How to open your heart chakra

Every single person alive on the planet is seeking love in their own unique way. Some have confused love for validation, acceptance, or grand displays of affection. Others have confused love with pain, heartache, and rejection based on their past experiences and in anticipation of future painful events. Some avoid love even when it looks them in the eye.

As I have said before, real love is unconditional, whether it comes from a romantic partner, parent, friend, or family member. Unfortunately, real love is also very hard to come by. You see, we have been taught to only give love to certain people and only receive it from others. We have been taught if want love, we must have something to give first. We have constantly opened and closed our hearts in the presence of others because we thought they deserved it or they didn’t — or because we were punished or judged for offering it in the first place (“there must be a string attached; they must be slutty/players/egotistical”).

In contrast, a peaceful world would look like humans giving and receiving love always, to anyone, simply because it is another soul. The level of love would not need to vary, but perhaps the expression would. You wouldn’t love the gas station clerk the same way you love your child, but you can still exude love, empathy, and respect nonetheless. You can still look them in the eye and smile and care, regardless of not appreciating how they did or did not treat you. It’s separating love from roles, karma, and shitty behavior.  

It’s not enough to just open your heart chakra. You have to figure out why it was blocked to begin with, and you also have to figure out why you are rejecting love at this very moment. Yes, you are — we all are. It is not enough to want to get love or give love. Unless you are actually open to receiving it, there is nothing you or anyone else can do to make you feel loved. Often, we choose partners who we subconsciously feel are unable to reciprocate love because it is easier to be slowly rejected or not truly seen. 

Not being able to receive love comes from a fear of being unworthy. Unworthy because of your past mistakes, unworthy because of what you lack, unworthy because few others have ever offered it to you in its pure form, unworthy because of how you have been treated. “It must be because I am inadequate” you may believe. 

If you are energetically sensitive or want to be, start with this visualization: locate your heart inside of your body. How does it feel? Tune into it deeply. You may be surprised to feel there is literal pain inside the organ itself, not just surrounding it, and not just emotional pain but literal physical pain that has embedded itself into the structure. Identify one tiny speck of pain — separate the individual pains from the overall pain — and acknowledge it, ask where it came from, then consciously release it. You should feel lighter instantly. Do this until your heart doesn’t ache. 

I have noticed many people have a literal energetic split in their hearts — a line down the middle separating the left and right ventricles (at the pulmonary valve), as though there is a chasm indicating a separation between masculine and feminine love and the ability to integrate the two. I’m not just talking about those with literal heart problems (though heart disease is a severe manifestation of a broken heart when we’re talking metaphysics). I mean we have craved feminine love (openness, receptiveness and whether you are a male or female doesn’t matter) but have been forced into more masculine displays of love because we have lived in a masculine system thus far. We have accepted the masculine love because we didn’t know there was another option, an option in which your soul can take the lead, rather than your physical body, superficial gifts, or desire to hide how you really feel because it was “childish”.

Many also have lodged their heart deep into their throat chakras. You have learned not to say the words you really want to say because of how you have been hurt or rejected in the past; because of how you were told love is naive, needy, silly and will cause you problems — or that the kind of love you want just doesn’t exist; how only children open their hearts and adults must learn to hide them because that’s what it means to age. A blocked throat chakra isn’t just about fear of speaking, being heard or seen, or finding the right words as to not risk rejection; it is about holding back your expressions of love.

The heart chakra is also called the fourth chakra. Understand that generally depictions of the chakras involve the front of the body — energy centers moving up from the base of the pelvis to the top of the head. But the energy isn’t intended to come in without exiting. It must be able to flow through or pass through the entire human structure without getting blocked. In this case, because the heart chakra is in the chest, you may notice upper back problems or thickening of the fascia between your shoulder blades. A blocked heart chakra can also cause breathing problems (which can lead to anxiety, allergies, poor sleep, and more), chest pains, and other chest restrictions as if you were wearing a very tight girdle around the area. It can also cause you to have very tight or restricted movement in your left shoulder blade (because, of course, the heart sits in the front left chamber of the chest). So don’t just look for fascial adhesions on the front of your chest (an indication you were blocking love from entering), also look to the upper back (to see if you were preventing it from truly touching your soul, or were trying to prevent it from leaving for fear of abandonment). Sometimes I see people (both men and women) who have such tight, thick skin (fascial adhesions) on their chest or upper back, I feel a huge density and wonder how they’re still breathing. It’s not a myth that you can die from a broken heart; fascia restricts blood flow, nutrients, and more to those areas. 

