How to avoid the narcissist traps

Imagine you’re trapped in a maze. To each side of you are tall, tall hedges that you can’t see through or around. Every path looks the same. You aren’t sure which way to turn and every now and then, despite your hard work and navigation skills, you keep hitting dead ends. The longer you’re trapped in this maze, the more your body begins to react — your adrenaline rushes, your cortisol spikes, your other hormones go crazy as you realize you’re in a prison of sorts, and you start to sweat or cry as you become lost in despair. Will you ever escape, you wonder. On top of that, someone has laid traps for you — they want you to fail so you can never escape the maze. This is but a cat and mouse game that is fun for them. What kind of person would do such a thing, you wonder again. Your hope fades and you accept you will be trapped in here forever.

This is how it feels to be in close proximity to a narcissistic personality and in the throes of their ego games. Many empaths (most, really) have lived this their entire lives without realizing it. In your group of close family, friends, romantic partners, or work associates exists at least one of these types of people, without a doubt. As I’ve said before, I’m not suggesting you diagnose these people, and I work hard to not do that either, but you deserve to understand the system that you are unwittingly a player in. Empaths and narcissists attract each other over and over again, both in the here and now and from past lifetimes, and the goal in these relationships is always to heal some deep deep core wounds.

That said, once you recognize you are in these traps, you can begin your healing process without the influence of narcissistic people. I want you to know how you are being targeted so you can stop that shit right now. It’s never ever the victim’s fault, so please know that. However, it will be up to you to escape because these people are 99% of the time incapable of change. This isn’t fair but it’s the harsh reality and a symptom of a sick society. You have to save yourself.

Here’s how to recognize and avoid the narcissist traps:

Do not accept help from these people. They often hide behind do-good personas to pull empaths in. This means any forms of charity, good will, and support always have a string attached. If you accept their help, you will owe them something in the future — if only your devotion, time, energy, and self-respect.

Do not let these people into your inner world. Once they get in your head, they use your weaknesses against you to make you doubt your instincts and intuition.

Do not accept gifts. Presents, evenings out, sex, money, etc. always are a form of debt that will be expected for you to pay back, or they will use it against you in the future when they do something shady; ie: you don’t have a right to call out their behavior because look at all they have done for you.

Do not get into arguments with these people. You will never succeed, even if you are right. They will pull you into doubt, insecurity, and the blame game instead of truly hearing what you are saying and taking it to heart.

Do not give them the power to make decisions in the relationship. If you give them power over you, they will rig things in their favor and put you at a disadvantage.

Do not give them any energy. This means, do not allow them to elicit a stress response or love response of any sort. It feeds them energetically and they will come back for another fix.

Accept they will create their own alternative storylines. This can mean they turn social groups, friends, and family against you with their sick version of reality. This is normal and do not give it any credence. If others cannot think for themselves, that is their issue, not yours. Remember, few people care about the hard truth — they care about social acceptance.

Remember that they purposefully inject subconscious meanings into the things they say. This means yes, they are passive aggressive on purpose to trigger you. If you respond to the passive aggression it will only feed them further because they will call you crazy or blameshift. Ignore, ghost, etc.

Stack the odds in your favor. Most empaths have played a passive role in life, allowing things to happen to them rather than creating actively. Narcissists are so good at stacking the odds in their favor and we have to learn from them. Go out of your way to make things better for yourself — no one else will.

Tell your story openly. The only way to stop these cycles is to tell the truth about the abuse you have endured. Please hear me when I say, this may not make things better in the temporary, but in the long term, we can change the world with our stories.

Overall, please be safe. Sometimes these people are downright violent or so devious they will do anything to break you. Often, telling others in order to get support or help will lead to nowhere because unless others have been through this pain themselves, they will not understand the severity. Recognize the traps, then tip toe around them so you are no longer caught up in the maze. Save yourself.

Your core wounds hint at your hidden talents

Your core wounds and your natural abilities or aptitudes are not separate — they are one and the same. The ways the world has wounded you and left emotional or mental blockages or barriers does not signify you are somehow lacking, inadequate or incapable. In fact, it is the very opposite: your wounds are part of your life path, destiny, and purpose here. What if I told you you were only ever wounded in these ways in order to dim your gifts to make life easier for those around you? It is true. 

