Love is about generating energy (or have you forgotten?)

3D, 5D, abuse, ascension, chakras, ego, empath, energy, karma, karmics, life lessons, love, narcissism, relationships, sex, soulmates, twin flames

Living in a karmic world where real love is scarce will teach you one thing, if nothing else: love takes. It pulls. It breaks you into pieces, “never” to be whole or restored again. Your parents always fought. Your sister has too many marital problems. You said “I love you” to the person who turned their back in the end. You gave and gave and gave to people who took and took and took. Somewhere along the way, you learned to pretend you were happy, or worse — satisfied with fake love because everyone else told you they were happy with this kind of love too. Love for you has never been equal or balanced. It has never been a means of generating energy, only stealing and usurping.

Love on earth is a challenge because it is rife with karma. It is a lesson rather than a reward; a bus stop rather than a final destination. It is in our most intimate relationships that we learn who we are, who others are, and which personal and external deficits have led us to certain partners — but only if we see past the veil and into the reality — past the red flags disguised as holographic “green” lights and deep into the truth about the nature of relationships and love. Earthly love has never been about continual, sustainable generation of energy. It has been about whom one can take the most energy from — and come out on top in the end. Are you ready for something different? Are you ready to find what you have actually been searching for?

Deep within the soul of every empathic person is the desire for a mutually generative love. It has nothing to do with appearance, education, religion or upbringing. You have been told to find a partner to compliment your lifestyle. You have been told to find someone like you — or someone to make you look better. And this is where love goes wrong. The building of soul energy has nothing to do with your ego persona. It has to do with chakra resonance between two people — and how much good energy can be created between the two when they are their most honest.

Karmic partners (aka “twin flames” comprised of one empath and one narcissist, most often) are plentiful on planet earth and they reinforce the idea that love always stings; that love is unbalanced, lopsided, and that one person is a giver and one person is a taker, and at different times, partners vacillate between these extremes. Or, these relationships reinforce the idea that love is imperfect because people are imperfect and we should just accept it already: “That’s just how it is — we don’t live in a perfect world” (so I have been told).

We spend years or lifetimes looking for that one person who doesn’t just take, but who also gives. A love that doesn’t hurt. A love that reciprocates for the benefit of both parties involved. A love where both people can be givers and takers, without guilt, fear, or shame. Instead, we’re often met with lessons and challenges — giving too much or taking too much with little balance — real love always being just out of reach.

An empathic divine feminine paired with a toxic karmic masculine will always be drained of her energy by a man who cannot truly appreciate her or give back chakra energy as a form of reciprocity. He expects to be given to because of who he is. She expects him to come around because of who she is. So she waits and serves and waits. The relationship is unbalanced and ends up draining the divine feminine of energy from the heart chakra, sacral chakra, and third eye. She is sick of having to keep an eye on him. She is sick of waiting for him to grow up. She keeps waiting for him to be trustworthy. She keeps waiting for him to see her energetic value. She waits for a pursuit the way he pursues himself and others. Instead he seeks energy from external sources instead of contributing to the sacred relationship he is already “committed” to. Her energy is drained every time.

A divine masculine who is paired with a toxic feminine will learn that love is a game of chess, him always at the ready with an explanation for why he was a “bad” boy, always hoping he does not somehow get caught, hoping this is the day he will be rewarded for his “good behavior” much like a puppy dog, and always looking elsewhere for what he hopes will satisfy him for as long as it can. He ends up on the defense and disconnected from his own heart so he learns to live without its vital energy. He learns that love is only given sometimes — when his feminine seeks to manipulate or boost her own energy by using his to look good.

Both divine masculine and feminine pretend to be happy despite feeling deeply lonely and triggered, because they have never known what real love is. They assume their expectations are the real problem. The give in and give up. They compromise and live their own secret internal lives. That is, until they encounter their divine counterpart and begin the process of unlearning all of the dysfunctional patterns they accepted as normal or truth.

A healthy and balanced relationship between a divine feminine and a divine masculine who have resolved their karma and learned their life lessons is completely removed from unhealthy compromise and narcissistic energy vamping. It is about mutual growth and mutual generation of soul energy, rather than a constant back and forth, checks and balances always marked in the eternal ledgers of the mind. Its basis is on how much positive energy can be generated within the sacred confines of the relationship — and it is enjoyable to figure out how far the energy can be developed. When a divine feminine is supported by the openness and interest from a divine masculine, she will send him continual good energy that comes straight from the divine by revealing this energy as a thank you. He will continue to pursue the good energy from her because it is so deep and unravels in layers and layers and is able to maintain his interest unlike anything else ever has.