How to open your heart chakra:

  • Identify your core wounds and life lessons — these will tell you why you are rejecting or scared of love
  • Understand that real love is unconditional, without constant checks and balances, you can never get better in order to receive love, and if you mess up you can still be worthy of love
  • Get rid of fascial adhesions on your chest and upper back with myofascial release
  • Do energy work to eliminate old, toxic energies from your heart center
  • Offer love that is from the soul, rather than the 3D world
  • Accept that those who cannot love you back and in their own pain and wounds
  • Love yourself unconditionally, flaws and all
  • Figure out how your definition of love varies from true love because this will cause you pain
  • Accept what others have done to you in the past without projecting it onto the future — remain present
  • Offer love to everyone (kindness, respect, care) without expecting anything in return
  • Identify social or relationships problems and work to remedy them (complicity or being lukewarm is the antithesis of love); ie: change the karma; love is a feeling but also an action
  • Forgive yourself and others
  • Stop cycles of self-hatred or dependence on vices to feel okay
  • Breathe deeply
  • Stretch

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The point of remembering your past lives is to forget them

I want to tell you some more truth today and let you in on some personal details; how I ended up in this place because it speaks to the heart of why I do what I do as a coach and how it can help you. The very startling supernatural experiences I have had have led me down a road I never thought I would trek: into past lives, chakras, and energy work. I didn’t want to go here. I didn’t know it was real. I avoided it for as long as I could. I shoved my intuition so far down my throat it got lodged there. Every time I read someone’s ego without realizing it, I tried to hide it by internalizing it as a stress response. I tried to pretend it wasn’t there for their sake. Then I realized it was a gift I could use to help people, instead of make myself sickened by its strength. It’s weird, it’s different, sometimes off-putting, and very few believe it. Not exactly a money-making scheme. I wish I could come up with twenty Paleo recipes each week and make that my shtick. It’s just not my path and I’ve carried a great deal of shame (the lowest vibration) because of it. I’ve finally made peace with it.

Every word I write comes from an intention of the heart and every piece of advice I share comes from living these things myself — not regurgitating words from a book — and from asking my intuition or higher power what it all means, then channeling the results for you. I say the things that need to be said, not because it is popular or cool but because it is the deepest truth I have been able to find and because I have wished for someone to share such insights with me. I want you to be prepared in ways I was not. 

The backstory is this: I only operate in the “light” side of things. I have never dabbled in any black arts, shamanism, or witchcraft (I know I can get crucified for calling these out because many believe in “good” spells but I don’t mess around with intention after what I have witnessed). I have never “tried” to conjure anything or speak with the dead. I was never allowed to use a Ouija board (even writing that word gives me the creeps). The law of attraction bores me because it is wishing for things we think are good for us when the Universe may have other plans. In all honesty I don’t even pray in the traditional hands-folded sense but I believe in the final authority of a higher power (though I don’t think it is what we have been told it is) and ask I questions which always seem to be answered which has aided in my spiritual ascension and weakening of the ego. I was shown my blind spots then I changed. I learned how things connected, the cause and effect. I saw what I had to do in order to “flip the karmic script” and self-actualize. Often I get forced into it because not following this path is harder than just giving into it. I ask for help and I always receive it thought I don’t speak with angels, saints, deceased love ones. Simply put, I know that both good and evil are real and that’s why I work hard to fight against the latter when other human beings present in that abusive form. It’s like the line from that movie: “The greatest trick the Devil ever pulled was convincing the world he didn’t exist.” He exists in us when we choose it.

