The empathic people and their “handlers”

As an Intuitive, I have come to see the discrepancies between the 3D (past), 4D (present), and 5D (future and divine truth) much easier over the years and I believe that anyone can with practice. I’ve given you guys an outline of the ways to discern karmic storylines playing out before your very eyes in day-to-day life. In karmic storylines, the past overlaps the present and people don’t know they’re acting out long-passed projections in the now. All forms of illusions, distraction, and projection are used to prevent the soul’s truth from coming to the surface. Seeing the rhyme and reason behind such events you experience is a way to peer into the 5D (a lens of eternity) when we are still trapped in the 3D world which provides peace and calm through understanding. This understanding brings healing.

As I’ve said before, there is a list of “characters” who either help with spiritual ascension and overcoming karma, or who work to prevent spiritual enlightenment. They are:

The twin flames: fight constantly, passive aggressive if only for comedic effect or can also be overtly aggressive, very high masculine and high feminine, or one is integrated and one not; abusive relationship. One may actively try to make things better (grow), but not always. True karmic partners.

Distractor: comes in to “swipe” the scene clean and create a transition to a new topic, or so everyone forgets what just happened – sometimes for comic relief, to control the conversation or groupthink, sex appeal, etc.

Narcissist: the fearless, egoful leader who gets everyone into trouble and out of trouble, manipulates the entire situation to get his way or make sure no one lets onto what he is doing, earns the favor of others especially those in authority, abuses others then justifies or blames it on victim. He may try to do the right thing every now and then to save face but will always go back to control or abuse.

The lackeys: carrying out sinister deeds on behalf of the narcissist leader(s) so they stay in the good graces and receive benefits from the leader. They assume they will be protected, but the leader may eventually turn against them too. 

Empath: the sweet, sensitive, king or queen type energy who tries to bring everyone to their senses and do the right thing but is not heard or purposefully quieted. The narcissistic leader/abuser generally targets them to “astroturf” their reality. The narc may eventually fess up and say they will never do it again and there may be a forgive and forget mentality, or the victim may remain hurt.

Soul mates: any two people on the same wavelength and always work together when problems arise. 

The wise one/mentor: warns the characters about the dangers, but the characters often do not listen then feel bad afterwards and realize he/she were right; helps others learn the lesson.

The groupthink background actors/the “mob”: mindlessly supporting the narcissists in order to not be targeted themselves or in order to fit in. May remain silent or may perpetuate groupthink gossip. Refuse to think for themselves. Aka: flying monkeys.

There is yet another character to add to the list of “actors” above: the handlers. A handler is someone who subconsciously feels it is their intent and purpose in life to manage and control the life and soul of an empathic person, always correcting, disciplining, and drawing lines in the sand so you cannot self-actualize. These are the people you are always subconsciously on your guard against, who make your nervous system go haywire, who you know will misinterpret everything you do, who will give you a hard time, who like to find ways to hurt you, who talk you out of yourself and your intuition, and on and on.

The term “handler” is not new — it is actually used to describe people who coerce the most depraved forms of abuse: sexual slavery, especially. The role of the handler is to carefully select a victim based on certain criteria (naive or codependents in particular). Once that is done, they slowly calibrate the victim’s nervous system, brain, and hormones to a constant state of confusions, chaos, loss of personal autonomy. This is done through suggesting false realities, implanting false memories, and alternating between happy and sad circumstances so things are constantly off-kilter (reward-punishment cycle). These people also convince the victim they are special — or, alternately, a piece of shit. These are like literal and proverbial prison guards/bars on a person’s life.

This sounds heavy but the everyday, common tactics we see in domestic violence situations apply to many more people than the victims even realize. (Please remember, domestic violence isn’t just bruises and punches — it is any form of force or control which causes soul torment in intimate relationships). In other words, gaslighting, astroturfing, smear campaigns, all or nothing thinking, cover-ups, groupthink, flying monkeys, double standards, hasty generalizations, logical fallacies, red herrings, Bulverism, scapegoating, slippery slope, strongarming, idealizing, the silent treatment, and much much more get used by the people in our lives against us every single day — but you will only notice this once you start paying attention.

