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The disobedient victims are bringing about the new world

3D, 5D, abuse, ascension, ego, empath, karma, narcissism, relationships, stress

I’ve had a blog post in my draft queue for nearly two years. It’s called “The shame of being female and unvouched for”. It’s a amalgamation of the realizations I had after leaving abusive situations, and how by and large victims lose all personal and professional credibility in becoming an “untouchable” “abused woman”; in becoming a truth teller. Whistle-blowing isn’t like what you think. No whistle-blower is ever praised until well after the fact. But first, they’re targeted. If we’ve learned anything since October 2017 when the shit hit the fan globally for celebrities and public figures, it’s this: karma always exposes itself and people always find ways to cover it up so that no one has to confront it or be seen for who and what they really are (abusers).  

In my own examinations, I’ve come to find that society only allows one to be a victim in a very strict set of predetermined expectations. 1). Be utterly sad. 2). Be utterly powerless. 3). Have marks and bruises all over your body (and you better have video footage). 4). Never fight back. 5). Don’t tell anyone except professionals that you’ve been abused. If you don’t fall into each and every one of those categories, and if those around you have sometimes seen you deviate from these predetermined behaviors by exhibiting some sort of authentic personality, you’re “not” a victim. You’re a deranged exaggerator who lives for attention; you’re negative; you’re trying to bring people down; you’re mistaken. Over and over again, in conversations with my empathic clients, this has always been a common denominator: any time they have told the truth about the abuses they’ve experienced, they were told they were wrong in their assessment. The pain of the abuse isn’t all these people have to endure — they also have to live with the pain of the cognitive dissonance about what they have been through. 

See, no one can vouch for a victim after she’s told the truth because she’s committed the most unforgivable sin: shaking up egos. So victims go out into the world alone with no clout or benefits and no one to say, “yeah I know her. You can trust her. She’s great. Yes, she sees the world correctly.” The cognitive dissonance she’s instilled in others makes her a bad girl. The groupthink she’s shat on makes her unstable. If she doesn’t agree with the crowd, there must be something wrong with her since everyone else has come to the same conclusion. Victims have to rebuild their perceived trustworthiness themselves and there is great shame involved in being a truly free woman. Free women are too witchy. A free woman doesn’t care whose feelings are hurt when she tells the truth because the truth stands on its own. A free woman doesn’t need the “mob“. 

Of course there are many fallacies at play here. See, the ego only understands point A to point B logic. It allows for no unique situations, empathy, or discernment. “If you were abused, then you would act like this”, “if you are a victim, you should be lifeless and in the hospital”, “if you were targeted, you should do nothing in response or you’re no better than your perpetrators”, “If you were abused then why are you trying to get help from your friends? You need to call the police and see a counselor. Don’t have police reports? Then it didn’t happen”. When too many unique scenarios and details are involved in the mix, people’s brains start shutting down. They can’t handle too many variables at once. They can’t put themselves in someone else’s shoes. Even if a victim tries to connect the dots for others, how their life has been affected as a result, how they are in a worse position than before the abuse, the egos around them will not allow for new input. They will not allow themselves to connect the dots in order to learn empathy. System overload, back to ego mode. Victims who do not play along with these unrealistic, apathetic societal expectations become the problem themselves. They become disobedient. 

We must ask ourselves why someone who has been victimized would not receive immediate care, support, trust, resources, and understanding. Why the systems or people who abused in the first place are not immediately corrected. The answer is simple and sad: society operates on the underlying assumption that you can not be authentic in this world and once you are, you open yourself up to loss of credibility. In other words, you must live and project the 3D paradigm and once you stop doing that, you become disobedient and deserving of punishment. 

From there, we must further ask ourselves: why does the 3D system need to be upheld and what would happen if we stopped playing along? If it needs to be upheld, does that mean it is not real to begin with? Which system would we naturally fall into (aka: the truth) once the 3D collapses? What would happen if we all became disobedient? And this is where it gets juicy. 