If we live in a dumbed-down groupthink state in which we live for the holidays, Facebook interactions, sitcoms, etc. we are distracted into believing that bad things only happen from time to time; or to other people, and there’s nothing you can do about it. We think if we are good people bad things won’t happen. The truth is, once you choose to self-actualize at all costs and no longer sell your soul for 3D acceptance, you will be tested by dark forces be it narcissists, karmic debt, or your Biblical interpretation of Satan. Bad things don’t happen randomly, they happen as a result of karma, or as a result of choosing the light. I have had people test me, tear me down, and throw wrenches in my path for pursuing my healing work. I have had to prove myself time and again and at the end of it, they got scared because of how accurately I saw their intentional misdeeds for who, what, why, when, and how they really occurred. Details, people, and they were spot on. 

I have almost never shared my personal beliefs on these things because well, I thought it was a distraction from what my clients believed. My main goal is to support you in what you believe, not talk you out of it; to strengthen you so you cannot be f*cked with any longer. I put my personal beliefs aside so that you can shine and I can lead you to your higher truth. But when it comes to past lives, I cannot stress enough that they are real, we have all been here before many times, your fears and phobias don’t come from nowhere, your health problems don’t come from nowhere, your attraction or repulsion to certain people is not for no reason, and until you resolve your karma you will be stuck in a prison system. Past-life karma is energetic bars of indebtedness, after all, keeping you at one plane of self-realization.

I give you this background info today because I want you to see that I once too did not believe. I had no reason to and was happily agnostic. God was a question I saw no rush to answer. I wanted my atheist friends to accept me. I didn’t want to upset my Christian friends. My spirituality was yoga and writing and trying to be kind. It wasn’t until I saw flashes of light come from multiple people’s eyes (both friend and foes), saw good omens, repeated very obvious past lives in this incarnation, experienced inexplicable synchronicity, had telepathic connections, saw auras, saw angels, and more did I believe it. It’s easy to say these things, but it’s harder to believe them. One person can’t confirm this but two people can, if they are honest. Some of us are here to tell others this place isn’t what we have been told. The interpretations I learned in Sunday school were vastly misleading. 

Supernatural occurrences do not happen for no reason; they are a call to action, a form of confirmation, or an answer to prayer. However, seeing them requires a process of tearing down one’s ego because the ego blocks all sorts of supernatural phenomena from being seen. The ego is the skeptic. The skeptic keeps you seeing what it wants you to. Also, these things cannot be seen or felt by those who do not trust or are not open to them. As an empath, you are open. It’s a catch 22 because you must have a trusting, inquisitive energy first in order to be able to see the magic second. You do not have to believe it is real in order to find it. You simply have to be open, ask, and trust that in due time, or with necessity it will appear. 

Now, onto past lives. 

Think back to almost every piece of literature ever created. The commonality is that the protagonist is generally always faced with a choice: do I choose the head over heart, or heart over head? Does the king choose the peasant, or does he choose the royal lady in waiting? In his heart he knows what he wants, but the external pressures to maintain appearances may get the best of him. When he makes the heart over head decision, the audience loves it because it’s what we all wish we could choose in life: forgo the karma (stock societal expectations) and venture into dharma (your true life path). Head over heart, head over heart, head over heart — in many lifetimes we could not choose this because of taboos. In many lifetimes, heart over head decisions were forbidden or punishable by death or severe loss.

In order to understand who you really are, why you operate the way you do, how to overcome your dysfunctions and health problems, you first have to uncover who you have been before. The longer you have been open to such things, the easier it will be to see them: the patterns that keep presenting themselves, the cycles you always find yourself in, your hidden fears and talents, your roles, your energy, your health problems, your likes and interests, and on and on and on. 

But the purpose of uncovering your past lives is not just about finally understanding yourself. It is about finally letting go of the past so you can remain in the present and be open to the future. It’s about relinquishing the power your assumed roles and the expectations of others have had on you in incarnation after incarnation. It is about choosing what your higher power/intuition/the Universe has for you at the expense of your ego. 

