Empath sabotage type 8: karma shifting

This is a heavy topic. I’ve not only been through it myself but I have witnessed it happening to my clients. It’s miserable and it sucks, in all honesty. I’ve written seven (possibly eight) other blog posts on the topic of empath sabotage and this is one of the biggies. If you are highly sensitive or empathic, this has likely been happening to you your entire life, whether you have realized it thus far or not. 

Let me explain this phenomenon to you. 

We live in a world or duality. Up and down, day and night, sleeping and awake. We also live in a world of many different types of people. I am not speaking about external identifiers in this case (sex, religion, ethnicity, etc). I am speaking about matters of the soul: empathy versus narcissism. In this world exist three types of people: empaths, narcissists, and those somewhere in the middle. Also note that empaths can exhibit many traits of narcissists if they have been surrounded by them or otherwise influenced by them. Narcissists can play the empath part. It gets confusing. Only by feeling a person’s energy and intention can you differentiate. 

We all also have our own individual and collective karma. That is, the problems we need to work through in the here and now in order to spiritually ascend. Without resolving these things, you will come back lifetime after lifetime, or you will experience in this lifetime, the same problems, hassles, triggers, and pains. 

Empaths by and large carry a greater burden of karma because 1). you have been here so many times and hold the burdens of those lifetimes within your subconscious mind and body, and 2). others have shifted their own karmic consequences onto you to purposefully avoid the consequences of their actions, or to not be found out as egoic and you have accepted it. It’s the classic “shoot the messenger” archetype — it is easier for others to blameshift rather than accept the karma. It’s also like being thrown to the wolves while the proverbial mob cheers at the bloodshed because no one else wanted to be the sacrificial lamb. Empaths have always been the sacrificial lamb. 

Point blank, here’s how to stop that shit:

Undoing your own karma and that others have forced on you is the best course of action because then you will be free and find peace. You will no longer be sick, stressed, and indebted. It’s not fair and it is abusive when others do this to you, but you can make it better yourself — I have seen it and done it. 

If all else fails, remember this — judgment day will come. It may not be now. It may not be soon. They may keep getting away with the transplaced pain. But everyone will have to answer for what they have done. They will only get away with this for so long. And unfortunately for them, the groupthink will mean nothing when it comes to the scales of justice. 

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The point of remembering your past lives is to forget them

I want to tell you some more truth today and let you in on some personal details; how I ended up in this place because it speaks to the heart of why I do what I do as a coach and how it can help you. The very startling supernatural experiences I have had have led me down a road I never thought I would trek: into past lives, chakras, and energy work. I didn’t want to go here. I didn’t know it was real. I avoided it for as long as I could. I shoved my intuition so far down my throat it got lodged there. Every time I read someone’s ego without realizing it, I tried to hide it by internalizing it as a stress response. I tried to pretend it wasn’t there for their sake. Then I realized it was a gift I could use to help people, instead of make myself sickened by its strength. It’s weird, it’s different, sometimes off-putting, and very few believe it. Not exactly a money-making scheme. I wish I could come up with twenty Paleo recipes each week and make that my shtick. It’s just not my path and I’ve carried a great deal of shame (the lowest vibration) because of it. I’ve finally made peace with it.

Every word I write comes from an intention of the heart and every piece of advice I share comes from living these things myself — not regurgitating words from a book — and from asking my intuition or higher power what it all means, then channeling the results for you. I say the things that need to be said, not because it is popular or cool but because it is the deepest truth I have been able to find and because I have wished for someone to share such insights with me. I want you to be prepared in ways I was not. 

The backstory is this: I only operate in the “light” side of things. I have never dabbled in any black arts, shamanism, or witchcraft (I know I can get crucified for calling these out because many believe in “good” spells but I don’t mess around with intention after what I have witnessed). I have never “tried” to conjure anything or speak with the dead. I was never allowed to use a Ouija board (even writing that word gives me the creeps). The law of attraction bores me because it is wishing for things we think are good for us when the Universe may have other plans. In all honesty I don’t even pray in the traditional hands-folded sense but I believe in the final authority of a higher power (though I don’t think it is what we have been told it is) and ask I questions which always seem to be answered which has aided in my spiritual ascension and weakening of the ego. I was shown my blind spots then I changed. I learned how things connected, the cause and effect. I saw what I had to do in order to “flip the karmic script” and self-actualize. Often I get forced into it because not following this path is harder than just giving into it. I ask for help and I always receive it thought I don’t speak with angels, saints, deceased love ones. Simply put, I know that both good and evil are real and that’s why I work hard to fight against the latter when other human beings present in that abusive form. It’s like the line from that movie: “The greatest trick the Devil ever pulled was convincing the world he didn’t exist.” He exists in us when we choose it.

