Living in a karmic world where real love is scarce will teach you one thing, if nothing else: love takes. It pulls. It breaks you into pieces, “never” to be whole or restored again. Your parents always fought. Your sister has too many marital problems. You said “I love you” to the person who turned their back in the end. You gave and gave and gave to people who took and took and took. Somewhere along the way, you learned to pretend you were happy, or worse — satisfied with fake love because everyone else told you they were happy with this kind of love too. Love for you has never been equal or balanced. It has never been a means of generating energy, only stealing and usurping.
Love on earth is a challenge because it is rife with karma. It is a lesson rather than a reward; a bus stop rather than a final destination. It is in our most intimate relationships that we learn who we are, who others are, and which personal and external deficits have led us to certain partners — but only if we see past the veil and into the reality — past the red flags disguised as holographic “green” lights and deep into the truth about the nature of relationships and love. Earthly love has never been about continual, sustainable generation of energy. It has been about whom one can take the most energy from — and come out on top in the end. Are you ready for something different? Are you ready to find what you have actually been searching for?
Deep within the soul of every empathic person is the desire for a mutually generative love. It has nothing to do with appearance, education, religion or upbringing. You have been told to find a partner to compliment your lifestyle. You have been told to find someone like you — or someone to make you look better. And this is where love goes wrong. The building of soul energy has nothing to do with your ego persona. It has to do with chakra resonance between two people — and how much good energy can be created between the two when they are their most honest.
Karmic partners (aka “twin flames” comprised of one empath and one narcissist, most often) are plentiful on planet earth and they reinforce the idea that love always stings; that love is unbalanced, lopsided, and that one person is a giver and one person is a taker, and at different times, partners vacillate between these extremes. Or, these relationships reinforce the idea that love is imperfect because people are imperfect and we should just accept it already: “That’s just how it is — we don’t live in a perfect world” (so I have been told).
We spend years or lifetimes looking for that one person who doesn’t just take, but who also gives. A love that doesn’t hurt. A love that reciprocates for the benefit of both parties involved. A love where both people can be givers and takers, without guilt, fear, or shame. Instead, we’re often met with lessons and challenges — giving too much or taking too much with little balance — real love always being just out of reach.
An empathic divine feminine paired with a toxic karmic masculine will always be drained of her energy by a man who cannot truly appreciate her or give back chakra energy as a form of reciprocity. He expects to be given to because of who he is. She expects him to come around because of who she is. So she waits and serves and waits. The relationship is unbalanced and ends up draining the divine feminine of energy from the heart chakra, sacral chakra, and third eye. She is sick of having to keep an eye on him. She is sick of waiting for him to grow up. She keeps waiting for him to be trustworthy. She keeps waiting for him to see her energetic value. She waits for a pursuit the way he pursues himself and others. Instead he seeks energy from external sources instead of contributing to the sacred relationship he is already “committed” to. Her energy is drained every time.
A divine masculine who is paired with a toxic feminine will learn that love is a game of chess, him always at the ready with an explanation for why he was a “bad” boy, always hoping he does not somehow get caught, hoping this is the day he will be rewarded for his “good behavior” much like a puppy dog, and always looking elsewhere for what he hopes will satisfy him for as long as it can. He ends up on the defense and disconnected from his own heart so he learns to live without its vital energy. He learns that love is only given sometimes — when his feminine seeks to manipulate or boost her own energy by using his to look good.
Both divine masculine and feminine pretend to be happy despite feeling deeply lonely and triggered, because they have never known what real love is. They assume their expectations are the real problem. The give in and give up. They compromise and live their own secret internal lives. That is, until they encounter their divine counterpart and begin the process of unlearning all of the dysfunctional patterns they accepted as normal or truth.
A healthy and balanced relationship between a divine feminine and a divine masculine who have resolved their karma and learned their life lessons is completely removed from unhealthy compromise and narcissistic energy vamping. It is about mutual growth and mutual generation of soul energy, rather than a constant back and forth, checks and balances always marked in the eternal ledgers of the mind. Its basis is on how much positive energy can be generated within the sacred confines of the relationship — and it is enjoyable to figure out how far the energy can be developed. When a divine feminine is supported by the openness and interest from a divine masculine, she will send him continual good energy that comes straight from the divine by revealing this energy as a thank you. He will continue to pursue the good energy from her because it is so deep and unravels in layers and layers and is able to maintain his interest unlike anything else ever has.
The divine feminine energy opens in response to heart-centered appreciation and affection, and does not seek to punish in order to receive, but seeks to build and grow. The growth never ends, unlike karmic relationships. A man trained in toxic feminine behavior will give gifts as displays of affection and interest while altogether withholding energy. A woman trained in toxic masculine behavior will serve and chase as a display of affection and interest. He will become smothered and exhausted by a woman who chases him and demands his energy. She will resent her masculine for the never-ending energy she gives to him, while he gives to external situations and her last. He is the runner and she the chaser. A healed masculine and feminine will reverse these roles — he the chaser and she the chased. Until this dynamic shifts, heartache and resentment will ensue.
The lies we have been sold about love are unraveling. Love is not sexual attraction. Love is not mutual interests. Love is not surface level compatibility. It is the spark of energy between people who desire to build it further. Like an arrow to the heart, it is elusive but once pierced and opened, goes on and on forever and the two, once cleared of karmic debt, will be able to pursue the true energy of love forever and ever.