The divine feminine energy opens in response to heart-centered appreciation and affection, and does not seek to punish in order to receive, but seeks to build and grow. The growth never ends, unlike karmic relationships. A man trained in toxic feminine behavior will give gifts as displays of affection and interest while altogether withholding energy. A woman trained in toxic masculine behavior will serve and chase as a display of affection and interest. He will become smothered and exhausted by a woman who chases him and demands his energy. She will resent her masculine for the never-ending energy she gives to him, while he gives to external situations and her last. He is the runner and she the chaser. A healed masculine and feminine will reverse these roles — he the chaser and she the chased. Until this dynamic shifts, heartache and resentment will ensue.

The lies we have been sold about love are unraveling. Love is not sexual attraction. Love is not mutual interests. Love is not surface level compatibility. It is the spark of energy between people who desire to build it further. Like an arrow to the heart, it is elusive but once pierced and opened, goes on and on forever and the two, once cleared of karmic debt, will be able to pursue the true energy of love forever and ever.

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The empathic people and their “handlers”

3D, 5D, abuse, ascension, brain, empath, hormones, intuition, karma, karmics, mind-body, narcissism, past lives, relationships, soulmates, stress, twin flames

As an Intuitive, I have come to see the discrepancies between the 3D (past), 4D (present), and 5D (future and divine truth) much easier over the years and I believe that anyone can with practice. I’ve given you guys an outline of the ways to discern karmic storylines playing out before your very eyes in day-to-day life. In karmic storylines, the past overlaps the present and people don’t know they’re acting out long-passed projections in the now. All forms of illusions, distraction, and projection are used to prevent the soul’s truth from coming to the surface. Seeing the rhyme and reason behind such events you experience is a way to peer into the 5D (a lens of eternity) when we are still trapped in the 3D world which provides peace and calm through understanding. This understanding brings healing.

As I’ve said before, there is a list of “characters” who either help with spiritual ascension and overcoming karma, or who work to prevent spiritual enlightenment. They are:

The twin flames: fight constantly, passive aggressive if only for comedic effect or can also be overtly aggressive, very high masculine and high feminine, or one is integrated and one not; abusive relationship. One may actively try to make things better (grow), but not always. True karmic partners.

Distractor: comes in to “swipe” the scene clean and create a transition to a new topic, or so everyone forgets what just happened – sometimes for comic relief, to control the conversation or groupthink, sex appeal, etc.

Narcissist: the fearless, egoful leader who gets everyone into trouble and out of trouble, manipulates the entire situation to get his way or make sure no one lets onto what he is doing, earns the favor of others especially those in authority, abuses others then justifies or blames it on victim. He may try to do the right thing every now and then to save face but will always go back to control or abuse.

The lackeys: carrying out sinister deeds on behalf of the narcissist leader(s) so they stay in the good graces and receive benefits from the leader. They assume they will be protected, but the leader may eventually turn against them too. 

Empath: the sweet, sensitive, king or queen type energy who tries to bring everyone to their senses and do the right thing but is not heard or purposefully quieted. The narcissistic leader/abuser generally targets them to “astroturf” their reality. The narc may eventually fess up and say they will never do it again and there may be a forgive and forget mentality, or the victim may remain hurt.

Soul mates: any two people on the same wavelength and always work together when problems arise. 

The wise one/mentor: warns the characters about the dangers, but the characters often do not listen then feel bad afterwards and realize he/she were right; helps others learn the lesson.

The groupthink background actors/the “mob”: mindlessly supporting the narcissists in order to not be targeted themselves or in order to fit in. May remain silent or may perpetuate groupthink gossip. Refuse to think for themselves. Aka: flying monkeys.

There is yet another character to add to the list of “actors” above: the handlers. A handler is someone who subconsciously feels it is their intent and purpose in life to manage and control the life and soul of an empathic person, always correcting, disciplining, and drawing lines in the sand so you cannot self-actualize. These are the people you are always subconsciously on your guard against, who make your nervous system go haywire, who you know will misinterpret everything you do, who will give you a hard time, who like to find ways to hurt you, who talk you out of yourself and your intuition, and on and on.