The majority of clients that come to me have thyroid diseases, which, as I’ve said before is one component of a fifth chakra imbalance. That is, having too little available energy for expression, or having too much chaotic energy imposed on that area of the body. Many people with thyroid disease doubt their perception, way of communicating, and creative inclinations. If left to their own devices, these people are truth seers, who need to start telling the truth about what they have witnessed or experienced, but have suppressed and hidden it for others’ benefit. 

We all know what happens when we speak a truth others don’t like: we get punished. Whether it be socially, within family dynamics, financially or within workplaces, or other relationships, the message is always the same: if you tell the truth and I don’t like it, I will find a way to hurt you. Is this really about you, or is it about the comfort level of other people? Why would others be scared of this part of you? Because they don’t want to have to face the truth. If allowed, your perceptions would bring about great societal change. And despite constant attempts at societal change by great leaders and laypeople alike, our human progress is consistently stymied by those in power. 

The same is true for other wounds, such as abandonment issues which are oh-so common and truly at the root of thyroid chakra problems (again, it’s the idea that authentic expression can lead to loss and isolation). If given the chance, those with fears around abandonment are often capable of bringing people together — not separating — because they understand how painful this wound is and want to prevent others from experiencing it. And in order for this to happen, others would have to lose their grip of control. So instead of allowing for inclusion, working together, and cooperation, you are constantly re-wounded into thinking you don’t deserve love, help, and community; that there is something intrinsically wrong with you that leads you into isolation. 

Everything we experience as wounding is in fact an inversion, or perversion, of the truth. If we allow ourselves to fully learn and act out our core wounds (and therefore, karma), we can see that any such inversion is in fact calling you back to your path and purpose here. It is not meant to detract from your abilities and ways you can help the world with your unique gifts, it is meant to bring you into alignment with what you were always good at, with what you were always meant to do. If it weren’t, others would not have such strong visceral reactions to it. They have only asked or forced you to suppress this aspect of yourself because actualizing it would bring about change that would force them out of positions of power, out of their comfort zones, and face to face with their own karma. 

Each time you become stressed or face a physical stress response, ask yourself what the overarching theme is (I do this for you in Energy Readings). Once you understand the overarching theme, you can deconstruct it to see how each challenge you are facing or have faced in life is pointing and directing you back to overcome this wound. In other words, most of your problems likely stem from it and there are ways to “flip the script” in order to stop allowing it to wound you, and to choose new healthy behavioral and mental or emotional patterns that no longer perpetuate the same cycles. When you consistently choose new patterns, instead of the old ones, you begin to strengthen yourself and self-actualize. You begin to develop your skills and talents, rather than be hurt by them. They become an asset instead of a liability. 

When it comes to your core wounds, remember they are an inversion, not a truth. They point you back to what you are so inherently good at that others preferred you not posses. Now is the time to begin developing them. In doing so, you will conjure up your karma, and that of those around you. It will not be easy to actualize these skills, but the alternative is hiding or ignoring them the rest of your life which will cause great physical and emotional pain. Taking the narrow road is not popular or easy but for your long-term health and well-being, it is so worth it. 

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Astrology is helping you overcome your karma

I have to include a blog about astrology here because it ties into your karma (life lessons and core wounds) and intuition. Now, I don’t believe in the “fortune-cookie” astrology we grew up accustomed to reading — the once-monthly three sentence blurbs that illuminate your romance stars for the month, tell you how much money you will bring in, or use tired cliches to inspire you. No, instead I am talking about real astrology coming from trained or intuitive astrologers. There is a science and a methodology to astrology and while I don’t claim to know it all, what I do know is that astrological events absolutely tie into how you are feeling and what you are learning, and therefore how much subconscious baggage you can work through (if you choose to). 

When the moon, sun, and planets are in certain positions, that is, as they journey through the signs of the zodiac, it forces us to process undigested emotions and experiences from both this lifetime and past lifetimes. It forces raw emotions and karmic debts to the surface. Some of those emotions are rooted in experiences in this lifetime and some are soul memories from the far past. Either way, they are holding us back and thus, both are important to reconcile and resolve.

For example, if the moon is in Aquarius, you may feel forward thinking and gain intuitive insights in the flash of an eye. If the moon is in Pisces, you may feel introspective and have intuitive dreams and visions. Or, if the moon is in Aries, you may feel fiery and ready to take on the world because you suddenly realize you deserve it.