Here’s what you need to know: empathic people will always have at least one handler, but often it is many. Handlers are always narcissistic or sociopathic personalities who completely lack empathy. Not every narcissist you know will be your handler — just the ones that have the most control over you. Typically power gets passed from one handler to another at separate points in life. Ex: a parent when you were a child, then a spouse when you get married. Because an empathic person has never been encouraged to become strong in themselves and their personality they believe other people more than themselves. They have been taught there is something inherently wrong with them, that they must rely on others to get by in this life. That there is some sin they must atone for, simply by virtue of being themselves. A handler’s sole purpose is to instill this belief system then make you dependent upon them — or you risk punishment.

The more intense your handler, the more powerful of a soul you are. In other words, the force and tactics used against empaths will be directly proportionate to your ability to ascend — which is what a handler wants to prevent at all costs. If you were to spiritually ascend and realize you do not deserve such treatment, you would be able to change the world with your natural gifts and ideas. In doing so, the 3D karmic system would collapse, leaving narcissists without power or control.

Getting away from a handler will feel the like scariest thing you have ever done. They will make life miserable for you in the process. They will take away money and the ability to make money, your friends and family, your self-respect, your good name, your inner-knowing, your health, and your physical body may be at risk as well. You will become an untouchable. You will have to start at square one, as an adult. It is like you had no life before this person because you have to start over completely with no support system, job, physical possessions, clout, or health to your name.

Flying monkeys also play a role in this phenomena. Flying monkeys are the people who support your handler/narcissist and will do everything in their power to work on behalf of the handler to further punish you or remind you of the punishment that lurks ahead if you leave. This comes in the form of taunting, shunning, shaming, defamation, sabotage, telling the handler information they acquire about you so it can be used against you, and more from friends, family, and acquaintances who believe the handler’s twisted version of events and make no stand for truth, justice, and peace. They in fact condone and support the abuse through complicity and abuse by proxy. Because you have had long term relationships with the flying monkeys, as an empathic person you will feel a need to please these people too. Releasing your karma involves releasing these people too. Anyone who turns a blind eye to abuse is not your ally and should be swiftly removed from your life.

You will know your handler by the way these people react when you make decisions for yourself that they have no control over. You will see them go into psychotic states of rage and anger when you choose yourself over them. When you make healthy choices and pursue your soul’s purpose, you will receive punishment from these people and that is the best indication that you need to do everything in your power to safely escape.

An empath without a handler is free — and that is a very “scary” thing indeed.

Your ego is your monkey brain

The cornerstone of any spiritual awakening process involves shedding of one’s ego in order to reach new levels of personal awareness. Releasing the egoic mind involves a lengthy — and I do mean lengthy — process of identifying and eliminating the false realities we have been told are real, the illusions we have come to accept as normal, and the thought and behavioral patterns that keep us selfish and un-enlightened about the greater connectivity between the universe and our personal decisions (and those of others). It is a process of re-awakening to your own divinity, accepting your higher self or higher power, and acting from the prefrontal cortex rather than the stress-driven parts of the brain. It requires accepting personal responsibility for everything you have done, and developing the empathy to see how your decisions will affect you and those around you in the long run.

I have written before about the “lizard brain”, aka: the Amygdalae, which are two almond-shaped structures within the brain that remind you of the danger that could lurk ahead. The lizard brain keeps a close tally of every stressful situation you have been in, so that you can prevent stressors from affecting you in the future. Unfortunately, this also means people become locked in states of chronic stress because the lizard brain reminds you that the world is utterly unsafe, you are a terrible person, and no one can be trusted. Additionally, because we have all had numerous stressful past lives, our subconscious mind will also dictate these reminders to the Amygdalae, causing us to be triggered at things that have never hurt us in this lifetime. Overcoming these repeating thoughts is a necessary step in shedding the ego.

As I have said before:

Here’s what you need to know for your health: because of trauma you are operating out of your “lizard” brain or Amygdala. Amygdalae are part of the limbic system which is responsible for emotions, survival, instincts, mood, sexuality, addictions, and memory. It’s function has been linked to neuropsychiatric disorders that involve anxiety and fears.

