“I was born into the wrong family” syndrome

3D, 5D, abuse, ascension, children, ego, energy, holistic, karma, karmics, life lessons, narcissism, past lives, relationships, soulmates, stress

It’s fascinating how both common and rare phenomena can be explained once you open yourself up to the idea of past lives. Child prodigies, genius, and advances in science and the humanities suddenly take on much different meanings if you can overcome the cognitive dissonance enough to see such inspirations are “remembrances” rather than oddities.

As I write about in my soon-to-be-released book, How To Become Intuitive, my foray into past lives began in 2008 when I just so happened to listen to Dr. Brian Weiss (a Yale-trained psychologist whose own experiences with patients showed him reincarnation is real) on satellite radio. He spoke of past lives, lessons, and Earth being a high school of sorts. I thought the information he provided was interesting but I didn’t make up my mind about his assertions. For fun, I also visited a Past Life Regressionist in New York City where I was living at the time. While my experience with her wasn’t mind-blowing and it didn’t change me, these two instances set the stage for a life-altering supernatural experience I would come to have nearly ten years later: a soulmate spark in the eye that completely rearranged my perception of the world. I remembered a stranger. If this soulmate and I had known each other before, that must mean that we’ve all been here before and repeated the same life patterns (aka karma) before. See, in order for one thing to be true, other things also had to be true. And thus began the unraveling and deprogramming.

Since that time I’ve organically, experientially, learned so much invaluable information about the nature of reality — universal truth, not indoctrination — that I work to convey to clients in need of spiritual assistance. One of the patterns that nearly always presents itself within the lives of my empathic clients is this feeling that they don’t belong in their family of origin. Perhaps they’re the proverbial black sheep. Maybe they just feel uneasy around their family but don’t know why. Perhaps they can’t stand the fueds, trauma and pain everyone acted on but no one wanted to acknowledge. Either way, they do not feel their family is their “real” family. As such, they go their entire lives feeling like a bit of an orphan, surrounded by people yet altogether alone in their soul.

This is super common, and actually, very easily explained. See, the family you are born into may be physically, biologically related to you. They are not however, spiritually related to you. Your souls come from different places, so to speak. You are what I call “karmic partners”: a collection of spiritually diverse beings here to resolve old, altogether toxic and outdated karmic cycles that were never broken. These are people you’ve known before, which is why the relationships are so challenging. The problems don’t stem from nowhere — they are ancient expectations, patterns, and wounding presenting in the here and now.

Admitting to this reality is the first step towards healing. Releasing your reasonable expectations is the second. Yes, your parent(s) should have treated you like their child, not their servant, not like you couldn’t be trusted, not like you were the problem. They should have nurtured and cared for you — not just physically but also emotionally. There’s a good chance they or other family members did not. But the reality is that they are karmic, they will never be able to meet your needs — no matter how reasonable your expectations are.

In these instances, empathic people usually blame themselves. “There’s something wrong with me or I wouldn’t have been treated like that” they believe. This is the abusive programming we must work to overcome. The karmic system tells a person “if your circumstance is less than ideal, it is because you are less than ideal”. In reality, it is that you were born into a family in which real, healthy, and unconditional love is near impossible because of the karmic patterns, roles, and expectations everyone has of each other. No one, except perhaps you, can see the present moment — they only see and feel past lifetime pain and project it into the present.

In these situations, empathic people can go their entire lives waiting and hoping their family will change or develop an ounce of empathy for them and others. This rarely happens, though it is possible. Because karmic partners are often narcissistic, those people would have to desire change just as much as you do and then work towards it — something a narcissist almost never does. Therefore, it is best to release all expectations and attachments to such people. In some cases, empaths can still remain close to their family but simply not give into the hatred and pain. In other instances, empaths must leave and begin life anew, surrounded by people they have specifically chosen based on true compatibility, not blood or lineage.

Also, take heart because we are coming into a time where soul tribes will begin finding each other and reuniting. This means your spiritual relatives will find their way to you in this lifetime, no matter distance or other barriers. Society will not like this because it will require a massive reshuffling of social dynamics, and because it will break every unreasonable, prejudiced taboo. These people may not be biologically related but they will feel like home, like peace, and like love. They will help you survive in the days to come.

The empaths who can’t emote

3D, 5D, abuse, brain, children, core wounds, ego, empath, energy, intuition, mind-body, narcissism, stress, Uncategorized

First, an announcement. I wrote a book. A book full of invaluable information for you that will be published in the next few months. It’s called How To Become Intuitive. As soon as this current editing stage is done with the publishing company, I’ll be sharing pieces of it here on my blog. The knowledge contained in it is so vast and complex but essentially, it’s a guide to trusting your first instinct, why you/humanity hasn’t thus far, and how to tap back into your logical and mystical intuition once more in order to spiritually ascend — and the reality of what happens when you do. I explain how I once was an agnostic using my intuition for “second opinion” approaches with nutrition and my client’s physical health, and how a silent vow to the sky landed me in a world full of metaphysics, chakras, past lives, and supernatural experiences. My ego was dying and I began to see the world for what it really is, beyond the veil of falsehood. Through experience, I learned the words of the great ascended masters are true and everything they tried to teach us so long ago is still applicable — integral, in fact — to our daily lives. I learned that truth is truly stranger than fiction. As I say in my book, it wasn’t something I necessarily wanted to publish — it was something I needed to publish. I will be opening up pre-orders soon. Thank you for your support in advance. <3

Now, onto the empaths who can’t emote.

