The empaths who can’t emote

3D, 5D, abuse, brain, children, core wounds, ego, empath, energy, intuition, mind-body, narcissism, stress, Uncategorized

First, an announcement. I wrote a book. A book full of invaluable information for you that will be published in the next few months. It’s called How To Become Intuitive. As soon as this current editing stage is done with the publishing company, I’ll be sharing pieces of it here on my blog. The knowledge contained in it is so vast and complex but essentially, it’s a guide to trusting your first instinct, why you/humanity hasn’t thus far, and how to tap back into your logical and mystical intuition once more in order to spiritually ascend — and the reality of what happens when you do. I explain how I once was an agnostic using my intuition for “second opinion” approaches with nutrition and my client’s physical health, and how a silent vow to the sky landed me in a world full of metaphysics, chakras, past lives, and supernatural experiences. My ego was dying and I began to see the world for what it really is, beyond the veil of falsehood. Through experience, I learned the words of the great ascended masters are true and everything they tried to teach us so long ago is still applicable — integral, in fact — to our daily lives. I learned that truth is truly stranger than fiction. As I say in my book, it wasn’t something I necessarily wanted to publish — it was something I needed to publish. I will be opening up pre-orders soon. Thank you for your support in advance. <3

Now, onto the empaths who can’t emote.

I have written before about strange adaptive methods empaths adopt, including The Empaths Who Act Like Narcissists. You can think of all human beings as possessing two separate operating systems. One is the subconscious mind which houses our real selves and true vibrational operating system. The other is the ego, the false persona we are forced into — or find our way into on our own — in order to be liked, successful, and never have to confront our own wounding. Most people operate out of either the ego or a mixture of both. Empaths, however, may take on an ego but it never truly feels like home. So a person can be born an empath, have a soul vibration of empathy, and yet act entirely narcissistic because of adverse experiences. It’s like they’re hiding their scared inner child.

Recently I have come across another kind of empath adaptation that is much harder to spot. These are the empaths who can’t presently emote. In other words, the hallmark sign of an empath is the level of emotion they release as an energetic frequency. That doesn’t mean these people are always crying and sad. It means they’re adept and have the inherent skill for turning a thing (intention, feeling, experience, expectation) into an invisible energy they then project as their own. They transmute and/or they translate a thing into an energy, an energy into a meaning, a meaning into an understanding. The empaths who can’t emote, though, lack the emotional programming in order to feel such feelings at all.

Typically, an empath’s emoting is directed inwards but ends up leaking outwards because empaths (until they are aware, at least) do not know how to stop leaking energy. This means an empath’s personal emotions will be leaked, how they feel about others and external circumstances will be leaked, how others are feeling will be leaked, how they feel about others leaks, and they will leak when others flat out ask or subconsciously demand it of them. This is because an empath’s subconscious mind is their natural state and this part of the brain is where authentic feelings are housed. Simply put, they leak vibrational frequencies all day long in response to what has happened in the past, what is presently happening, or who they or others are on a soul level.

The empaths who cannot emote (let’s call them ECE’s for short), on the other hand, share some similar characteristics. First they were either neglected as children, received no love or emotional nurturing, were otherwise abused, or shut down due to another trigger as they went on in life. They stopped feeling or never learned how to in the first place. Sometimes it presents in the form of pain in the body but cluelessness regarding their own emotional pain (aka: “I’m fine. I don’t think I have any trauma” despite having tons). It can also manifest as someone who feels apathetic but wishes they didn’t. Or in some cases it’s the person who wants a better life for themselves but feels a literal blank spot in their mind like they’ve blacked out certain memories which they therefore cannot access or feel.

The difference between these people and narcissists or sociopaths is that the ECE’s still possess compassion, still give love, and still on some level desire to work through their pain. They are OPEN to the idea of personal development, change, and correcting their thoughts or behavioral patterns. They also have a fair perspective of others and do not actively work to harm. They want to change, they just don’t see how they can. They want to feel, they just don’t remember what it’s like to do so. In other words, they don’t want to be in denial but aren’t sure how or why to get out of it.

In the past I may have considered these people somewhere on the middle of the empath to narcissist spectrum; not narcissistic but not highly sensitive. Now though, I see these people are a severe manifestation of abuse. In fact, as an Intuitive, ECE’S are the hardest people for me to “read” because it’s not enough for me to listen to what a person is telling me or observe how they are acting — I also have to read their energy for the truth. Naturally, ECE’S cannot presently emote so these tend to be my most difficult cases. Even they themselves do not know how they feel.