This is also true when planets go into retrograde and it feels as if we are taking one step forward and two steps backwards — you are asked to process that which you have avoided and this is all for good reason. It helps us learn instead of avoid. It also helps us trust in the perfect timing of the universe. If we use astrology as a tool to guide us as to what we might feel or experience on a given day, we can see the things we are already naturally feeling and experiencing have us on the right path. It’s a form of confirmation. Unfortunately, many use astrology to force themselves into situations or feelings that do not come naturally — and that is not a good use of this science. 

There are certain astrological phenomena we can consistently count on: new moons and full moons. These of course will happen, in general, at least twice per month as the moon cycles from waxing to waning, waning to waxing. Some months may have more or less of these, such as months that have rare additional “blue moons” or fewer because of a leap month.

New moons are always a time of new growth and change. Full moons are a time to reflect and be introspective and avoid heightened drama. Instead of operating on old storylines where, for example, a woman’s menstrual cycle makes her “PMS” and feel “crazy” emotions which can create tension in relationships, we can begin to see that whatever comes up around these moon cycles (whether you are a man or a woman) is for your greater good; it is part of your lesson that no longer can be repressed. It is a way to process undigested leftover emotional baggage that is coming to the surface and clear it for good or make it better for ourselves. Sadly, many feel shame over such emotions rising and discount it as hormonal or mental health concerns. 

Additionally, narcissistic, controlling, unstable, and toxic personalities can become more active and erratic around the time of certain astrological events. In other words, the way that our solar system operates can make the people who are in your life for the purpose of helping you fulfill your karma can temporarily act up and make your life feel worse. I have observed that narcissistic people become more cruel, domineering, and vicious during these astrological cycles. This is especially true of narcissistic family or in workplaces — I observed every time there was a full moon or big astrological event (such as a retrograde or solar flare), chaos always ensued and problems arose — with the website, phone system, interpersonal communication, and so on. No one wanted to be blamed or fired so it was a merry-go-round of scapegoating that took place. No one understood that it was largely out of our control and we were being asked to break bad habits and create healthy systems and dialogue.

You may also begin to notice that important meetings or other life events just so happen to be planned within 0-3 days of astrological changes. Important work meetings, social gathering, and contractual agreements often occur around the time of the moons, for example. It’s no coincidence — it’s a subconscious cue to overcome the karma and stressors in the situation. 

As an empath or highly sensitive person, you may also begin to experience physical symptoms when the planets, moon, and sun shift. Sometimes this is based on the sign the moon is currently in, such as when the moon is in Aries, you may experience an uptick in headaches or sinus infections — anything associated with your head region. If there is a big full or new moon coming up, you may have a sudden increase in symptoms such as nausea, fatigue, parasites acting up, dizziness, and muscle weakness. These kinds of physical complaints will be very individualized but just check in with your body during these times and know that whatever is taking place around the astrology of the moment is no mistake and is working to cleanse your system of that which does not serve you.

I have had clients come to me perplexed asking why they suddenly couldn’t sleep, felt awful, had chaos ensue around them, or felt overly emotional at certain times. Inevitably, it always connected back to the stars. Once they realized this, they gained so much understanding of themselves and their lives and felt they had much more control over their health and wellness. Going forward, they could connect the dots for themselves. At such times, life can feel very chaotic and scary. Keep in mind, however, even these situations are pushing you closer to your karma (and overcoming it) because that is the purpose of the astrological events. If you have been building up dharma, or enlightenment and “good karma”, in this lifetime, you may not be as affected. Or conversely, you may not be affected if you have chosen to completely forgo your life path in pursuit of worldly ventures that maintain the status quo through a carefully constructed facade of “everything is fine; no problems here.”

When big astrological cycles are at play, you may also notice an uptick in deaths, freak accidents, or skeletons coming tumbling out of the closet. The best examples of this are when a major solar or lunar event takes place and suddenly a string of celebrity deaths are announced, or news reports surface about people being victims of mindless accidents like freak stabbings, shootings, or other murders. Because unstable personalities’ behavior becomes heightened during these times, strange mishaps and senseless death can abound. Those who have past life karmic bonds, even if they are strangers in this lifetime, often find their way to each other and can result in such freak accidents. As I said, this can also be a time when abuses of power and people come to the surface and the truth about certain people, governments, and businesses is revealed. The #MeToo movement is a great example of this and the catalyst was Jupiter (planet of expansion and growth) moving into Scorpio (the keeper of secrets). 