Once you accept who you have been, you can begin the lengthy process of transmuting the pain; the pain of what has happened to you, what others have done to you, what you have chosen to your own detriment, how you died, the cycles you’re repeating with others in this lifetime, etc. etc. The ego wants you to remain in the pain, the prison, forever. It’s what keeps the good from rising. It’s what keeps us enslaved to the evils of the past. Processing what has happened to you, trying to understand and come to terms with it, then forgiving and releasing it because you see it is no longer relevant and no longer serves you is the only way to peace. It is living a life in which you are not constantly triggered, brought down, and stressed. It is where you can make healthy, independent choices that are for your enlightenment and future. It doesn’t happen overnight and can take quite a while. It will take you to your darkest places, your core wounds. But it’s what we all need on a personal level and it’s what humanity needs at this point in its evolution in order to break free into peace. 

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How to spiritually ascend

I’m going to keep this one short and sweet. The time we’ve come into requires discernment and courage. It requires us to hone our spiritual abilities in order to succeed. The undoing of karma we have been witnessing in it’s sped-up form over the last year + is causing many highly sensitive people to go inward in order to understand who they are, why they are here, and how to self-actualize in the midst of external chaos. Your problems are coming to the surface for a reason. Things seem hard for a reason. You can no longer ignore them and call it “living”. You need to do the soul work to resolve them now. 

The term “spiritual ascension” gets thrown around a lot but ultimately it is the process of undoing that which is dysfunctional, righting the wrongs, learning to trust yourself and your intuition or higher power, elevating to new levels of mental and emotional awareness, and becoming who you really are — against all odds. It is so hard — as I’ve said before — and it can feel like it could kill you. I promise you it will not. I promise you on the other side of it is peace. On the other side is an understanding of just what you are doing here to begin with. It is a way to exit the 3D reality (only understanding and believing that which you can clearly see or have been told to see) and into 4 and 5D realms in which the soul takes the lead rather than the physical needs and senses. 

I have written extensively about these topics in isolation but I believe putting them all together, in one place, can help many. This is what all of the great prophets, saviors, and “masters” have taught us. I have learned their words to be true through life experiences. Likely you have as well. Sadly interpretations of their words do not always lead us back to their original intent. So here is a checklist for you. 

How to spiritually ascend:

  1. Identify your karma and begin correcting or reversing it. (aka: your core wounds and life lessons)
  2. Let go of all attachments to people, places, things, needs, and expectations. “What is yours will not go past you” so there is no need to stress about clinging to that which you desire. 
  3. Eliminate dense, harmful energies of the past from your mind and body. (Use energy work, EFT, myofascial release, massage, stretching, etc)
  4. Transition from your stressed-out lizard brain into your prefrontal cortex.
  5. Heal your physical body with nutrition and other holistic therapies. 
  6. Stand up for yourself and your path at the cost of everything. Stand your ground against energy vampires who lead you away from it or thrown wrenches in your path
  7. Pursue truth, justice, and love. Avoid those who do not
  8. Trust your intuition or higher power. Do not take advice from people who lead you away from your inner voice. 
  9. Begin to read the energy in each situation you are in. Discern whether it is healthy or not.
  10. Limit external exposures to pointless groupthink stimuli (mindless entertainment, distractions, etc).
  11. Give up on hopes and dreams that have nothing to do with your soul. Avoid superficiality and climbing the ladder to success if it leads you nowhere real. 
  12. Accept that ultimately you are here to go at it alone because it is your path and yours alone. 
  13. Open your mind to new ideas. Do not accept or reject anything at face value. Give yourself time to come to conclusions no matter how obvious or outlandish. 
  14. Question everything. 
  15. Develop empathy, help those in need. 
  16. Tap into your subconscious mind for direction. If you don’t feel you can readily do this, use meditation, herbs, and other relaxation methods. Or work with me in Energy Readings
  17. Activate your chakras. 
  18. Leave abuse. 
  19. Get out of twin flame relationships. 
  20. Uncover your past lives and put the pieces of your personality together once and for all. 
  21. Wake up out of the spiritual amnesia.
  22. Do not overlook unethical deeds for someone else’s benefit. 
  23. Let your light shine. 
  24. Pursue what you are good at and here to accomplish.
  25. Love yourself and others unconditionally. 

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