforce a very narrow groupthink consensus on reality, rather than explore all options and truth related to said reality. According to this strict dogma, reality is already set in stone and further exploration or discoveries must always be written off as delusional, insane, or out of touch. Even if you have had the luxury of never being taken to court — or having to take someone else — this is meaningful for you too. This is because the ego that gets implanted into each one of us as babies or children stems from the overarching “normative” reality that everyone around you has come to accept as, well, normal.

In other words, your ego is not only a result of your wounding, your parents’ or caregivers’ wounding, but also the reality that is considered normal on earth. This is a reality that is skewed in favor of a chosen few, a few who they themselves do not abide by the rules or laws, but find ways around them. You are required to live up to certain standards that narcissists and sociopaths do not. This is not to say that you wish to break laws. It is simply to illustrate the double standards that exist within this reality that, upon being born into, one accepts as normal and does not question.

Once you begin to notice and question this reality, you will be sent to court — whether literally or proverbially (put up on the social or financial chopping block) — to elicit certain responses. First, you will be sent into fear. Is your version of events accurate and if so, how do you even prove the truth when you were not expecting to have to do so? You perpetrator was already collecting evidence because they knew they were in the wrong and would need evidence to the contrary to present. They were prepared but you are not. Secondly, you will be sent into a shame response. You must be guilty, bad or wrong if you’re being taken to court in the first place, or otherwise have to engage in a legal battle, and the shame transposed onto you by way of friends, family, or business associates is often too great for one to bear. In court, you will have to explain every detail of your thought process and you will need proof to back it up. You may be put through lines of questioning and intentional mind games so that the other side can find you faulty. You begin to question yourself, for yourself. Your reality becomes deluded with doubt, despite you knowing what you did or went through — or what someone else did.

All in all, you are legally permitted to be intimidated and bullied into giving up your version of events and reality in order to succumb to pressure from the dissenting side. Indeed, that is their entire goal. They want you pushed back into the groupthink, into the hands of the reality police, because forgoing the groupthink is so damn difficult and few safely do it. We must question why new truths are not welcomed and fairly or honestly examined on planet earth. We must ask why anything not in line with the official societal story line is met with hard and fast oppression from the reality police. We must ask why freethinkers are so severely punished, as is historically the case.

You may, subconsciously, deep down, be terrified of the reality police coming for you when you start speaking from the soul. You may wonder who in your circle of friends, family, or coworkers will instantly turn their back, point fingers, smear your name, or drag you into a legal battle. You may feel your real soul is not welcomed here. Just remember this: this is an essential component to shedding your ego because it allows you to see others for who they really are. Their behavior at the admission of your soul will tell you everything you need to know about the people surrounding you. It will force your blinders off, once and for all.

And also, this:

“Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness’ sake,
For theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are you when they revile and persecute you, and say all kinds of evil against you falsely for My sake. Rejoice and be exceedingly glad, for great is your reward in heaven, for so they persecuted the prophets who were before you.”

The 3 types of spiritual bonds between parents and children

Here’s a secret you likely haven’t heard before: the family you were born into may or may not be spiritually related to you. Once you understand this truth, you can begin to put the pieces of your life experiences — and wounding — together at a rapid rate. You can begin to see why, despite being born to certain people, you have never quite meshed, gotten along, or viewed the world in the same way. You will also understand the trauma that, perhaps, was passed down to you via this family line and why overcoming it is such a challenge.

Except in cases of formal or informal adoption, you will, yes, be biologically related to the family you were born into but you may not be related to these people beyond the physical plane. Though these things will also be true for those adopted, the difference, of course, is that these truths exist solely in the spiritual plane rather than a mixture of physical and spiritual and physical karmic bonds may be more difficult to trace back (especially in the case of closed adoptions). Or, it may become more clear that the caregivers who adopted you are in fact your spiritual relatives despite not being blood related, which can ease some pain and heartache that is sometimes associated with adoption.

If you were born already knowing who your parents are, however, it may be much easier to identify the discrepancies between what you have been taught is normal and what you actually experienced as a child. You may see why the “love” that you were given was a manufactured, cheap copycat of what real love is, and therefore, be able to find your way back to your soul origins and true purpose here much faster.