We cannot, however, force astrology — we can only use it as a tool and guide. If Venus is stationed to bring love into one’s life, it doesn’t mean it is necessarily going to happen for you. It may simply indicate you need more self-love, or that you may deepen existing relationships. We are all so different and at different points in the journey and we can be open to what is possible without expecting or demanding it, or forcing ourselves to act a certain way based on the astrology.

It is helpful to use astrology to give ourselves a heads up, if you will, about what could happen, or what is happening, not what should happen. Some people can get so wrapped up in what is happening astrologically and forget to have authentic life experiences that actually allow the astrology of the moment to work for them. We must set an intention to live authentically but not be surprised when the zodiac and planets dictate certain paths for our lives. It simply requires being open to the possibilities.

Again, I don’t know why and I don’t know how but our solar system is no mistake — it is not simply a teeming pool of carbon and matter; it is also a part of our internal operating system meant to help us evolve, trust, love and overcome our karmic debt. Choosing to recognize it and doing so is up to you. 

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Break your second chakra chains

fascial adhesions of the second chakra

The clients that come to me don’t only have thyroid or fifth chakra imbalances. They also carry wounds that have affected their other energy centers, much to their detriment. The second chakra isn’t spoken about too often (the fifth and sixth chakras tend to get most of the attention), but it’s equally important to your health and well being.

The the second, or sacral chakra as its called, sits a few inches under your belly button in the center of the body, at your pelvic region. It’s associated with the emotional body, pleasurable experiences, sensuality, creativity, and flexibility. If you identify as female, there is a good chance the demands and expectations of others have caused major blockages within this chakra, tightening the energetic chains and fascia around this area of your body. 

If you’re being sexually repressed, sexually abused or intimidated, or if the sexual energy in your relationship/sexual needs are not reciprocated by your partner, or you are otherwise scared to express this energy (even alone), you are scared of being sexually in control and powerful, your health will begin to suffer because it will lead to stress, tension, resentment, fear, anger, fight or flight responses, inhibitory responses, avoidance, and cognitive dissonance. 

Years ago, I worked with a nutrition client who was an Indian-American woman. Her family had immigrated from India years prior and most of them lived in the states now. Although we were working on a nutrition plan for her, inevitably she kept going back to stressors that she believed were affecting her health. In one session, she told me about her uncle’s inappropriate behavior that left her feeling victimized. Her uncle was married to her mother’s sister and a few times when no one was looking, he had pushed my client up against a wall in her home. He pressed himself into her from behind and made sexual noises into her ear, and she quietly stood there in shock and unsure of how to get out of this situation. Even though she was an adult at the time, she knew if she said something he would call her crazy and blame it on her; she would look like a harlot and the family dynamics would shift forever. When my client told her mother what had happened, her mother said, “All men do that. Please don’t tell your aunt; she would kill herself if she found out.” Talk about pressure. 

In another session, this same woman told me about her marriages. She was currently married to her second husband, but had been married years prior to a man she met in college and it was her first “true love” experience. Coming from a family with traditional values, she had waited to have sexual relations until the two were married. Once they were legally married, they moved in together and she expected typical romantic and sexual encounters with her spouse. Except, to her surprise, they never once had sex. They didn’t even consummate the marriage. He suffered from impotence but did not want to talk to her about it. They never brought it up once. She went years suffering silently as her expectations for a healthy relationship went unmet and she didn’t feel she could talk to her husband about this because of the family pressures to stay married, and because she worried she would upset him. They were little more than roommates and it was the elephant in the room.

In both of these instances, this woman’s second chakra energy was being severely blocked. She knew the truth and wanted to speak it to work through the problems, but in both cases, she was under so much pressure to remain quiet and play along that it ended up causing her serious physical complaints. She had a history of miscarriage, and even though she was now happily married with a child, she could not allow herself to relax and enjoy sex. She was always stressed, had perfectionist tendencies, over-analyzed everything, and didn’t trust people enough to open up. 

Before she spoke with me, no one had ever even confirmed how wrong and terrible these experiences were. She just thought she was the difficult, bad, and crazy one. The loss of matrilineal intuition and the dominant theme of patriarchy within the family structure had allowed my client to experience injustices she shouldn’t have. Had she been taught to trust herself and her initial reaction, she wouldn’t have questioned her own sanity — she would have questioned the behavior of those around her (her perpetrators). She had been talked out of her intuition and talked into patriarchy and it hurt her deeply for years to come.

