How to open your heart chakra

Every single person alive on the planet is seeking love in their own unique way. Some have confused love for validation, acceptance, or grand displays of affection. Others have confused love with pain, heartache, and rejection based on their past experiences and in anticipation of future painful events. Some avoid love even when it looks them in the eye.

As I have said before, real love is unconditional, whether it comes from a romantic partner, parent, friend, or family member. Unfortunately, real love is also very hard to come by. You see, we have been taught to only give love to certain people and only receive it from others. We have been taught if want love, we must have something to give first. We have constantly opened and closed our hearts in the presence of others because we thought they deserved it or they didn’t — or because we were punished or judged for offering it in the first place (“there must be a string attached; they must be slutty/players/egotistical”).

In contrast, a peaceful world would look like humans giving and receiving love always, to anyone, simply because it is another soul. The level of love would not need to vary, but perhaps the expression would. You wouldn’t love the gas station clerk the same way you love your child, but you can still exude love, empathy, and respect nonetheless. You can still look them in the eye and smile and care, regardless of not appreciating how they did or did not treat you. It’s separating love from roles, karma, and shitty behavior.  

It’s not enough to just open your heart chakra. You have to figure out why it was blocked to begin with, and you also have to figure out why you are rejecting love at this very moment. Yes, you are — we all are. It is not enough to want to get love or give love. Unless you are actually open to receiving it, there is nothing you or anyone else can do to make you feel loved. Often, we choose partners who we subconsciously feel are unable to reciprocate love because it is easier to be slowly rejected or not truly seen. 

Not being able to receive love comes from a fear of being unworthy. Unworthy because of your past mistakes, unworthy because of what you lack, unworthy because few others have ever offered it to you in its pure form, unworthy because of how you have been treated. “It must be because I am inadequate” you may believe. 

If you are energetically sensitive or want to be, start with this visualization: locate your heart inside of your body. How does it feel? Tune into it deeply. You may be surprised to feel there is literal pain inside the organ itself, not just surrounding it, and not just emotional pain but literal physical pain that has embedded itself into the structure. Identify one tiny speck of pain — separate the individual pains from the overall pain — and acknowledge it, ask where it came from, then consciously release it. You should feel lighter instantly. Do this until your heart doesn’t ache. 

I have noticed many people have a literal energetic split in their hearts — a line down the middle separating the left and right ventricles (at the pulmonary valve), as though there is a chasm indicating a separation between masculine and feminine love and the ability to integrate the two. I’m not just talking about those with literal heart problems (though heart disease is a severe manifestation of a broken heart when we’re talking metaphysics). I mean we have craved feminine love (openness, receptiveness and whether you are a male or female doesn’t matter) but have been forced into more masculine displays of love because we have lived in a masculine system thus far. We have accepted the masculine love because we didn’t know there was another option, an option in which your soul can take the lead, rather than your physical body, superficial gifts, or desire to hide how you really feel because it was “childish”.

Many also have lodged their heart deep into their throat chakras. You have learned not to say the words you really want to say because of how you have been hurt or rejected in the past; because of how you were told love is naive, needy, silly and will cause you problems — or that the kind of love you want just doesn’t exist; how only children open their hearts and adults must learn to hide them because that’s what it means to age. A blocked throat chakra isn’t just about fear of speaking, being heard or seen, or finding the right words as to not risk rejection; it is about holding back your expressions of love.

The heart chakra is also called the fourth chakra. Understand that generally depictions of the chakras involve the front of the body — energy centers moving up from the base of the pelvis to the top of the head. But the energy isn’t intended to come in without exiting. It must be able to flow through or pass through the entire human structure without getting blocked. In this case, because the heart chakra is in the chest, you may notice upper back problems or thickening of the fascia between your shoulder blades. A blocked heart chakra can also cause breathing problems (which can lead to anxiety, allergies, poor sleep, and more), chest pains, and other chest restrictions as if you were wearing a very tight girdle around the area. It can also cause you to have very tight or restricted movement in your left shoulder blade (because, of course, the heart sits in the front left chamber of the chest). So don’t just look for fascial adhesions on the front of your chest (an indication you were blocking love from entering), also look to the upper back (to see if you were preventing it from truly touching your soul, or were trying to prevent it from leaving for fear of abandonment). Sometimes I see people (both men and women) who have such tight, thick skin (fascial adhesions) on their chest or upper back, I feel a huge density and wonder how they’re still breathing. It’s not a myth that you can die from a broken heart; fascia restricts blood flow, nutrients, and more to those areas. 