You will have dominant Amygdala function whether your trauma has been acknowledged thus far, or whether it still remains in the subconscious corners of your mind. The Amygdala is the fight-or-flight, reactivity, fear center of the brain. It remembers most every misdeed others have done to us so that we can constantly be on the defense in order to protect ourselves. It is a coping mechanism and survival tactic that, while once essential, has overstayed it’s welcome. In large part, we’re not hunter-gatherers needing to protect ourselves from apex predators or starvation. It’s making us sick from the stress. 

There is another structure of the brain we also must overcome, though, in order to reach enlightenment: the monkey brain. While the lizard brain protects us from having to process or re-endure trauma, the monkey brain is the facade that gets established to help us overlook the trauma — or defend ourselves against the trauma. In other words, the lizard brain tells your subconscious mind, nervous system, and hormones something is not safe, while the monkey brain says “I will act bigger and better so that the problem does not present itself again.” Puff out your chest, beat your fists, and act larger than you really are, so to speak.

The monkey brain and its according behavioral patterns are the root of the true ego and in order to understand how to overcome it, we must understand how non-human primates function. Most primates, including us as human beings, spend their lives in large social groups or communities and this, along with primary needs (food, water, air, territory), become the driving force behind all that we do. Being secured within a community means more than socializing, of course. To a primate, there are constant threats, again, to food and water supply, territory, and most importantly, sex/reproduction and social standing.

Most primate communities are generally closed to contact with members of other communities. Most often, members stay within a certain region and rarely migrate outside of their home area. Such aloofness from other troops prevents high concentrations of individuals entering the community, which could result in rapid depletion of local resources and restructuring of social status. Communities usually avoid each other and are aggressive towards outsiders. Because of this, social interactions between members of different troops are rare, especially for females. In some primate groups, the only intentional contact between groups is in the form of defensive territorial behavior. Ie: instead of avoiding each other, groups actively converge near their common territorial border and make hostile displays to scare away competition. Sounds a bit like human displays of jealousy and insecurity, eh? It’s the classic means girls, hazing newbies, and feigned exclusivity to prevent outsider infiltration in order to retain power and control.

In order to guarantee resource availability, social hierarchies are constructed in a true survival-of-the-fittest mentality. The more dominant and aggressive one is, the more resources they have available to them. The more resources they have available, the most respect they garner. The problem is, high levels of aggression, both given or received, can lead to chronic psychological stress in addition to added energy costs and risk of injury. For primates, chronic stress can adversely affect health and reproduction. Does this sound much different than human beings?

Humans constantly vie for social position, feel inferior and therefore less valuable (socially, sexually, intellectually) if they are not connected to, or liked by, the most respected members of their community or subgroup. Of course, the “most respected” members are often not respected by virtue of character, though in some cases they are; they are often respected for their appearance and external accomplishments, ability to bullshit, wine and dine, and put on a false mask to please people and entertain — not due to personal enlightenment.

Humans deeply rooted in their egoic mind have no problem gossiping, spreading rumors, blameshifting, creating chaos, and sabotaging others so they themselves can get ahead and be perceived as superior. Humans spend most of their lives trying to be viewed as sexually desirable and go into deep depressions when members of the opposite sex (or, same sex in many cases) do not choose them as a sexual partner. We spend a majority of our time working to make money so that we can build a facade of desirability within our homes, wardrobes, with accessories (hair, nails, and other beauty treatments), our cars, etc. Every choice we make becomes about what will be perceived as the most valuable by people we both know and strangers alike (the car we drive, the school we attended — or our children attend, the company we work for, the choice of prints for the curtains, the comments/likes and followers we get on social media, etc). We can spend our entire lives chasing a facade that stems from normative primate behavior and does nothing for the soul. The monkey brain has taken over and this is why the dichotomy between empaths and narcissists exist. Some people are self-aware, and others are stuck in animal survival mode, willing to do anything (abuse included) to get what they want.

Below are some stereotypes but they do speak to the behaviors and attitudes we take on naturally through societal enculturation. In some cases, these roles can be reversed and men and women may flip flop back and forth between the two. If these stereotypes offend you, they should. Yet, they are still what many people consciously or subconsciously chase.

For male human primates, this can mean: taking as many sexual partners as possible, being perceived as “the man”, succeeding in external pursuits (finances and career) to win over the “best” partner, giving high-value gifts, providing for females or dependents (food and shelter at a basic level), putting on a macho facade (I have no feelings and am not scared of anything), I am the protector, and on and on.