I’ve also worked with many women who desperately wanted to get pregnant but felt their partners were not receptive to this. As a result, they felt their fertility was being controlled by someone else, or they would be (or were) punished if they got pregnant. They were typically women who experienced menstrual problems and irregularities, required surgery for cysts, fibroids, heavy bleeding, irregular ovulation, and even sometimes required hysterectomy. They often sacrificed their true desires in relationships in order to keep their spouse or partner happy, which meant giving their all to a relationship in which they wanted children but knew they would never get them. Again, the “untouchable” subject, the elephant in the room. This is unfair to you and is keeping you from self-actualizing into the person you want to be. Letting go of a relationship in which you love someone but know you cannot pursue what you really want is very difficult, but it’s a choice we all have to make if not getting what we want deep down will cause us stress, resentment, or heartache in the long run. 

Anytime there is such a “threat” — whether emotional or physical — to a particular area of the body, you will learn adaptation methods in order to cope with the stress. This means muscle tension, improper use of structures and posture, and restricted blood flow and nutrients to adjoining areas. In time, you will develop fascial adhesions (thick layers of jumbled connective tissue) that are dysfunctional and prevent you from feeling and using those affected areas of your body. The “bad” fascia becomes chains that keep you imprisoned at one level of self-actualization because you will live in a state of triggering based on your past traumas due to the feedback the fascia is giving the brain, nervous system, immune system, and hormones. 

Let me go a little bit deeper here because we’re all adults and I’m pretty sure you can handle this information — it’s life changing and will free you. It’s medical, not graphic, and we have to be real and specific if we want to heal. As you can see in the picture above, all of the bad fascia/fascial adhesions are stemming from the genitals. While genital trauma (again, emotional or physical) is the root cause, the fascia branches out and grows thick layers in neighboring areas, including the hips, stomach, lower back, and legs. 

Why would this occur? Well, if you are having inhibitory sexual responses (based on trauma, guilt, shame, fear, intimidation, etc), you will tense adjoining muscle groups and use them improperly. You could also be tensing as a form of self-protection (subconsciously protecting the vaginal area at all costs), which includes keeping legs tightly crossed and closed, rotating hips inwardly (so you can control how much of you other people are seeing or attracted to), or, you may tense your stomach muscles as your orgasm, to prevent it, or in anticipation of it. 

Do you see how it’s all connected? 

To break your second chakra chains, you must:

  • Identify where your fascial adhesions are located, then use myofascial release to restore healthy fascial function and appearance
  • Restore the balance of power in your sexual relationships where you have a say and your needs are equally met
  • Stand up for yourself when you need to and tell predators no
  • Embrace your kink (it’s a way to tap into your subconscious mind and work through stressors in a safe way)
  • Get in touch with what you actually enjoy sexually and pursue it
  • Let go of guilt, shame, and fear around sex or your sexual responses
  • Find fun, creative things to do with your time to free up stagnant energy
  • Don’t be afraid of being sexually powerful, just because you fear judgment or punishment from others (sexually powerful women are often perceived as a threat)
  • Let go of perfectionist tendencies, embrace the beauty of who you are, not who you “should” be
  • Find ways to calm your nervous system
  • Feel life, don’t just intellectually experience it
  • Practice being present

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How to deconstruct your karma

how to deconstruct your karma (1)

 

Every single one of us on this planet is here to learn specific lessons which help us overcome our soul’s core wounds, and therefore allow us to reach our greatest potential. As I have said before, core wounds create life lessons and life lessons generate karma. And you do not have to posses a spiritual belief to believe in karma because it is simply cause and effect which is true no matter what specifics you may believe. It is up to us to identify the core wounds, work on them through the life lessons in order to overcome our karma/generational cycles of dysfunction. Until we do so, we will remain sick and stressed and not really know why. 

Core wounds are the deepest hurts and aches that often appear to stem from childhood. Core wounds and lessons are the things we speak about in therapy with counselors and psychologists but can never find a way to truly “get over”. They are the story lines we feed ourselves that keep us small, stuck, and sick. They’re the place we subconsciously keep avoiding with illusions and distractions, in order to keep from feeling the depths of the pain.

Personally, I find pattern recognition to be one of the most therapeutic way to identify the wounds. Without recognizing the patterns, we will remain slaves to them and call it chance. This is one of the cruxes of my Energy Reading sessions — pattern recognition for the things you have experienced so that you can understand yourself and begin the healing process. 