There is hope for ECE’S, though. Reversing this phenomenon requires a person tap back into their divine feminine energy (aka subconscious mind) in order to begin expressing emotion without fear. They typically operate from a purely logical mindset in which they fit into the toxic masculine system quite well as left-brained reasoners rather than right-brained spontaneous feelers. They must admit to their suppressed emotions and actually, actively make a point to feel them whenever and wherever they arise. Balancing these two aspects of the self and no longer being ashamed of the “irrational” feeling self is essential for healing.

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When narcissists write history, we must accept nothing as truth

3D, 5D, abuse, ascension, brain, ego, empath, energy, intuition, karma, narcissism, relationships, stress

We’ve all heard it: “History is written by the victors”. In other words, when recording events between peoples, nations, and species, objectivity is rarely encouraged. There aren’t two, three, four, five hundred sides to the story — there is one: who won? Who overpowered? Who outwitted? Who controlled? Who convinced a majority of the veracity of their actions or cause? Not only are we indoctrinated into the white man’s version of history in nearly every educational discipline, we are taught to learn how the archetypal white man learns, and we are taught to think like the patriarchal system tells us to think. “Be the biggest, the best, the baddest, project innocence or a make it seem like we absolutely had to kill those people. We had to. We did it for our country. We secured our spot as top dog” and, “Be like the majority — or those who think they’re the majority. They project the energy of superiority and you want to be at the top like them.”

Projecting an heir of superiority because one group has overpowered another group, or because said group has strength in numbers is not the truth. I have said it before and I’ll say it again: groupthink is not the truth just because a majority of people believe it or enforce it. Groupthink is a tactic against the truth. Groupthink upholds the 3D karmic system so that the truth cannot be perceived or believed. Let me put it to you this way because it is seared into my psyche: I grew up in the Southern Baptist church whose leaders drilled stories about the Pharisees and Sadducees, two religious sects of Judaism common in the times of the recorded New Testament, into our worldview. These “fundamentalist” sects (as they were referred to) were in direct opposition to the truth of the gospel, we were told. The fundamentalists enforced rules and laws with no care for the truth of the human experience. Christ, on the other hand, claimed he came to overturn the laws in favor of, well, empathy and people-first principles which was immensely healing for his followers. We all know the Pharisees went on to test Christ through use of the law and encourage his crucifixion because of Christ’s radical information and otherworldly authority. He confronted death as a perceived thief, anarchist, and kook.

This meant very little to me until recently — until I saw beyond the guise of biblical teaching and saw into the cyclical patterns humans have always been engaged in. An abuse victim brings forward new information for the group to consider (“I have been abused. The person you think you know and love abused me and broke my mind, body and soul. Please help me and please rectify this situation”) only to be met with flying monkey abuse by proxy, brainwashing, and threats. “Liar, exaggerator, attention-seeking crazy person” they tell the victim. “What you think you saw, you didn’t. What you think you experienced, you didn’t. We’ll take everything away from you” they say (and they usually do). When enough people are convinced the victim cannot possibly know the truth, the truth is believed to be whatever the majority has enforced (aka: “you were not abused, and in fact, the group has been abused by your abuse claims. Instead of admitting to the abuse, we will abuse you further to prevent the truth from coming out”).

The overarching problem here is that humanity has been talked into the notion that there is no universal truth; that there cannot be one clear, distinct right and wrong separate from shifting tactics; that the truth lies in how many people believe a thing. That the truth is what the victor believes to be true because, certainly, the minority cannot know the truth — they are too “small” in comparison to the mob. If we take a step back and look at archetypal problems with recorded history, we see that only generations later do we learn that there is another story behind the official story line. That there are people oppressed, killed, and left destitute because of what the group has done to them. And that is if we are lucky. The minority by and large still has not had a chance, or a listening ear, to tell their real histories — and if they did, does anyone care to listen?

History as a noun is inherently narcissistic. As such, we cannot believe anything we have been taught at face value. We must dig deeper to uncover the other sides to the story. Because of our own indoctrination, we are lucky if we can perceive there to be at least one other side to the story, let alone hundreds. Too much information always causes a shut down of the ego. Too much data makes an egoic mind go haywire. To an ego, information must always be black and white, right and wrong in favor of the majority, no room for grey area or, ahem, empathy. Think about these things as you continue to ascend and deconstruct the recorded history of our planet. If narcissistic personalities have always recorded world event, is there anything we can trust as true? Or will it all be distortions of the truth? As such, do we really know anything about why we are here and what has transpired on Earth?

How to not give your abuser your energy forever

3D, 5D, abuse, ascension, brain, chakras, core wounds, empath, energy, hormones, karma, life lessons, mind-body, narcissism, past lives, relationships, sex, stress

I want to start off this post by saying two things: abuse is never the victim’s fault — ever — and you cannot prevent abuse. Abuse happens because perpetrators choose to abuse, bottom line, plain and simple. Abusers should posses self-control just like any other person and of course, they do not. It is not the victim’s fault that someone else lacks self-control. There was nothing you could do to make them possess self-control because that has to come from within a person.