If we live in a dumbed-down groupthink state in which we live for the holidays, Facebook interactions, sitcoms, etc. we are distracted into believing that bad things only happen from time to time; or to other people, and there’s nothing you can do about it. We think if we are good people bad things won’t happen. The truth is, once you choose to self-actualize at all costs and no longer sell your soul for 3D acceptance, you will be tested by dark forces be it narcissists, karmic debt, or your Biblical interpretation of Satan. Bad things don’t happen randomly, they happen as a result of karma, or as a result of choosing the light. I have had people test me, tear me down, and throw wrenches in my path for pursuing my healing work. I have had to prove myself time and again and at the end of it, they got scared because of how accurately I saw their intentional misdeeds for who, what, why, when, and how they really occurred. Details, people, and they were spot on. 

I have almost never shared my personal beliefs on these things because well, I thought it was a distraction from what my clients believed. My main goal is to support you in what you believe, not talk you out of it; to strengthen you so you cannot be f*cked with any longer. I put my personal beliefs aside so that you can shine and I can lead you to your higher truth. But when it comes to past lives, I cannot stress enough that they are real, we have all been here before many times, your fears and phobias don’t come from nowhere, your health problems don’t come from nowhere, your attraction or repulsion to certain people is not for no reason, and until you resolve your karma you will be stuck in a prison system. Past-life karma is energetic bars of indebtedness, after all, keeping you at one plane of self-realization.

I give you this background info today because I want you to see that I once too did not believe. I had no reason to and was happily agnostic. God was a question I saw no rush to answer. I wanted my atheist friends to accept me. I didn’t want to upset my Christian friends. My spirituality was yoga and writing and trying to be kind. It wasn’t until I saw flashes of light come from multiple people’s eyes (both friend and foes), saw good omens, repeated very obvious past lives in this incarnation, experienced inexplicable synchronicity, had telepathic connections, saw auras, saw angels, and more did I believe it. It’s easy to say these things, but it’s harder to believe them. One person can’t confirm this but two people can, if they are honest. Some of us are here to tell others this place isn’t what we have been told. The interpretations I learned in Sunday school were vastly misleading. 

Supernatural occurrences do not happen for no reason; they are a call to action, a form of confirmation, or an answer to prayer. However, seeing them requires a process of tearing down one’s ego because the ego blocks all sorts of supernatural phenomena from being seen. The ego is the skeptic. The skeptic keeps you seeing what it wants you to. Also, these things cannot be seen or felt by those who do not trust or are not open to them. As an empath, you are open. It’s a catch 22 because you must have a trusting, inquisitive energy first in order to be able to see the magic second. You do not have to believe it is real in order to find it. You simply have to be open, ask, and trust that in due time, or with necessity it will appear. 

Now, onto past lives. 

Think back to almost every piece of literature ever created. The commonality is that the protagonist is generally always faced with a choice: do I choose the head over heart, or heart over head? Does the king choose the peasant, or does he choose the royal lady in waiting? In his heart he knows what he wants, but the external pressures to maintain appearances may get the best of him. When he makes the heart over head decision, the audience loves it because it’s what we all wish we could choose in life: forgo the karma (stock societal expectations) and venture into dharma (your true life path). Head over heart, head over heart, head over heart — in many lifetimes we could not choose this because of taboos. In many lifetimes, heart over head decisions were forbidden or punishable by death or severe loss.

In order to understand who you really are, why you operate the way you do, how to overcome your dysfunctions and health problems, you first have to uncover who you have been before. The longer you have been open to such things, the easier it will be to see them: the patterns that keep presenting themselves, the cycles you always find yourself in, your hidden fears and talents, your roles, your energy, your health problems, your likes and interests, and on and on and on. 

But the purpose of uncovering your past lives is not just about finally understanding yourself. It is about finally letting go of the past so you can remain in the present and be open to the future. It’s about relinquishing the power your assumed roles and the expectations of others have had on you in incarnation after incarnation. It is about choosing what your higher power/intuition/the Universe has for you at the expense of your ego. 

Once you accept who you have been, you can begin the lengthy process of transmuting the pain; the pain of what has happened to you, what others have done to you, what you have chosen to your own detriment, how you died, the cycles you’re repeating with others in this lifetime, etc. etc. The ego wants you to remain in the pain, the prison, forever. It’s what keeps the good from rising. It’s what keeps us enslaved to the evils of the past. Processing what has happened to you, trying to understand and come to terms with it, then forgiving and releasing it because you see it is no longer relevant and no longer serves you is the only way to peace. It is living a life in which you are not constantly triggered, brought down, and stressed. It is where you can make healthy, independent choices that are for your enlightenment and future. It doesn’t happen overnight and can take quite a while. It will take you to your darkest places, your core wounds. But it’s what we all need on a personal level and it’s what humanity needs at this point in its evolution in order to break free into peace. 