The 3 dimensional world is real, yes, but it is also little more than one big projection. It is a projection of hopes, and dreams, and wishes. But it is also a projection of an idealized world that does not actually exist. It is the 1950s cocktail party version of life where we dress in our very best, adopt a personality to entertain, lift martinis and clink glasses like there’s no tomorrow, and never ever speak about problems because what will the neighbors think?

By hiding the problems, sweeping them under the rug, and punishing the truth tellers, the 3D system is upheld. By acknowledging the problems, karma, and abuses, the 3D system collapses. And that is the war between good and evil that has been in the works for so long. Some people (narcissists) are on the side of lies and falsehoods to maintain control. Some people (empaths) are on the side of truth in order to bring about a new world paradigm. Only when we admit to the problems and fix them do we indulge truth, peace, love, acceptance, justice, equality and understanding. You will know who you are by which side you choose. You will know who others are by which side they choose. 

The world is changing. If you have been treated like a disobedient victim and could never wrap your head around why no one cared or believed you, this is your answer. The subconscious belief systems at play are why. The people who implied you were disobedient are working to prevent the new world from coming about. The people who are working to support victims and change the system are bringing about a new way of living. When your karma confronts you by way of an abuse victim needing your help and support, you have the choice to dig your heels in the ground and stop progress, or you have the ability to help burgeon a new planetary system. The people who never shed their egos will not have a place in the new higher vibrational world. The choice is yours. Of course, I would encourage you to continue to be a disobedient victim. 

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The lost souls: the empaths who act like narcissists

3D, 5D, abuse, ascension, core wounds, ego, empath, energy, intuition, life lessons, narcissism, past lives, relationships, stress

This is one of those phenomena that boggles my mind equally as much as it pains me. You see, the spectrum of empathy to narcissism is strange indeed. Where one falls on that spectrum will depend upon how much wounding you have incurred in this life (and others), how much personal work you have done, and how susceptible you are to outside energies/forces. That means, you can be an empath with narcissistic traits. Or, there can also be narcissists (and there often are) who mimic empathic traits to get what they want. It takes a very well-discerning eye to be able to read the soul’s vibration in order to understand where someone falls on the spectrum, for what reasons, and their true soul’s intention.

I have come across several empathic people, with whom I have had close relationships, who vibrate an empath energy from their soul, but who have taken on the adaptive methods and tactics of narcissism because of their indoctrination and upbringing (abuse), lack of guidance from other empathic people in their lives, and self-worth issues. They possess a high degree of consciousness and do in fact have a conscience (narcissists do not). They are able to observe from a spiritual lookout point, so to speak, and assess who people really are and what their given intentions are in a situation. They are very good at discerning right and wrong, and therefore the truth. They posses third eye activity but they often doubt themselves because no one has ever affirmed they are correct.

The problem is, because these people are lost souls, floating from one relationship to another, one group to another, desperately seeking ways to fit in, desperately wanting to feel like they belong, they are willing to do anything to get the love and affirmation they desire. And that includes losing pieces of their soul for social acceptance. That includes mimicking behavior they deep down know is not healthy. But they are too scared to take a stand and act from their soul because their soul has never been acceptable in this world. These people will go huge portions of their lives exhibiting narcissistic behaviors because they have been taught these things are normal, in fact — it was done to them, and since they don’t trust their first reaction or innate knowing, they discount their soul in favor of societal norms and expectations.

On the other end of the spectrum are people who act like empaths a majority of the time (serving others, helping others, loving others), but when a major stressor arises in which they would need to put their foot down and make an ethical decision that would not be popular with the “crowd”, they forgo the right choice and their inner knowing because they do not want to feel left out, or because they are coerced into it. This is where they have only been partially confident in themselves and the slightest stress pushes them over the edge into cognitive dissonance, and because the crowd appears to have so many “intelligent, qualified” people affirming a certain decision (or trying to convince them to do so), they think they themselves must be wrong in their assessment and everyone else must be correct. Or, there is some sort of benefit they will receive from their “handler” if they act like them or agree with them (social standing, money, work, love, affection, friendship, etc).