The term “handler” is not new — it is actually used to describe people who coerce the most depraved forms of abuse: sexual slavery, especially. The role of the handler is to carefully select a victim based on certain criteria (naive or codependents in particular). Once that is done, they slowly calibrate the victim’s nervous system, brain, and hormones to a constant state of confusions, chaos, loss of personal autonomy. This is done through suggesting false realities, implanting false memories, and alternating between happy and sad circumstances so things are constantly off-kilter (reward-punishment cycle). These people also convince the victim they are special — or, alternately, a piece of shit. These are like literal and proverbial prison guards/bars on a person’s life.

This sounds heavy but the everyday, common tactics we see in domestic violence situations apply to many more people than the victims even realize. (Please remember, domestic violence isn’t just bruises and punches — it is any form of force or control which causes soul torment in intimate relationships). In other words, gaslighting, astroturfing, smear campaigns, all or nothing thinking, cover-ups, groupthink, flying monkeys, double standards, hasty generalizations, logical fallacies, red herrings, Bulverism, scapegoating, slippery slope, strongarming, idealizing, the silent treatment, and much much more get used by the people in our lives against us every single day — but you will only notice this once you start paying attention.

Here’s what you need to know: empathic people will always have at least one handler, but often it is many. Handlers are always narcissistic or sociopathic personalities who completely lack empathy. Not every narcissist you know will be your handler — just the ones that have the most control over you. Typically power gets passed from one handler to another at separate points in life. Ex: a parent when you were a child, then a spouse when you get married. Because an empathic person has never been encouraged to become strong in themselves and their personality they believe other people more than themselves. They have been taught there is something inherently wrong with them, that they must rely on others to get by in this life. That there is some sin they must atone for, simply by virtue of being themselves. A handler’s sole purpose is to instill this belief system then make you dependent upon them — or you risk punishment.

The more intense your handler, the more powerful of a soul you are. In other words, the force and tactics used against empaths will be directly proportionate to your ability to ascend — which is what a handler wants to prevent at all costs. If you were to spiritually ascend and realize you do not deserve such treatment, you would be able to change the world with your natural gifts and ideas. In doing so, the 3D karmic system would collapse, leaving narcissists without power or control.

Getting away from a handler will feel the like scariest thing you have ever done. They will make life miserable for you in the process. They will take away money and the ability to make money, your friends and family, your self-respect, your good name, your inner-knowing, your health, and your physical body may be at risk as well. You will become an untouchable. You will have to start at square one, as an adult. It is like you had no life before this person because you have to start over completely with no support system, job, physical possessions, clout, or health to your name.

Flying monkeys also play a role in this phenomena. Flying monkeys are the people who support your handler/narcissist and will do everything in their power to work on behalf of the handler to further punish you or remind you of the punishment that lurks ahead if you leave. This comes in the form of taunting, shunning, shaming, defamation, sabotage, telling the handler information they acquire about you so it can be used against you, and more from friends, family, and acquaintances who believe the handler’s twisted version of events and make no stand for truth, justice, and peace. They in fact condone and support the abuse through complicity and abuse by proxy. Because you have had long term relationships with the flying monkeys, as an empathic person you will feel a need to please these people too. Releasing your karma involves releasing these people too. Anyone who turns a blind eye to abuse is not your ally and should be swiftly removed from your life.

You will know your handler by the way these people react when you make decisions for yourself that they have no control over. You will see them go into psychotic states of rage and anger when you choose yourself over them. When you make healthy choices and pursue your soul’s purpose, you will receive punishment from these people and that is the best indication that you need to do everything in your power to safely escape.

An empath without a handler is free — and that is a very “scary” thing indeed.

Court abuse in the Age of Aquarius

3D, 5D, abuse, ascension, empath, energy, intuition, karma, karmics, life lessons, mind-body, narcissism, relationships, stress

As with all of my blog posts, I want to offer you a new perspective on the things you as an empath experience in this life. I want to give you a 5D lens for the 3D phenomena you are currently undergoing in your life lessons. Only when you see beyond the 3D and glimpse into the 5D can you understand there is a rhyme and reason, a strategy, and a meaning behind all of the pain. 

Nearly every other blog you will read on my site is about ways empathic people can be successful in such a world. A world full of illusions, projections, and smoke and mirrors. No one set us up for success — we almost always have to seek it out for ourselves. Abuse, in all of its incantations, is a method narcissists use against empaths to keep you drained, sick, and not living your true soul’s purpose — plain and simple. Once you become aware of this, you can stop the cycles of sickness and stress.