The 3 types of spiritual bonds between parents and children:

  1. Children who are not related to their parents karmically or dharmically. These are the kids who in no way, shape, or form model their parents behavior, line of thinking, social or religious ideals, and sometimes even their appearances. They genuinely seem like they were dropped from the sky, a stranger living in a strange land and often forgo any ancestral expectations about who they are and whom they should become. In a sea of conformity, they are the ones who forge ahead on their own path and don’t care much about what their family members think of it. They are the ones who seem to “break the mold” and share almost nothing in common with their family of origin. They may go on to pursue their talents and desires much to the chagrin of their family and follow no preexisting expectations on their existence. Because there are no past-life karmic bonds holding them back, they do not feel compelled to appease their parents, grandparents, siblings, or aunts and uncles. They are free to truly be themselves despite any judgment or punishment in the here and now. They typically have a deep sense of who they are and are able to compare and contrast how they were raised, who those around them choose to be, and who they feel they are inside their soul. They see the karma all around them, as evidenced in how other family members are treating each other, and want nothing to do with it. Because there exists such a huge discrepancy between who this child is and the people and environment in which they were raised, they are able to make peace with their uniqueness and pursue it in the world relatively unaffected. In other words, they pursue their own dharma earlier in life and have little holding them back. They generally do not desire nor require the affirmation from family that they are on the “right” path.
  2. Children who are products of twin flame relationships, and therefore share a karmic bonD WITH RELATIVES. These are the family dynamics that sometimes look very messy on the surface. The family is rife with feuds, scandals, gossip, and pain. Other times, the trauma, wounding, and abuse is hidden beneath the facade of happiness because everyone is playing their assigned role so well in order to avoid unpleasant truths from rising. Being born to twin flame parents means you have two very different sides of the self. One is who you actually are and one is who you have inherited or been forced to become. The self becomes a dirty little secret because it does not fit in with your parents’ beliefs or expectations. Also, if your real self were to rise up, it would elicit a loss of control within relationships, by way of karma being exposed. In other words, these children inherit their parents’ wounding, and their parents’ before them, and on and on. Additionally, these feuds and pain cycles extend beyond the immediately family most often and affect all members of the extended family. In past lives, you were not the current roles you find yourself in now but did share adverse experiences that were never resolved. Because, most likely, no one has ever known to — or wanted to — break the cycles of karmic debt, children inherit all of their parents chakra wounding and ancestral baggage. This can include ancestral baggage related to money, sex, love, fear and stress, free thought and free speech, and more. It is as if you must become just like your parents because if you do not, you would expose their wounding and make them uncomfortable. Therefore, children become the products of their parents arguments, power plays, and deception. Overcoming this wounding is of course possible (as I detail in great depth in my book How to Become Intuitive), but it is not fun nor easy and it will completely disrupt the karmic relationships you have been born into because it will expose the dysfunction everyone assumed was normal.
  3. Children who are born to soulmates and therefore are fully integrated spiritually and share a dharmic bond. These are the children that will begin to be born in the next few years as the masculine and feminine integrate themselves and finally resolve their karmic debt. While they have been born in previous generations, we will see a sudden influx as their parents now understand and feel compelled to ascend. They are the true spiritual descendants of two fully conscious, fifth-dimensional beings who have learned their past and present life lessons and activated their chakras. Theses kids will be given one masculine source and one feminine source from divine parents who have overcome the 3D matrix prison system. In contrast with twin flame children who are only given one “source” (aka energy or spark of life), they will have two which is the true vibration and frequency of the harmony and duality of the divine. They will not only remember what source energy feels like, they will be source energy. Because of this, these children will not experience the same degree of hardship and trauma that is considered normal on planet earth. While they will still be born into a “fallen” reality, they will be, at birth, set apart from it, knowing their worth and value, and understanding they do not need to engage in it because they lack nothing. They will come into the world understanding their supernatural origins, and begin pursuing their dharma — or, true and fortunate life path — from the earliest age. They will contribute great gifts to humanity and be considered an essential and ingenious tool for helping humanity to ascend.

Stages of development of the female intuition, part 1: the early years

As a woman and a mother to a little girl, and a coach whose client base has been comprised of women 98% of the time over the last eight years, I can only speak to what I know: females. I know there are a good number of men who follow this blog, or who have worked with me a few times over the years and while this won’t apply to you directly, please still take a read and use it to your advantage to understand the ladies in your life. It is my firm belief that all children are born highly sensitive and highly empathic, but society talks them out of this. As such, they need you to “get” this just as much as they need to get it for themselves. Without a tag-team effort, we’ll continue to bring up girls who are sheepish, disconnected, ignorant to the abuses around them, don’t trust themselves, act out, or go through life disillusioned and distrusting. The problem isn’t them — it is what they have been told about what they observe and how much to trust their reactions to it (and how much punishment they receive as a result).

