In order for science and medicine to be at their most useful to the population, left-brained thinking must be tempered and balanced with equal right-brained activity. Research or systems that do not take the human condition or human experience into consideration are lacking. Human health and life is not a mere matter of tracking and reporting observable, demonstrable data through mass and time, it is also a matter of listening and believing the observations of humans themselves — their feelings, experiences, and more anecdotal evidence that cannot easily be measured or recreated in a laboratory setting. The things we cannot prove — or no one wants to prove — but have observed for ourselves or felt are true on a basic level are legitimate yet often ignored or silenced.
Empaths tend to have a greater right-brained activity than most because the right-brain is largely responsible for more un-observable phenomena such as feeling, which puts us in the minority. While we may think we are endowed with the ability to engage in free thinking, mainstream sciences, education, and politics largely discounts the real human experience in all its facets for the benefit of a larger system of control — a point-A-to-point-B standardizing which makes it easier for us to be led and in powerless positions.
You have likely observed this yourself in the doctor’s office: “I understand you think you don’t feel well, but your labs look normal so perhaps you are overly emotional, depressed, need to exercise, or need to take a different dose of medication. There is nothing more I need to do” you may have been told. You have likely also experienced this in relationships where you have confided in a good friend or relative about what is transpiring in your life, only to be talked out of it, have it dismissed, be told you are dramatic, or told you need to feel differently. For example, you tell someone about difficulties in your life only for them to tell you they are “worried about you” for feeling this way, or to tell others they are “worried about you” for feeling this way. Their concern often stems out of a fear of your emotions and your ability to readily feel them, rather than an empathy for what you are actually going through. What they are really saying is, “Your emotions scare me. You feel too much. This is unpredictable and I am uncomfortable with anything unpredictable. I don’t want to be perceived as unpredictable like you.” A non-right-brained thinker may assume, “Since I don’t feel the way you do, there must be something unreliable about the way you feel. I need more proof.” A right-brained thinker says, “I may not feel the same as you about this, but I understand why you are feeling this way because I have felt that emotion before myself.”
Often, when you try to explain right-brained phenomena to others you can immediately see their eyes glaze over, their ears shut off, and their mind translate your words as “womp womp womp” or “blah blah blah”. They don’t know they are doing this and likely don’t mean to, but it is as if their brain begins overriding the data they are receiving and translating it into “this is a waste of time, this is naive and stupid, if you listen to them or take them seriously you will be naive and stupid too.” The biological brain “computer” has trained itself to override any data that would leave them vulnerable to the unknown or make them question their preexisting belief system.
Or, perhaps you were run through an educational system where you were told your basic needs for laughter, joy, the ability to move your body and walk around, engage in stimulating social activity, have adequate time to eat lunch, posses the ability to go to the bathroom at will, have a certain level of privacy or trust by your superiors, or ask questions in order to truly understand the material were dismissed or you were punished for thinking you had a right to do so. In fact, we encounter these kinds of attitudes everyday.
It’s like how researchers have questioned why mothers prefer to carry their babies on their left hip. The answer is because it stimulates right-brain activity which allows them to aptly understand the feelings and needs of their child. The right-brain is emotional instinct without need for confirmation. We didn’t need a study to tell mothers to carry their babies on the left side of their bodies — they just instinctively do it. The right brain is the vast collective unconscious that is available to each one of us and has no need for rote memorization. It is a way of remembering knowledge rather than learning it from a book or article. It is a way of feeling and recollecting what is true, rather than cross-examining it through the lens of tradition or book knowledge.
Anything that is deemed too “woo”, “touchy feel-y”, “native” (and therefore mystical), “natural”, or “superstitious” immediately gets relegated as “untrustworthy”, “B.S.”, and “anti-science”. But intellectuals who worship science, much like a religion, forget that their intolerance of things deemed natural is preventing them from seeing the bigger picture in order to understand the true human experience. Left brain activity without right brain activity creates a dichotomy, not a whole. We need both.
Because Earth has largely been a left-brained planet (at least in the recent past and our present lifetime), those who think with a primary right-brained function are considered weird, eccentric, artistic, crazy, or fringe. Let me tell you this: much like white privilege or male privilege, it is also a privilege to be able to fit into a world where people are praised and respected for primarily using one hemisphere of their brain. Those who function primarily out of the left-brain do have certain unspoken and inherent rights that others do not and they are more apt to freely express themselves, be rewarded, and assume positions of clout (doctors, nurses, scientists, lawyers, politicians, engineers, and on and on).
And so, a major problem empaths come across is the cognitive dissonance of being told we are living in a free-thinking society, yet experiencing a dismissal of right-brained activity. It is as if we have been subconsciously told there is no legitimacy in the way we feel, or in the momentum we feel behind our life experiences, and certainly not in the intuitive urges we get.
In order to access your full potential as an empath and get out of the sabotage entrapment that has told you you should tone it down, you were wrong, or you need to hide your true nature, you must come to terms with the reality of the majority consensus that is left-brain prevalence and validity.
Please know, there is nothing wrong with being a left-brained thinker. In fact, it can be very useful. But as I said before, we need both the left and right hemispheres to be in use in ourselves and society in order to gain balance, wholeness, forward motion, progress, and peace. You are not wrong for primarily operating out of one or the other, but we can make a point to balance the two sides. If you already operate out of your right brain, work up the courage to stop glossing over it or hiding it. You already understand the left-brain system because you have lived it up until now. The world needs the right-brained thinkers to come out of the closet. Come to terms with your true nature and use it to help yourself, others, and the world.
Every single one of us has been a recipient of the trauma someone else imposed on us — every single one, whether you realize it or not.