For female human primates, this can mean: being unwelcoming to females who are perceived as superior in some way (sexually, intellectually, ethically, fertile or good mothers) and therefore a threat to their sexual security, shunning “sexually powerful” or desirable females, going out of their way to be sexually suggestive to their partners only to maintain their interest not because of real attraction or love, using sex as a manipulation tool, dressing in clothes to strike the attention of their desired partner, doing things to make themselves appear superior spouses, owning nice things, etc etc.

You see, in order to understand why we as human beings do what we do, and therefore recognize what is dysfunctional in order to overcome it, we must understand our origins. Whether you err on the side of evolutionism or creationism does not matter here. What matters is that our brains carry remnants or similar characteristic of other species and we must overcome those behavioral patterns in order to shed the ego because they have nothing to do with our soul’s purpose and are nothing more than a stressor and distraction.

The four types of dreams and their subconscious meanings

Your dreams have a meaning. They are a window into the subconscious mind and they not only give you guidance and direction but they also are trying their damnedest to bring the trauma up to the surface for you to finally address it once and for all. Dreams aren’t just subconscious vomit, they’re a path to wellness, only if you understand how to interpret them. Dreams are one of the biggest ways our subconscious mind tries to get our attention in a world full of busyness and distraction. I want to teach you how to understand them.

When it comes to dreams, there are four types you need to keep in mind. Once you decode which type of dream it is, you can then determine which wound it was trying to bring to the surface for you. From there, you can work to resolve the core wound through the principle of the opposite and essentially undo whatever was done to you in the past. Remember: there is a pattern and a meaning. Once you accept this about life, you will begin to see how who you are, how you are living, and the things you are scared of are no mistake and there is a way to overcome the trauma in order to self-actualize.

The four types of dreams and their subconscious meanings:

Back to the scene of the accident. This is where your brain takes you back to the most significant traumas, abuses, and problems. It is more like a literal memory, though some details may be slightly different. This feels like you are recalling, rather than making up a scenario. These kinds of dreams are begging to stop forgetting, glossing over, and sweeping it under the rug. You have to remember that it did happen in order to move forward.

Surreal. These dreams are like Salvador Dali paintings — completely unbelievable, not based in the here and now, and utterly imaginative and creative. This is where your brain is either rewriting the dream to inform you how could it go differently next time, or where you are imagining various scenarios in order for you to see the problem from a new perspective. These kinds of dreams are made up of storylines that could never or would never happen in reality and are largely improbable (ex: you defy the laws of gravity, time, you act completely out of character, etc). These help you have a greater, more global understanding of what happened in order to see it in a new light.

Confrontational. These dreams allow your mind to imagine what would happen if you were to see and confront the abuser, perpetrator, or problem. How would you react? What would you say? Would you stand up to it once and for all? There is another variation on this dream in which you are looking for the person/situation you need to confront but never find them — or them not finding you. It’s where you are trying so hard to get to them but there is some literal or imaginary barrier between you, preventing you from being able to hash it out. Chances are, if you are having dreams in which you cannot find someone or get to someone, you are not ready to hash it out with them because there is more work that needs to be done. Overall, these dreams help prepare you to actualize the confrontation in real life or make peace with whatever has happened.

Prophetic. This is where the energy of the dream was so strong and intense that it feels like a direct download from your higher power. The energy of these dreams lingers for days, weeks, or years afterwards, and they are providing some psychic insight as to what will happen or what you should do with your life. Upon waking, you desperately try to remember what the dream was about because it was so vivid and powerful. The energy feels like it becomes a part of who you are and it changes how you see or interact with the world going forward.

Keep in mind, the scenarios you are dreaming about may in fact have a far distant origin — your past lives. If you recognize the soul of a person, or a location, or a scenario, but you do not recognize anything else in the dream (such as their appearance, for example), this might be because your subconscious mind is trying to bring age-old wounds to your attention; things you have been wounded by before and are still living out in the present moment.

Of course you can and will have dreams of varieties other than the ones listed here. But these four archetypal dreams are the ones that will help you heal the wounds of the subconscious mind.

For this and more on dreams, watch my Instagram video here.

If you need further direction, schedule an Energy Reading appointment where I can help you to decode the meaning of your dreams and begin to see the subconscious pattern.