Here’s an example: I’ve written before about abuse and the phenomena called “flying monkeys“. This is where an abuser utilizes friends, family, acquaintances, and business associates to taunt, shame, threaten, or guilt a victim so that the victim either can’t leave the abuse or is punished for doing so. As a result, an entire group of people are reinforcing the idea that the victim is at fault for the abuse and the perpetrator is innocent. It is complicity and turning a blind eye to abuse. An empathic person who is strong and confident in their discernment abilities would be able to feel the soul vibrations at play for the truth. Does the victim radiate fear, shame, or hopelessness? Does the perpetrator radiate the energy of acting, putting on a show, pretending? A strong empathic person would trust their first instinct about this and stand up for the victim.

On the other hand, the “lost souls” would forgo their inner knowing and put themselves into states of cognitive dissonance in order to be able to follow the crowd, play along, and please those around them. It’s like they were on the road to shedding the ego but a huge bump in the road throws them off course and they go back into an egoic monkey brain state. Because society is comprised of such a high narcissist to empath ratio, no doubt this empath would have to begin to emulate narcissistic attitudes and behaviors in order to fit in. Over time, this empath learns the only way to get the love and acceptance they so desperately seek is to act like a narcissist. When this pattern is engaged in for years and years, the inner knowing of the empath, their moral compass which has so strongly lead and guided them internally, becomes quieter and quieter until it cannot be heard at all. The empath then goes on to abuse people the way a narcissist would because the pull between the inner world and outer world is too much to handle.

In both of these cases, I don’t believe the empath ever stops being an empath. The tragedy is they are still empathic but have taken on adaptive methods to act like a narcissist. You can feel their conscience, you can see their soul behind their eyes, but their ego has imposed so much pain and suffering onto them, they are willing to do anything to try to get rid of it. And that usually involves trying to become someone else. Sadly, nothing can save these people except themselves. There is no amount of love, information, or acceptance you can provide these people to get them to see the truth of who they are. Those things are a good start, but ultimately they have to remember that there is another way; that there is a soul inside of them who wants to be themselves.

Why empaths can’t organize the way narcissists can (and why we need to learn to)

3D, 5D, abuse, ascension, chakras, ego, empath, energy, intuition, narcissism, relationships, stress

The dichotomy between empathic people and narcissistic people transcends space and time. If you’ve woken up to the spiritual undercurrent, the soul in the mundane, the sacred in the profane, the 5D hiding behind the oh-so obvious 3D you know that we are here to do more than pay bills, work a job, pursue a “good enough” relationship, and try to be a decent person until we die. We’re here to engage in a spiritual battle, one as old as time itself. The battle between good and evil, in order to cultivate change on this planet once and for all. Problem is, empaths have by and large been relegated to the position of a proverbial servant, and narcissists have taken the proverbial role of king.

Narcissists are in charge because they not only know how to take power and control with no care for checks and balances (aka: concern for others by way of empathy); they also know how to organize. By “organize”, I don’t mean straighten a drawer, fold clothes, and place bills in color-coordinated binders (or apps). I mean community organizing: coordinating cooperative efforts and campaigning carried out to promote specific interests. They know how to get other people to engage in their cause. They know how to get what they want. And because they lack the empathy to care about how their desires will affect other people, they will do anything to get their way — and usually do.

I’ve said this before and it may come as a surprise to you but empathic people need to learn from narcissists. Not only learn to identify the spectrum of narcissism to understand who to trust; not only to learn their tactics so you can keep yourself healthy in a world full of narcissism — but to learn their methods so we can replicate them in new, caring ways.