Abuse is a topic near and dear to my heart because this reality keeps presenting itself over and over in the lives of the empathic and highly sensitive people that I work with — and have worked with over the years. Before you recognize this, you will think you simply don’t belong here, there is something inherently wrong with you, and you will live in a state of unease every day and not really be sure why. “Why doesn’t this feel like my real home”, you will wonder.

The answer to that question is because you don’t belong in a world full of abuses. It takes a very strong and determined soul to overcome the everyday, omnipresent abuses that society has come to accept as “normal”, or worse, “acceptable”. Yet, here you still are — in spite of the pain, the displaced anger, resentment, and frustrations of others, the many ways you have been punished simply by virtue of being yourself, and the many ways narcissistic personalities draw you into chaos and confusion. What should be a straight line becomes nothing but zigzags and you wonder why it is all so complicated when the truth is so damn easy.

One form of abuse that is rampant and yet completely overlooked (no offense #metoo and #timesup) is legal abuse. And because of the age we are living in (the Age of Aquarius), you must understand that being dragged into a lengthy, expensive, and scary court battle by your karmic partners means much more than legalese. It means you are on the right path. If you weren’t, they wouldn’t have targeted you in the first place.

Court abuse, or legal abuse, is another form of domestic violence that is defined as unfair or improper legal action initiated with selfish or malicious intentions. In other words, it means someone has engaged you in a court dispute for purposes of hurting you, rather than solving a legitimate legal dispute. It means you can be pulled into legal battles over meaningless or frivolous matters, which will drain your finances, emotional and physical health just so someone can have control over you. Just so someone can say, “see! I was right all along — even the court agrees with me” or “Ha ha — I got you back where it hurts.” It means false accusations, strongarming someone with the law so they cannot succeed or have proper living or working accommodations, and it means inflating stories or lying so that you as a victim becomes the perpetrator. All in all, it is using loopholes and lies to get your way and sabotage someone else.

In most of these instances, lawyers will have no clue that the opposing party is using legal abuse against you. They see it so often, it is considered standard. People lie every day in court. People hurt one another by the hour through the legal system. Why would your life or feelings mean anything? Chances are, no one but you will recognize what your perp is doing and trying to explain it to others is like you are speaking a different language. In other words, you will sound paranoid to someone who has never been targeted themselves. (Side note: there are resources out there, however, for those enduring this — including how to catch your abuser in lies and how to defend yourself to the full extent).

If we examine court abuse from a 5D perspective, we see that the empathic people enduring this right now (or, who have, or will) are absolutely in line with the prophecies about these times:

“I am sending you out like sheep among wolves. Therefore be as shrewd as snakes and as innocent as doves. Be on your guard; you will be handed over to the local councils and be flogged in the synagogues. On my account you will be brought before governors and kings as witnesses to them and to the Gentiles. But when they arrest you, do not worry about what to say or how to say it. At that time you will be given what to say, for it will not be you speaking, but the Spirit of your Father speaking through you.” (narcissists targeting empaths for their spirituality; your higher self/higher power/intuition will show you the way)

“Brother will betray brother to death, and a father his child; children will rebel against their parents and have them put to death. You will be hated by everyone because of me, but the one who stands firm to the end will be saved. When you are persecuted in one place, flee to another. Truly I tell you, you will not finish going through the towns of Israel before the Son of Man comes.” (undoing of karma; start your new life away from these people)“When you are brought before synagogues, rulers and authorities, do not worry about how you will defend yourselves or what you will say, for the Holy Spirit will teach you at that time what you should say.”

“Do you think I came to bring peace on earth? No, I tell you, but division. From now on there will be five in one family divided against each other, three against two and two against three. They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother, mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law.” (aka: karmic relationships and karma being undone)

A narcissist views the world through the lens of “how much can I get away with legally” or “how can I use the law to prove my point?” The law can be used in a fair and just way, but not when there is narcissism present. It will only be used as a means of intimidation. Once you say yes to your spirituality and no to the 3D world, there will be consequences. And because narcissists view the court as the highest authority, they will take you there. They do not understand there is another court, a cosmic court, that they will be taken to later on. When you are pulled into these legal battles, trust that you are protected and you have done the right thing by saying no to their abuses once and for all. You will succeed. And when the legal battle is over, you will have resolved your karma with this person.