The feminine intuition is a wild beast, much like a horse, that starts out carefree, unrestrained, and observant of every movement, touch, and tone of voice. The wind moves a certain direction and she feels it. The grass shuffles a certain way and she hears it. A stranger approaches and she reads his energy to discern if he is trustworthy or not. Anything that could impede on her freedom is swiftly run from. Over time, though, this “animal” becomes trained in the ways of others for sheer survival or necessity. It doesn’t want to be tamed, but it does so because it has been tricked — roped and walked into fences and gated pastures where certain “benefits” are offered. “This will be good for you”, “look what I can give you”, it is told. It has been told it’s own spirit cannot be trusted — at least not fully — so it takes commands from those who say they know what they are doing. After a while, it believes others more than it believes the callings of its own soul. And this is, partly, what has landed us where we are now. Women have been talked out of their instinctual needs and reactions.

I was a first-time mom when my daughter was born over six years ago. I had no idea what I was doing in labor, in birth, in breastfeeding, and in caring for a new child. Everything I learned from my midwife, birthing videos, books about parenting, and even my education degree and years as a teacher could never have prepared me for the reality (and I definitely did try to prepare myself). Becoming a mother was my first initiation into intuition because, despite what any book told me, my own baby gave me every indication of what she actually needed at a moment’s notice. Her cries and their varying tones, her smiles and babbles and their causes, her likes and dislikes, her need to be at my side for damn well three years was contradictory to everything I had read in books written by professionals. I began to trust her just as much as I began to trust my reactions to her.

When she was born, I saw a wisdom behind my newborn daughters eyes; a wisdom I had never seen before. A wisdom that comes from something that had just been in touch with the divine and was yet untainted by any imposed ego. She didn’t just look at me, she looked through me and judged or questioned the things I was doing. I could see her trying to make sense of it. I could see her discerning whether she could trust. She wasn’t just fascinated by movement or speech, she was fascinated by intention. I wanted more than anything to prove to her that my intention was good.

I raised her the way I would have wanted to be raised. I exhausted myself to meet her needs, not because she demanded it, but because I knew if I broke her trust and showed her too early that the world was not a safe place, she would not consider me safe either. I wanted her to believe in her own needs and put them first, even when every book I scanned told me to put her on a schedule to meet my own. I wanted her to learn through experience and collaboration, not just because I said so.

What I have observed over the years, both from her, others, and myself, is that the female intuition largely begins developing around age six. The first six years are an amalgamation of input that the child begins processing and trying to translate: what is trustworthy and what is not? What can be expected out of life and others? Who makes her feel good? Who listens? Who believes? Who imposes or forces? Who takes her seriously? Who sacrifices of themselves to help her? She begins keeping a record though even she isn’t aware of this.

Around age six, cognitive dissonance begins to creep in which leaves the girl questioning deeper realities. Now she begins to understand there is not one side to the coin, but there are two: are they saying one thing but doing another? Are they telling the truth? Why do people treat her in certain ways? What does she deserve? No one has told her to question her sense of reality. In fact, she likely has been told what life is, what to believe, who to be, and how to act from day one. Regardless of the indoctrination, she secretly begins questioning and seeing duality or polarity. She may ask you outright questions about how things work, why things are the way that they are, and how come this or how come that. She seeks truthful answers and will quietly note any signs of falsehoods — or perhaps even delve into further lines of questioning if she feels you are sugarcoating or glossing over something important.

If the cognitive dissonance becomes too great to bear (if she becomes confused about the truth or feels she cannot trust her caregivers), the child will begin acting out in anger, frustration or resentment. Based on the dualities of what she has observed, she is keeping too much a secret at this point and you will need to find ways to gently draw out her confusion to help her gain clarity; to help her find a way back to her soul amidst the confusion. This means creating a safe space when she is relaxed and not distracted to figure out the source of the anger or frustration. Do not ask the question you want an answer to directly; ask around the question, so to speak, and once she feels it is safe, she will lead you to the question or problem herself. The way to earn her trust is to do this gently and to make a point to do it. If no one recognizes her frustrations and tries to help, she will go deeper into anger or hiding because she will feel you are not like her; that you are not empathic or trustworthy. And if you outright ask her for the source of the problem, she may feel too ashamed to even admit to it and pretend nothing is wrong (because she will feel guilty for questioning in the first place). She is smarter than you or she realizes.

It is important to take these things seriously when she is at a young age. Without doing so, the teen years (the sequel to this blog that I’ll write soon) will become chaotic and toxic. If she has not learned anyone can be trusted to tell her the truth, she will certainly not trust you when real life problems present themselves as a confused adolescent. The resentment will keep building over the years and explode when she is hormonal and stepping into her power as a young woman. Earn her trust now by honoring her instinctive needs, her questions, and her feelings with the truth, with help, and with recognition. Teach her she is right about things and can be trusted as well as trust her caregivers.