You see, our high degree of empathy has caused us to forgo everything we believe to be righteous, true, and worthwhile. We have put our own intuitive inklings, messages from the divine, and soul missions on hold so other people can be happy. So other people can remain comfortable. So other people will like us — at the expense of progress and peace. We have to understand we can still be empathic and kind people without tolerating evil, injustice, abuse, and general selfish bullshit.

In doing so, you will begin to feel selfish yourself. You will begin to question, “If I am also utterly driven, does that make me a narcissist? If I’ll follow my cause without abandon does that make me any better than them?”. Here is the answer to those queries: if you genuinely are acting with good intentions under the direction of your higher self or higher power with no ego involved, you are doing the right thing by finally — finally — taking the reigns and putting your foot down to stop and reverse evil. Evil people will have their ego bruised in the process. They will hate you. In the end, you will see they were only ever using you and never really liked or loved you to begin with.

Still, the guilt an empath internalizes when they have to take the lead and go against the groupthink can become all-consuming. It causes us to distance ourselves from others and disconnect instead of generating community and creating new functional systems. It is easier to play along and fly under the radar because 1). you won’t upset anyone and 2). you won’t be targeted. Do you think this is the kind of life your higher self or higher power would want for you? Living so plainly that you never ever upset people, thinking this is kindness and love? No, it is martyrdom and lifelessness. It is slavery and servitude. It is not true living or creating change for the greater good. Going to our graves as push overs and saints isn’t worth it because we will have done nothing for the world but make other people happy.

My goal when working with any empathic person is to remind them of their spiritual authority, how it has been usurped, what it feels like to reclaim it, and how to finally act on it. In fact, we have already been given all of the authority we need from the divine to fight the good fight and stand up to narcissist and evil in all forms. It is simply up to us to remember and take grip of it:

“I have given you authority to trample on snakes and scorpions and to overcome all the power of the enemy; nothing will harm you.”

Here’s what narcissists instinctively know that empaths need to learn:

  1. How to get people to believe in their ideas and cause. Narcs use all forms of cognitive dissonance and brainwashing to make their point accepted, but this can also be done in a healthy way. Explanation, enthusiasm, connectivity to the cause, understanding the effect of each other’s efforts, positive affirmations, and more.
  2. How to bring people together. Narcissists are great at generating groupthink and using people to appear connected, popular, and community-oriented. They use other brainwashed community members to convince the nay-sayers. As natural lovers, empathic people can also bring people together to generate a positive, single-minded mindset (rather than controlling groupthink) due to our high-vibe energy. Empaths — people want to be around you because you share your soul, even if this is still hard for you to believe because of what you have been told about yourself.
  3. How to use resources towards their cause. Because empathic people have been placed in roles of subservience and therefore codependency, we often feel stressed when it comes to generating resources such as money. Releasing this subconscious belief system will bring you more of what you need and much less stress. Be fearless in your desires — your vibe will attract what you need.
  4. Taking the lead. Empathic people I have met and worked with generally like to observe and play the backseat role rather than be the leader. Sometimes we are put in positions where we have to take the lead but this probably isn’t your comfort zone. We have to flip this dynamic on its head and stand up fearlessly to take the lead when evil is leading the group or cause. Anyone can upset the balance of power — us included. Stop feeling guilty for it — it’s not a manifestation of ego if you aren’t doing it for self-glorification.
  5. Playing up their abilities. Empaths downplay their talents and narcs play them up. We have to stop hiding, communicate what we are capable of and our past experiences so people learn to trust the empaths rather than dominate them. You deserve respect for what you have learned and done in life. You posses natural wisdom that narcs do not.
  6. Communicate. Narcissists do not communicate clearly, no, but they do know how to convince people of their ideas to win people over. Empaths often feel so much that communication becomes a huge barrier. You don’t know how to express the rich, complex inner intelligence to the outside world. The more you work on opening up your throat chakra, the more you can learn to communicate to the ego of others so they understand what you mean without having to go into lengthy explanations that many will not understand.

Empathic people, it is time to rise up. Now is the time. The battle is already half-way over. Stay strong and take your rightful seat at the table.