How to open your heart chakra:

  • Identify your core wounds and life lessons — these will tell you why you are rejecting or scared of love
  • Understand that real love is unconditional, without constant checks and balances, you can never get better in order to receive love, and if you mess up you can still be worthy of love
  • Get rid of fascial adhesions on your chest and upper back with myofascial release
  • Do energy work to eliminate old, toxic energies from your heart center
  • Offer love that is from the soul, rather than the 3D world
  • Accept that those who cannot love you back and in their own pain and wounds
  • Love yourself unconditionally, flaws and all
  • Figure out how your definition of love varies from true love because this will cause you pain
  • Accept what others have done to you in the past without projecting it onto the future — remain present
  • Offer love to everyone (kindness, respect, care) without expecting anything in return
  • Identify social or relationships problems and work to remedy them (complicity or being lukewarm is the antithesis of love); ie: change the karma; love is a feeling but also an action
  • Forgive yourself and others
  • Stop cycles of self-hatred or dependence on vices to feel okay
  • Breathe deeply
  • Stretch

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How to spiritually ascend

I’m going to keep this one short and sweet. The time we’ve come into requires discernment and courage. It requires us to hone our spiritual abilities in order to succeed. The undoing of karma we have been witnessing in it’s sped-up form over the last year + is causing many highly sensitive people to go inward in order to understand who they are, why they are here, and how to self-actualize in the midst of external chaos. Your problems are coming to the surface for a reason. Things seem hard for a reason. You can no longer ignore them and call it “living”. You need to do the soul work to resolve them now. 

The term “spiritual ascension” gets thrown around a lot but ultimately it is the process of undoing that which is dysfunctional, righting the wrongs, learning to trust yourself and your intuition or higher power, elevating to new levels of mental and emotional awareness, and becoming who you really are — against all odds. It is so hard — as I’ve said before — and it can feel like it could kill you. I promise you it will not. I promise you on the other side of it is peace. On the other side is an understanding of just what you are doing here to begin with. It is a way to exit the 3D reality (only understanding and believing that which you can clearly see or have been told to see) and into 4 and 5D realms in which the soul takes the lead rather than the physical needs and senses. 

I have written extensively about these topics in isolation but I believe putting them all together, in one place, can help many. This is what all of the great prophets, saviors, and “masters” have taught us. I have learned their words to be true through life experiences. Likely you have as well. Sadly interpretations of their words do not always lead us back to their original intent. So here is a checklist for you. 

How to spiritually ascend:

  1. Identify your karma and begin correcting or reversing it. (aka: your core wounds and life lessons)
  2. Let go of all attachments to people, places, things, needs, and expectations. “What is yours will not go past you” so there is no need to stress about clinging to that which you desire. 
  3. Eliminate dense, harmful energies of the past from your mind and body. (Use energy work, EFT, myofascial release, massage, stretching, etc)
  4. Transition from your stressed-out lizard brain into your prefrontal cortex.
  5. Heal your physical body with nutrition and other holistic therapies. 
  6. Stand up for yourself and your path at the cost of everything. Stand your ground against energy vampires who lead you away from it or thrown wrenches in your path
  7. Pursue truth, justice, and love. Avoid those who do not
  8. Trust your intuition or higher power. Do not take advice from people who lead you away from your inner voice. 
  9. Begin to read the energy in each situation you are in. Discern whether it is healthy or not.
  10. Limit external exposures to pointless groupthink stimuli (mindless entertainment, distractions, etc).
  11. Give up on hopes and dreams that have nothing to do with your soul. Avoid superficiality and climbing the ladder to success if it leads you nowhere real. 
  12. Accept that ultimately you are here to go at it alone because it is your path and yours alone. 
  13. Open your mind to new ideas. Do not accept or reject anything at face value. Give yourself time to come to conclusions no matter how obvious or outlandish. 
  14. Question everything. 
  15. Develop empathy, help those in need. 
  16. Tap into your subconscious mind for direction. If you don’t feel you can readily do this, use meditation, herbs, and other relaxation methods. Or work with me in Energy Readings
  17. Activate your chakras. 
  18. Leave abuse. 
  19. Get out of twin flame relationships. 
  20. Uncover your past lives and put the pieces of your personality together once and for all. 
  21. Wake up out of the spiritual amnesia.
  22. Do not overlook unethical deeds for someone else’s benefit. 
  23. Let your light shine. 
  24. Pursue what you are good at and here to accomplish.
  25. Love yourself and others unconditionally. 

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Everything you need to know about oxalate intolerance

What are oxalates and how do they make us sick?

Calcium oxalate is a calcium salt of oxalic acid. Oxalates are microscopic calcium crystals in the plant foods we eat, though some oxalates are found in animal products we normally don’t consume, such as crab shell, for example, but can be a problem due to cross-contamination or lazy food preparation practices. Oxalates are the most acidic organic acid found in bodily fluids and, commercially, are used to remove rust from car radiators. Some foods are higher in oxalates than others — cacao, nuts, rhubarb, tea, chard, tea, soy, buckwheat, quinoa, curly kale, and spinach are all considered extremely high oxalate — while animal fats and proteins contain virtually no oxalates. Other plant foods fall elsewhere on the range — from negligible to low to medium to extremely high.

In a healthy person, oxalate-degrading bacteria in the gut are supposed to consume oxalates and digest them so that they do not end up in human tissues. While most people eat oxalates without noticing specific symptoms, oxalate poisoning is a very real occurrence and can cause immediate symptoms like burning and closing of the throat, swelling, digestive upset, coma, and even death. These cases are rare, however, and slow oxalate “poisoning” is a much more common occurrence. 

There are several bacteria responsible for breaking down oxalates in our guts: oxalobacter formigenes, lactobacillus acidophilus and bifidus. Researchers aren’t quite sure how the bacteria, oxalobacter formigenes, gets passed onto a person’s gut — is it via the birth canal, touching/hugging/kissing from family members, or a exposure to dirt and soil-based organisms? The mystery remains, but we do know that people who have oxalate intolerance often have low or non-existent levels of oxalobacter formigenes in their gut. Strangely enough, a person can also have very high levels of oxalobacter formigenes in the gut but still not tolerate oxalates. Why? Genes definitely play a role. If a person has a family history of oxalate problems, it’s likely they share a gene with their relative that would cause them to not properly digest and eliminate calcium oxalate. Urea cycle disorders, heavy metal toxicity, leaky gut syndrome, and mineral deposition issues can also play a big role. 

A person with normal gut microbiota and a person who lacks the gene mutations that cause oxalate intolerance may be able to eat high oxalate foods their entire life and never suffer ill effects. A round (or more) of antibiotics that kills oxalobacter formigenes and other healthy bacteria like Lactobacillus or Oxalobacter formigenes, however, or a stressful life event that alters hormone levels, or exposure to an environmental pollutant, or a nutrient deficiency, may suddenly switch on oxalate-associated genes and start causing problems. However, because again, oxalates are technically classified as a poison, even a healthy person with no Leaky Gut Syndrome, and no genetic mutations, and who has healthy levels of oxalobacter formigenes has a chance of being intolerant of oxalates.