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Why there’s harm in labeling everything a “candida problem”

My foray into holistic health and wellness started after a Hashimoto’s Disease diagnosis in 2007 which I could find no relief from. Medication didn’t help my thyroid or symptoms. So, what would?, I wondered. Enter The Yeast Connection and Women’s Health by Dr. William Crook — a book I just so happened to find in a book store while I was living half of the time in Brooklyn, NY and half of the time in Westchester. Books made for great companions on long train rides to and from the city.

After abiding by The Yeast Connection diet, in four short months my thyroid lab work improved by half. It was no coincidence; it was basic cause and effect. After that time, and with many other dietary tweaks, I was able to completely get off of all medication and keep my thyroid numbers stable (even during and post pregnancy). Needless to say, this information about yeast, or candida, it’s often called, was a life-changer. 

But over the years since going to nutrition school and working as a Health Coach, I’ve seen behind the scenes at some of the biggest wellness brands in the industry. Big names, big circles, big ass facades, big product to sell. In these companies, we were directed to assign most clients to one of two or three categories: they either likely had yeast problems, parasites, or they had SIBO (small intestinal bacterial overgrowth). We couldn’t diagnose or treat, of course, but we could offer information for the consumer to do with what they pleased. 

While almost all of the time (which I take very seriously), my clients left happy and wrote back weeks or months later reporting how much the information had helped them, I couldn’t shake the few who seemed to be unable to rid themselves of candida, no matter what they did. Short of seeing a functional medicine doctor, there was little more that could be done for them. And often, the functional medicine doctors they were seeing had less information or help for them than the health coaches I was working alongside, which put clients in a difficult position. Mainstream doctors wouldn’t even acknowledge yeast overgrowth and holistic doctors had few answers. Just how could they kick their candida “problem” for good?

In the holistic health and nutrition community, candida is seen as a means to an end. That is, tell someone who has all the symptoms of candida about candida and what to eat for it or what to avoid — or which products to buy — and voila! problem solved. This leads to super strict paleo, keto, and no-fruit-whatsoever diets which are nearly impossible to maintain for the long term. (Check the social media of your favorite paleo celebrities and you will likely see that even they have reintroduced gluten-free grains or legumes at some point).

Clients ended up coming to me “post paleo” or post other-famous-paleoish diets other nutrition experts had recommended because they not only still had yeast problems, but they lost way too much weight, developed anxiety from the constant food prep and kitchen demands, lost their social life, and worried every food under the sun was making them sick. This just isn’t helpful. 

First, know that yeast overgrowth is a real phenomenon and I am not trying to insinuate it is not. I have seen it on lab work, and I have seen it in, well, “graphic” pictures my clients have sent to me over the years (bowel movements, mucus, etc etc.). Our modern foods, combined with stress and lack of healthy bodily flora, hormonal imbalances, and overuse of antibiotics has led to yeasty people. “Autointoxication syndrome” and raised levels of acetaldehyde are but two mainstream recognitions of this.

However, that said, if you have candida overgrowth that you cannot kick no matter which diet, supplements, or other remedies you try, there is a deeper underlying issue and you need to seek medical support. Throwing supplements and yet another strict diet at yeast over and over again for years will likely not stop the problem. You likely have an underlying health condition that is causing the yeast in the first place. You see, yeast is a symptom. 

Some common underlying medical conditions that can cause yeast include: kidney disease, liver disease, chronic dehydration, adrenal fatigue, gene mutations or methylation problems, rare inherited genetic diseases, urea cycle disorders, heavy metal poisoning, chemical exposure, hormone imbalances, autoimmunity or depressed immune responses, cancer, nutritional deficiencies, G.I. diseases, contraindicated medication, and more. 

I am not saying these things to scare you into thinking you have a terrible disease. I am telling you these things so that, if you are at the end of your rope with trying to improve the yeast problem, you won’t give up and will get proper medical attention. Please don’t go years thinking the next diet will rescue you. Healthy diet (in which you avoid your personal allergens, such as gluten, dairy, oxalates, salicylates, histamine, and/or sulfur) is essential. Getting in adequate nutrients daily is essential. Herbs and remedies are sometimes great. But at the root of the candida problem that cannot be helped is a medical issue and I encourage you to seek proper testing and diagnostics from a medical professional who can analyze your individual history and symptoms. 

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