That said, I have been through enough abuse in my life that I know this: just because someone terrorizes you does not mean you have to allow yourself to give your perp your fearful, angry, resentful, frenetic, or sad energy forever. Yes, you will be a victim when someone victimizes you. But you do not need to continue to give them your power after the abuse has transpired.

See, what I have learned is that abuse is by and large about energy. One person craves a certain form of energy (be it sex, money, codependency, attention, control) and one person has theirs usurped. In the moment of abuse, there’s not much you can do. Someone overpowers you physically, someone takes your money, takes your good name — you are legitimately a victim –there’s no way to prevent this. Because one person pursues, the other person naturally runs, fights back, or freezes. One abuser, one victim; one chaser, one runner. One in power, one with no power. Abuse itself is what puts you in the role of the victim because of the dynamics between victimizer and victim. You had no choice.

But abuse doesn’t end there. Abuse is also the mindfuck and energy drain that happens for years and years and years after. It is the subconscious fears, the new phobias, the anxiety, the depression, and possibly, suicidal thoughts. Abuse is being scared to answer your door, answer your phone, go to the grocery store because everything reminds you of that terrible thing that happened. It is a mental prison that often becomes a physical prison. It is never knowing who to trust and being unable to relax and remain comfortable even in non-threatening scenarios because your brain, hormones, and nervous system have been rewired.

After abuse has transpired, continuing to think of yourself as this person’s victim is what continues to give them power even when they are no longer a threat. Continuing to think of yourself as beneath them is what makes you their eternal victim and makes them eternally powerful. This is exactly what an abuser wants. And that is ultimately why they abuse in the first place. This is one reason I wrote the blog post Understanding Abuse From A 5D Perspective, FYI. An abuser wants your energy forever and ever. They want you to think of them, think of the horrible things they’ve done to you, think of the ways they took your power, the ways you were forced to bow down to them. They live for this. They get off on it. Because when you reflect back to those moments, they are sent energetic food. This is what gives them fuel to keep going. They want you to be an energetic provider — a slave — your entire life.

The truth is that energy doesn’t just go away. And this is what leaves many victims feeling like a victim well after the abuse has transpired. See, energy changes, gets hidden, or gets manipulated. If no one teaches you to transmute the energy that was forced onto you, then you will live with that same terrifying, powerless energetic profile your entire life. And it will continue to make you sick and miserable. This isn’t something talk therapy can fix, though having a professional to speak with is of course a great idea. Healing abuse requires an understanding of energy.

Healing trauma is a lengthy process. My clients don’t heal lifelong trauma overnight. Though I will say this — after every single session, they emphatically thank me because they were given a new way of looking at what has happened to them, which led them to have new understandings about how to get over it, which allows for healing. I don’t offer the loveseat therapy sessions we’ve all come to know — I offer a 5th dimensional perspective on why it happened (this connects to karma and past life perpetrators), what happened to them as a result, how it connects to or created core wounds, how they’re still acting those wounds out, and how to release the energy to self-actualize. A therapist can’t offer the eternal lens of the divine but an Intuitive can.

If you are new to energy work or are interested in using energy to help you overcome abuse and trauma, the best advice I can give you is this: become extremely self-aware. Identify every single thing that triggers you on a daily basis, or all of your adaptive habits (aka “bad” habits that stem from trauma). Then connect it back to its origin. Where did it come from? Why does it bother you? Why do you do certain things? Once you know these answers (I tell you these things in an Energy Reading appointment), it becomes very easy to release the energetic chord or attachment that your subconscious mind has created to prevent the trauma from happening again. Energy (aka: intention) from the subconscious mind forms an invisible thread that gets lodged in certain parts of your body via association with the trauma. You can begin to logically connect the dots and understand what it all means. “When I feel this way emotionally, or have this thought, I feel this way physically. I felt this way physically when the trauma occurred. Therefore, I am living out past cycles”, or “This unrelated person/situation triggers me because it is the same boundary that was crossed when the abuse happened”, or, “I am choosing this unhealthy habit because it helps me prevent myself from thinking about the triggers”, or, “I subconsciously stew about the abuse every day and am therefore sending energy to my perpetrator whom I still feel has power over me”, etc.

There is a rhyme and reason to how you feel. Until you connect the dots, you will live with resentment, anger, frustration, and fear because it makes no sense and you still feel powerless. Understanding the energy and how to break the energy up is how to truly heal.