Oxalates work differently than your typical “allergen” or food “sensitivity” or “intolerance”. Because oxalates have been classified as a poison, oxalate symptoms occur when you have been exposed to too much at once — just like other food chemicals. When a person is habitually eating a very high oxalate diet, they not experience symptoms but because their body is storing oxalates in the human tissues instead. True oxalate symptoms may not show up for years and years and even then may act like a “bucket effect” — where a person needs to consume a certain number of oxalates in a given meal, or day, or week, for a spillover of symptoms to occur.

Because of oxalate deposition, a person with oxalate build-up must learn how to eliminate the stored oxalates safely. Here, I use the term “oxalate intolerance” or “oxalate sensitivity” loosely. Oxalates function much differently than another kind of intolerance, like gluten or dairy, for example. However, “intolerance” and “sensitivity” are easy-to-understand ways to describe a food that causes chronic health problems but that does not always elicit immune-mediated allergic responses. Some people are intolerant to gluten but do not experience an immune reaction the way a person with celiac disease does. It is similar with oxalates — the spectrum of noticeable reactions varies, and just because a person doesn’t experience an immediate responses does not mean they are not oxalate intolerant or sensitive because so much of oxalate intolerance is “silent”, latent or not very obvious (until a person knows better).

There are three “medically acknowledged” oxalate diseases that doctors diagnose and treat: Primary hyperoxaluria which is considered a rare genetic disorder of liver metabolism that can results in life-threatening damage to the kidneys. The liver doesn’t create enough of a certain enzyme that prevents overproduction of oxalate, or the enzyme doesn’t work properly. Enteric hyperoxaluria is the second type which includes several intestinal diseases like Crohn’s disease and short bowel syndrome. Also certain surgical procedures like Bariatric surgery may increase the absorption of oxalate from foods. Dietary hyperoxaluria is the third type which is caused by eating a diet of high oxalate content foods. This can cause high levels of oxalates in the urine and can increase the risk of hyperoxaluria or kidney stones. Generally diet changes will decrease the level of oxalates in one’s urine but it takes longer to eradicate oxalates that have been stored in the tissues, which is why urine testing (such as an Organic Acids test) can be flawed. 

However, modern medicine has yet to acknowledge just how common oxalate intolerance and storage may be — and it’s connection to many common illnesses. Many people have anecdotally demonstrated that the reach of oxalates goes far beyond these seemingly rare inherited diseases. Studies prove that oxalates are known to deposit themselves in human tissues — including but not limited to: the thyroid, inner ears, skin, myofascial system, eyes, kidneys, liver, digestive tract, jaw, parathyroid, arteries.

Common oxalate intolerance symptoms and conditions:

  • Vulvodynia
  • chronic yeast/fungal infections
  • urinary tract infections
  • B vitamin deficiencies
  • muscle pain
  • joint pain
  • myofascial pain
  • calcification
  • headaches
  • Fibromyalgia
  • chronic fatigue
  • hormonal imbalances
  • leaky gut syndrome
  • autoimmunity
  • thyroid cysts
  • cloudy urine
  • kidney stones
  • kidney infections
  • cysts
  • iron deficiency
  • mineral deficiency
  • irregular blood pressure
  • Interstitial Cystitis
  • Cystic fibrosis
  • Autism

Common oxalate “dumping” symptoms:

  • Cloudy urine/crystals in the urine
  • Grainy or sandy stools (or changes in color of stools)
  • Skin rashes
  • Incontinence or frequent urination/urgency
  • Painful urination
  • Vaginal pain
  • Eye pain
  • Insomnia
  • Pain from previous surgery or injury sites
  • Irritability, anxiety, anger, depression
  • Lower back or abdominal pain
  • Kidney stones
  • Fatigue
  • Cravings for high oxalate foods

Again, there are tests one can order to determine if they are in fact dealing with an oxalate intolerance (an OAT). However, these tests can be flawed because oxalates go through phases of storage and elimination. One may be in a storage phase at the time of testing and therefore will not be eliminating large quantities in their urine sample, which would lead to a false negative. Great Plains Laboratory offers testing and lab values for oxalate intolerance.