I have written before about strange adaptive methods empaths adopt, including The Empaths Who Act Like Narcissists. You can think of all human beings as possessing two separate operating systems. One is the subconscious mind which houses our real selves and true vibrational operating system. The other is the ego, the false persona we are forced into — or find our way into on our own — in order to be liked, successful, and never have to confront our own wounding. Most people operate out of either the ego or a mixture of both. Empaths, however, may take on an ego but it never truly feels like home. So a person can be born an empath, have a soul vibration of empathy, and yet act entirely narcissistic because of adverse experiences. It’s like they’re hiding their scared inner child.

Recently I have come across another kind of empath adaptation that is much harder to spot. These are the empaths who can’t presently emote. In other words, the hallmark sign of an empath is the level of emotion they release as an energetic frequency. That doesn’t mean these people are always crying and sad. It means they’re adept and have the inherent skill for turning a thing (intention, feeling, experience, expectation) into an invisible energy they then project as their own. They transmute and/or they translate a thing into an energy, an energy into a meaning, a meaning into an understanding. The empaths who can’t emote, though, lack the emotional programming in order to feel such feelings at all.

Typically, an empath’s emoting is directed inwards but ends up leaking outwards because empaths (until they are aware, at least) do not know how to stop leaking energy. This means an empath’s personal emotions will be leaked, how they feel about others and external circumstances will be leaked, how others are feeling will be leaked, how they feel about others leaks, and they will leak when others flat out ask or subconsciously demand it of them. This is because an empath’s subconscious mind is their natural state and this part of the brain is where authentic feelings are housed. Simply put, they leak vibrational frequencies all day long in response to what has happened in the past, what is presently happening, or who they or others are on a soul level.

The empaths who cannot emote (let’s call them ECE’s for short), on the other hand, share some similar characteristics. First they were either neglected as children, received no love or emotional nurturing, were otherwise abused, or shut down due to another trigger as they went on in life. They stopped feeling or never learned how to in the first place. Sometimes it presents in the form of pain in the body but cluelessness regarding their own emotional pain (aka: “I’m fine. I don’t think I have any trauma” despite having tons). It can also manifest as someone who feels apathetic but wishes they didn’t. Or in some cases it’s the person who wants a better life for themselves but feels a literal blank spot in their mind like they’ve blacked out certain memories which they therefore cannot access or feel.

The difference between these people and narcissists or sociopaths is that the ECE’s still possess compassion, still give love, and still on some level desire to work through their pain. They are OPEN to the idea of personal development, change, and correcting their thoughts or behavioral patterns. They also have a fair perspective of others and do not actively work to harm. They want to change, they just don’t see how they can. They want to feel, they just don’t remember what it’s like to do so. In other words, they don’t want to be in denial but aren’t sure how or why to get out of it.

In the past I may have considered these people somewhere on the middle of the empath to narcissist spectrum; not narcissistic but not highly sensitive. Now though, I see these people are a severe manifestation of abuse. In fact, as an Intuitive, ECE’S are the hardest people for me to “read” because it’s not enough for me to listen to what a person is telling me or observe how they are acting — I also have to read their energy for the truth. Naturally, ECE’S cannot presently emote so these tend to be my most difficult cases. Even they themselves do not know how they feel.

There is hope for ECE’S, though. Reversing this phenomenon requires a person tap back into their divine feminine energy (aka subconscious mind) in order to begin expressing emotion without fear. They typically operate from a purely logical mindset in which they fit into the toxic masculine system quite well as left-brained reasoners rather than right-brained spontaneous feelers. They must admit to their suppressed emotions and actually, actively make a point to feel them whenever and wherever they arise. Balancing these two aspects of the self and no longer being ashamed of the “irrational” feeling self is essential for healing.

Love is about generating energy (or have you forgotten?)

3D, 5D, abuse, ascension, chakras, ego, empath, energy, karma, karmics, life lessons, love, narcissism, relationships, sex, soulmates, twin flames

Living in a karmic world where real love is scarce will teach you one thing, if nothing else: love takes. It pulls. It breaks you into pieces, “never” to be whole or restored again. Your parents always fought. Your sister has too many marital problems. You said “I love you” to the person who turned their back in the end. You gave and gave and gave to people who took and took and took. Somewhere along the way, you learned to pretend you were happy, or worse — satisfied with fake love because everyone else told you they were happy with this kind of love too. Love for you has never been equal or balanced. It has never been a means of generating energy, only stealing and usurping.