As you can see in the image above, if you want to figure out the long string of cause and effect in your life, you must first outline your fears/phobias, talents, problems, and hidden desires. It is a way to tap into the subconscious mind, which will be ruling your life until you become aware of it. Again, until we become aware of our subconscious mind, we will live a “cover story” in which we make choices for ourselves based on what other people desire for or from us, and we will be running from our fears and constantly recreating them instead of breaking the cycles, and we will also run from our talents instead of achieving self-actualization and our highest potential. Patterns will keep presenting themselves to you in the form of pain, phobias, longing and desires, and problems. It is up to us to recognize them and do something about it. This is how you become happy and healthy. 

This is merely a guide — a brainstorming effort, if you will. Everyone’s karma will be vastly different. Though in my work over the last eight years, I know that there are themes that tend to run amongst disease groups.

Illnesses do not happen by mere chance, and genetics only play one role in the creation of disease. While we have been told there are no real known causes for disease or that it’s all a genetic Russian roulette, the truth is that diseases happen for a real reason and they happen in clusters. In other words, there may be tens or hundreds of contributing factors that have come together to create the disease state. The science of Epigentics tells us that what happens to you and inside of you affects the expression of your genes — cause and effect, cause and effect, cause and effect. Calling illness “chance” is a form of superstition and needs to be broken already. When you understand your karma, you will understand why you are sick. 

Take thyroid disease, for example. 

Common denominators in forms of hypothyroidism are almost always:

  • Being neglected or feeling overlooked
  • Getting quiet to appease others or avoid punishment
  • Becoming a version of what other people want you to be
  • Inhibitory responses
  • Infections (localized or systemic)
  • Throat pain or illnesses (recurrent infections, incessant coughing, pain while swallowing, etc.)
  • Constant stream of external stressors and feeling little to no control over your life
  • Pretending
  • Overlooking relationship issues and quietly internalizing them
  • Feeling unworthy
  • Suppression of creativity
  • Trauma to the throat/neck/mouth

Some people with thyroid disease have deep-seated fears of tight things around their necks such as jewelry, turtlenecks, seat belts, etc. Others have a fear of choking on food or drinks, or their throat closing/asphyxiation. Still others have a fear of being seen or public speaking and prefer to hide or remain in the background because they have learned when they do speak it is not accepted

You may not even be aware of these fears but once you start examining what you do, you can recognize the patterns. Some subconsciously avoid tight spaces with lots of people. Or maybe you only choose loose clothing that won’t hug your neck area. Maybe you put up with so much from the people around you that you feel you are at a breaking point and don’t know who you are anymore; your personality has become a vessel for others to control. Take your pick — there are many factors. 

I’ll give you an example. Thyroid disease runs in my family and my grandmother had Graves’ (as well as many other terrible autoimmune conditions), and I have other family members with hypothyroidism, Hashimoto’s, or goiter. You could stop there and blame my 2007 diagnosis of Hashimoto’s Disease on genes, or you can trace the cause and effect back in time. 

As a newborn, I was diagnosed with thrush. Then as an infant, I choked on a plum pit because I got too excited and shoved the whole fruit in my mouth (my father had to grab me my the feet and pelt my back while I was upside down in order to get it dislodged). I dealt with multiple ear, nose and throat infections every year for nearly 25 years (which of course required recurrent antibiotics). Though my mom and doctor tried to get me to swallow pills as a kid, I always ended up gagging on them and couldn’t figure out how to swallow correctly. As a kid, I took a hard fall on concrete and lost some baby teeth. I was a swim team member for many years and took in too much water at times (while being exposed to non-stop chlorine — a known thyroid suppressant). Growing up in a sect of the Southern Baptist church, I was silenced and shamed for sharing my thoughts; I learned to adapt and blend in in order to avoid being hurt by others, which required silence and pretending. I had close family members who were addicted to hard drugs and had to tiptoe around their moods. I was in abusive relationships in which I wasn’t allowed to make any decisions for myself (even choosing a table at a restaurant was not allowed). I had dental surgery in late 2006 and a few months later was diagnosed with Hashimoto’s. Throat, mouth, voice. 

Can you see how much trauma one area of my body had endured for so many years? You are no different, but your specifics will be unique to you. After we understand what led up to the illness, we can find solutions to deconstruct it. 

Deconstructing you is one of my favorite things to do and why I offer Energy Readings and Body Readings. You can start this brainstorming yourself and see what comes up for you. 

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