Starting a low oxalate diet

It’s very easy to eat an extremely high oxalate diet of over 1,000 milligrams of oxalate per day if you are eating supposedly healthy foods like sweet potatoes, spinach, concentrated tomato sauces, whole wheat, cacao or chocolate, dates, nuts and seeds, cinnamon or curry powders, black tea, beets, and gluten-free or grain-free and dairy-free alternatives that are made with nuts and nut butters, teff, quinoa, hemp and soy. Eating extremely high oxalate is not a rare phenomenon and in fact encouraged by many popular diets such as vegan and Paleo. 

It is essential to reduce your oxalate intake very slowly. I cannot stress this enough. If you have been eating a very high oxalate diet for most of your life or you have significant health issues, this is especially important. A low oxalate diet is considered to be under about 50 mg of oxalates per day. Sometimes between 30 and 50 mg is recommended when eating “low oxalate”. Because oxalates build-up (store themselves) in human tissues, start the low oxalate diet very slowly and gradually increase the strictness to avoid a sudden “dumping” (as it’s called) of oxalates being liberated from your tissues.

For example, an average oxalate intake may average over 300 mg daily for someone who is not monitoring their intake. So decreasing very suddenly from 300+ mg of oxalates to under 50 could cause a sudden exit of oxalates that have been stored in tissues. This could result in painful symptoms for a person, including kidney stones, infection, pain, or whatever the original oxalate symptom was. You could end up feeling very sick before you start to feel better.

In my health coaching practice, I have had success with immediately reducing oxalate intake for clients dealing with chronic pain conditions like Fibromyalgia and muscle and joint pains from extremely high to high, then medium, to low over the course of several weeks or months. But in working with clients with a history of kidney stones, osteoporosis, irritable bowel syndromes, or who are in seriously poor health, I always make sure they very gradually reduce their oxalate intake.

You will need to monitor how a lowered oxalate diet is affecting you. If your oxalate “dumping” is coming on too quickly or strong (you are having a sudden flare of symptoms), you should increase your oxalate intake to stop the “dumping”. In the case of clients with a history of kidney stones, I know that causing them to “dump” too quickly could result in large or painful kidney stones, which is very important to avoid because no one wants an unplanned trip to the E.R. 

Also consider that oxalates naturally bind with minerals. So if a client comes to me with a low iron count, low magnesium, potassium, or calcium, I immediately think of oxalates. It may sound strange for low calcium to be a symptom of oxalate intolerance (because oxalate is calcium after all), but keep in mind there are different forms of calcium your body utilizes to keep blood levels in check — and calcium oxalate is not one of them.  

In addition to a lowered oxalate diet, there are also other tricks you can use to absorb fewer oxalates that you are eating, including, supplementation with calcium citrate or other minerals in the citrate form. When taken slightly prior to meals (about 5-20 minutes before), oxalic acid in the intestine combines with the citrate mineral to form insoluble calcium oxalate crystals. These crystals are then eliminated in the stools, commonly, and do not end up in the human tissues. When a person’s diet is low in calcium, soluble oxalic acid can be absorbed from the intestine into the bloodstream. In this way, it is helpful to eat dairy-rich foods if you can tolerate them, and if you have an oxalate problem — it means fewer oxalates will be absorbed by your body. The tricky part for people who have to eat dairy-free is finding non-dairy sources of plant calcium that are not high oxalate (because they almost always are) — this is why supplementation before meals can be helpful.

A common misconception is that cooking denatures or destroys oxalates. The reality is, it does not destroy oxalates and fermenting reduces oxalate content only in very few cases, but in some ways we can manipulate how we prepare foods to reduce the oxalate content. Boiling, for example, reduces the overall oxalate content of food because some will be drawn into the water.