Love on earth is a challenge because it is rife with karma. It is a lesson rather than a reward; a bus stop rather than a final destination. It is in our most intimate relationships that we learn who we are, who others are, and which personal and external deficits have led us to certain partners — but only if we see past the veil and into the reality — past the red flags disguised as holographic “green” lights and deep into the truth about the nature of relationships and love. Earthly love has never been about continual, sustainable generation of energy. It has been about whom one can take the most energy from — and come out on top in the end. Are you ready for something different? Are you ready to find what you have actually been searching for?

Deep within the soul of every empathic person is the desire for a mutually generative love. It has nothing to do with appearance, education, religion or upbringing. You have been told to find a partner to compliment your lifestyle. You have been told to find someone like you — or someone to make you look better. And this is where love goes wrong. The building of soul energy has nothing to do with your ego persona. It has to do with chakra resonance between two people — and how much good energy can be created between the two when they are their most honest.

Karmic partners (aka “twin flames” comprised of one empath and one narcissist, most often) are plentiful on planet earth and they reinforce the idea that love always stings; that love is unbalanced, lopsided, and that one person is a giver and one person is a taker, and at different times, partners vacillate between these extremes. Or, these relationships reinforce the idea that love is imperfect because people are imperfect and we should just accept it already: “That’s just how it is — we don’t live in a perfect world” (so I have been told).

We spend years or lifetimes looking for that one person who doesn’t just take, but who also gives. A love that doesn’t hurt. A love that reciprocates for the benefit of both parties involved. A love where both people can be givers and takers, without guilt, fear, or shame. Instead, we’re often met with lessons and challenges — giving too much or taking too much with little balance — real love always being just out of reach.

An empathic divine feminine paired with a toxic karmic masculine will always be drained of her energy by a man who cannot truly appreciate her or give back chakra energy as a form of reciprocity. He expects to be given to because of who he is. She expects him to come around because of who she is. So she waits and serves and waits. The relationship is unbalanced and ends up draining the divine feminine of energy from the heart chakra, sacral chakra, and third eye. She is sick of having to keep an eye on him. She is sick of waiting for him to grow up. She keeps waiting for him to be trustworthy. She keeps waiting for him to see her energetic value. She waits for a pursuit the way he pursues himself and others. Instead he seeks energy from external sources instead of contributing to the sacred relationship he is already “committed” to. Her energy is drained every time.

A divine masculine who is paired with a toxic feminine will learn that love is a game of chess, him always at the ready with an explanation for why he was a “bad” boy, always hoping he does not somehow get caught, hoping this is the day he will be rewarded for his “good behavior” much like a puppy dog, and always looking elsewhere for what he hopes will satisfy him for as long as it can. He ends up on the defense and disconnected from his own heart so he learns to live without its vital energy. He learns that love is only given sometimes — when his feminine seeks to manipulate or boost her own energy by using his to look good.

Both divine masculine and feminine pretend to be happy despite feeling deeply lonely and triggered, because they have never known what real love is. They assume their expectations are the real problem. The give in and give up. They compromise and live their own secret internal lives. That is, until they encounter their divine counterpart and begin the process of unlearning all of the dysfunctional patterns they accepted as normal or truth.

A healthy and balanced relationship between a divine feminine and a divine masculine who have resolved their karma and learned their life lessons is completely removed from unhealthy compromise and narcissistic energy vamping. It is about mutual growth and mutual generation of soul energy, rather than a constant back and forth, checks and balances always marked in the eternal ledgers of the mind. Its basis is on how much positive energy can be generated within the sacred confines of the relationship — and it is enjoyable to figure out how far the energy can be developed. When a divine feminine is supported by the openness and interest from a divine masculine, she will send him continual good energy that comes straight from the divine by revealing this energy as a thank you. He will continue to pursue the good energy from her because it is so deep and unravels in layers and layers and is able to maintain his interest unlike anything else ever has.

The divine feminine energy opens in response to heart-centered appreciation and affection, and does not seek to punish in order to receive, but seeks to build and grow. The growth never ends, unlike karmic relationships. A man trained in toxic feminine behavior will give gifts as displays of affection and interest while altogether withholding energy. A woman trained in toxic masculine behavior will serve and chase as a display of affection and interest. He will become smothered and exhausted by a woman who chases him and demands his energy. She will resent her masculine for the never-ending energy she gives to him, while he gives to external situations and her last. He is the runner and she the chaser. A healed masculine and feminine will reverse these roles — he the chaser and she the chased. Until this dynamic shifts, heartache and resentment will ensue.

The lies we have been sold about love are unraveling. Love is not sexual attraction. Love is not mutual interests. Love is not surface level compatibility. It is the spark of energy between people who desire to build it further. Like an arrow to the heart, it is elusive but once pierced and opened, goes on and on forever and the two, once cleared of karmic debt, will be able to pursue the true energy of love forever and ever.