Often, clients come to me with so much grief and negative energy affecting their every move, every thought, every decision about life. They want to feel happy, but they actually feel quite sad. They want to feel motivated but they instead feel fatigued beyond belief and don’t think their efforts will amount to much. They want to like themselves but they can’t stop the self-deprecating tape playing in their mind: “you aren’t good enough”, “you’ll never be pretty enough”, “you’re dirty”, “you’re not smart enough”, “you need to atone for the sin that is you”, “things will never work out in your favor”. Or they feel they are going at life alone because no one is on the same page as them.
They don’t understand why they are feeling this way because they’ve had a “good” life, or they have a “good” spouse, or they are doing their best to change their diet for the better.
Here’s the thing: it’s not your fault.
We are players in a bigger system that we have not had control over until this moment in time. Our current reality is the sum total of what has happened to others before us and how the cycle has repeated to this day. Last October was a huge “breaking of the dam” watershed moment in time and we are being given the option to stop the secrets and the culture of silent pain. It is an unraveling and undoing of the way things have always been done and it is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to confront the problems so they no longer make your body and spirit sick.
Unhealthy cycles are not broken until someone consciously chooses to break them. Until someone says something about the problems, or until someone does something radically different from what was done to them, the toxic cycle will continue.
Breaking unhealthy cycles is one of the hardest things you will ever do because other people may actively work to prevent the change since it feels too scary to them. Pain is all they have known and it is familiar; unacknowledged pain allows them to maintain power or control; it allows them to keep pretending the choices they made were okay; it keeps them from the pain of regret or guilt. It prevents you from being able to rise into the shining being you really are. And it makes you consistently strengthen activity in certain regions of the brain that make this cycle worse over time.
Here’s what you need to know for your health: because of trauma you are operating out of your “lizard” brain or Amygdala. The Amygdalae which are so primitive, they’re often called the “lizard” remnants of the brain, are two almond-shaped sections of nervous tissue located in the temporal lobe. Amygdalae are part of the limbic system which is responsible for emotions, survival, instincts, mood, sexuality, addictions, and memory. It’s function has been linked to neuropsychiatric disorders that involve anxiety and fears.
You will have dominant Amygdala function whether your trauma has been acknowledged thus far, or whether it still remains in the subconscious corners of your mind. The Amygdala is the fight-or-flight, reactivity, fear center of the brain. It remembers most every misdeed others have done to us so that we can constantly be on the defense in order to protect ourselves. It is a coping mechanism and survival tactic that, while once essential, has overstayed it’s welcome. In large part, we’re not hunter-gatherers needing to protect ourselves from apex predators or starvation. It’s making us sick from the stress.
Sounds a bit like adrenal fatigue or hypothyroidism, right?: frazzled, stressed, broken, in states of heightened awareness, in the red, on the defense constantly because we need to protect ourselves from perceived threats. If you are operating out of the Amygdala as a fear center every day, imagine the repercussions for your hormonal health – constantly in a state of flux, constantly swinging from high to low, or just getting so burnt out that your T4, T3, TSH, cortisol, estrogen, and testosterone and completely out of whack. Imagine the repercussions for your immune health – chronically infected with yeast, bacteria, parasites, or your body may be engaged in an autoimmune response where it is attacking anything and everything that is a non-existent threat (food proteins, your own tissues, etc).
There is a solution.
The solution is learning to tap into a vastly different area of your brain that, instead of relying on old bad memories to create our future reality, it relies on problem-solving, solution-seeking, future-oriented goal setting, and personal behavioral modification. It’s called the prefrontal cortex.
The prefrontal cortex is located in the frontal lobe — right where the sixth chakra or intuitive “third eye” is located — at the front of the forehead. There is a scientific link between your will to live, personality, and the functions of the prefrontal cortex. The prefrontal cortex has been implicated in planning complex cognitive behavior, personality expression, decision making, processing, updating, redirecting, and moderating social behavior. Activity in this brain region is in large part a collection of thoughts and actions in accordance with your internal goals. It also helps one differentiate between various thoughts in order to come to reasonable conclusions that will benefit you in the future and are not based in reactivity and fear. In other words, it helps us plan and seek future, positive experiences instead of constantly reacting to old problems.
Here’s how to tap into your prefrontal cortex:
- identify your subconscious triggers (I do this for clients in Energy Reading sessions)
- work through your problems/sin/karma (what you choose to call it doesn’t matter)
- learn cause and effect – how your actions affect others and how others actions affect you
- enact the laws of cause and effect in your life
- stop the negative cycles you have inherited from others
- map out and visualize the future that you want for yourself
- find solutions to get the future health and self you desire, then pursue them hardcore until you get the results you want
- strengthen your own energy through prayer, positive affirmations, meditation, Energy Readings, reiki, acupuncture, yoga or gentle forms of exercise, close friendships with people who know how to reciprocate, doing hobbies you enjoy, etc.
- figure out which diet you should be eating for your unique gene mutations and health problems
- get rid of toxic people or energy vampires in your life (relationships that drain you or in which there are strings attached for purposes of power, control, and manipulation)
- learn about or discover your true personality, apart from what others expect or demand of you
- stand your ground and do not be moved – remember that no one deserves to elicit your stress response
Remember, we are not lizards. We are mammals with a spiritual lineage and the fear center that was once essential for survival is overreacting to your detriment. It doesn’t jive with our modern world. While there may be legitimate threats to your well-being (car accidents, money troubles, relationship problems), you are more than a reptilian stalking prey or finding ways to prevent becoming the prey. You are more than that. You have to remember this essential part of your soul in order to stop the cyclical fear patterns that are making you stressed and sick. You can transition to a new thought process, it is possible. When you do, watch how your health and life improve dramatically for the better.