Oxalates are also formed in the human liver. Some people experience what is called “endogenous oxalate production” which compounds an oxalate intolerance. This is where your body converts common substances like synthetic vitamin C, amino acids (like glycine), calcium or vitamin D supplements into calcium oxalate. So even if you are not eating a high oxalate food, you may be predisposed to converting non-oxalate substances into oxalate. This is purported to be caused by a vitamin deficiency like vitamin B6 as well as an interruption in the glycolate pathways caused by genetic mutations/inborn metabolism errors. If you have had your genes tested, you can look to see if you have ACAT, AGT, AGXT, SLC26A, MTRR, and ACE mutations which can contribute in various ways.

Avoiding foods rich in protein like meats and bone broths, gelatin, or synthetic vitamin C may be necessary to work around one’s oxalate intolerance/storage problem. Some species of mold or fungus like Aspergillus and Penicillium produce oxalates as well so there is reason to believe that infection by a certain pathogen can also cause oxalate production and intolerance. Supplementation with specific forms of B vitamins, such as biotin, P5P, and adenosyl or hydroxy B12 may also help.

Supplements that may help oxalate intolerance:

  • Minerals in the “citrate” form: These are generally taken 5-20 minutes before a meal to bind with the oxalates in the foods being eaten. Magnesium citrate, calcium citrate or potassium citrate are the most commonly used. Some people should not take calcium supplements, however, so magnesium may be the safest source.
    Also note that because oxalates bind with minerals, a person may be mineral deficient and need additional mineral supplementation regardless. Taking a multi-mineral supplement or using dermal magnesium chloride oil can help to reduce pain and symptoms of mineral deficiency
  • Anti-inflammatories: natural pain medications like Arnica (for muscle/joint pain caused by oxalates)
  • MSM: for muscle/joint pain.
  • Curcumin: as an anti-inflammatory. Note that turmeric is high oxalate but its active ingredients called curcumin is low oxalate. 
  • Essential oils: essential oils are used for many purposes, including everything from anxiety and depression to skin problems, sleep disturbances, infections, hormonal balance, and more. Oils generally have zero to a negligible level of oxalates so they are permitted on this diet. 
  • Vitamin B6: generally the active form called P5P is recommended over the synthetic B6 form.
  • Methylated B vitamin: your needs for this will vary depending on your gene mutations, so be sure to work with a practitioner before starting a B vitamin supplement. Low B6, B7 and B12 can contribute to oxalate intolerance. 
  • Homeopathics: homeopathics are used for various ailments and are generally considered low oxalate. Beware that homeopathic pellets often contain lactose so they are not appropriate for those with dairy allergies, or homeopathic tinctures contain alcohol so they are not appropriate for those with histamine intolerance.  
  • Humaworm for kids: this is an antiparasitic but also great for killing yeast that is associated with oxalate intolerance.
  • Oxalobacter formigenes probiotic supplement (this is not yet available on the market but projections show it should be available soon).
  • Biotin: to kill the yeast infections that oxalates can cause, or to rebuild Biotin stores as oxalate intolerance commonly causes Biotin deficiency
  • epsom salt baths to raise magnesium levels or act as a pain reliver for muscle/joint pain
  • Lactobacillus acidophilus and bifidobacterium lactis: they consumes 86-100 percent of oxalates in the gut even if you do not have adequate levels of Oxaloacter formigenes.
  • High-quality molecularly distilled fish oils: for the vitamins A, D, E, and K content, which aide in oxalate elimination in the bowels
  • Chondroitin sulfate: may help prevent the formation of calcium oxalate crystals
  • Digestive enzymes and supports: including betaine, protease, lipase, amylase, and possibly ox bile to stimulate digestion and bile production to stop oxalate absorption in the gut
  • Taurine: (if low in the plasma upon testing, which is common) to stimulate bile salt production to reduce oxalate absorption
  • Vitamin E and selenium: they have been shown to reduce oxalate damage
  • Arginine: to prevent oxalate deposition in the tissues

As with any diet or supplement changes, you must speak with your healthcare provider before making any changes. You do not want to guess as to which supplements you need or how much oxalate to reduce in your diet upon starting a lowered oxalate diet. It is truly that serious. 

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