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Hi guys, I hope you’ve had a wonderful holiday weekend!

Good news: I’ve created a F*R*E*E and private Facebook group for those who have already purchased my book and want to chat about it! Talk with me and others about where you are at on your journey towards being or becoming highly intuitive, the karmic partners in your life, the life lessons you’re mastering, and the core wounds you’re overcoming. 

Or, just use it as a resource to ask me questions about intuition, karma, twin flames, soulmates, the supernatural, channeling messages, healing the physical body, and more!

I’ll be doing giveaways from time to time in this group as well as live videos. So join us here!

How to beat your narcissist in court

There’s a good chance you will be taken to court by your narcissist, as you attempt to leave the relationship (whichever kind it may be), or that you will have to take them in order to settle some legal dispute because they will not own up and do the right thing voluntarily. You have to go into this understanding it will be a nasty, pricey, drawn-out battle, and you also have to go into it knowing that everything you assume about the legal system will not apply in this case — and that includes advice from well-meaning people who have never faced a narc in court.

See, narcissists are masters at working the system — any system — and the same is certainly true when it comes to matters in a court of law. As an empathic person, you likely have never been privy to the level of greed, deception, and distortions that a narc becomes capable of once put in the spotlight in court so you must go into this battle with as much knowledge and preparation as possible. Truly, until you have lived it, there is no way you could believe what these people are capable of. Even if someone had tried to explain it to you previously, you would have written them off and discounted them as crazy or dramatic.

I will be honest with you: it is possible to beat your narcissist in court, but it is also going to be a daily battle because you always have to be three steps ahead and you can never let your guard down. It is truly like taking a second job and will consume your time because see, a narc never stops, which means you can never stop either. While you’re being drained by the situation, they, on the other hand, are being stimulated by it so you are at a natural disadvantage. It is up to you whether or not that battle is something you can engage in. Depending upon what is on the line or at stake, you may choose to surrender altogether, give them what they want, or no longer desire to try to fight for the upper hand in the situation. It’s up to you, as always.

To be honest, succeeding against a narc in court is a bit like spotting some mythical creature out in the wild. It’s rare, requires lots of patience and faith, you’ll hit your lowest points because you think it will never happen, you get your hopes up often, when you tell someone about it they don’t believe you, and you usually experience it alone. Frankly, in most cases, victims lose. Please don’t let that scare you. A victim losing to a narc is common because of the tactics narcs use, and it is never the victim’s fault. But I do believe by being utterly prepared, you can make the best decisions in the most unfair of situations, and hopefully, come out on top against the deception instead of feeling completely blindsided by their aptitude for working the law in their favor.

  1. You cannot be passive. You must always be on your guard. This is incredibly painful because you’re adding the stress of staying hyper-vigilant on top of preexisting stress from abuse. You will have to get legally active and not expect the legal authorities to do the work for you. You have to be an active participant in the system because your narc certainly will have their hands on every document, paper trail, and date necessary for their win.
  2. Be 1-3 steps ahead of them. You know them better than you think. You have observed, reflected, and experienced the sting of their wrath. You can predict what they will do next and therefore, be prepared to offset the challenges they present. Are they leading you into admitting to something you didn’t do? Are they insinuating something that didn’t occur? Are they sending you into an entrapment scenario to make you look bad? Are they vague on purpose to later manipulate you in an effort to prove “ill will?” Use your intuition to discern what the end game is for them, and therefore, proactively protect yourself before they can do it.
  3. Have no pattern. Everyone has patterns they naturally fall into: patterns of thinking, patterns of communication, patterns of action and inaction. Much like a boxing match, football game, or high-stakes game of strategy, they know how to push your buttons and will do so on purpose to elicit certain responses that can be used against you. Therefore, if you do not allow them to learn your pattern, they will not be able to anticipate what you will do next, which will leave them without falsely incriminating evidence to use against you, should they abuse you and cause you to react.
  4. You have to document everything. In a perfect world, an innocent person doesn’t need documentation. Each time you lived up to an obligation, got a pat on the back from others, did the right thing, succeeded, went out of your way, planned that birthday party, paid for the vacation, worked the overtime, etc. needs “receipts.” To a pure empathic soul, collecting positive evidence in favor of yourself is completely foreign. But you will have to do both this as well as collect evidence against your perpetrator. Every time they have broken the law, abused you, broken agreements, refused to cooperate, relied on mind games, and more needs to be documented. Perhaps that is via recorded phone calls with them, nasty voicemails, text messages, emails, or more.
  5. Interview as many lawyers as possible. Wait until you find one who says they know how to catch a liar in a lie — or enjoy doing so. Give them a very specific example of the lies your narc is attempting to use against you and ask how they would counter. See if you think their answer is reasonable and insightful. In other words, you need someone who knows how to mindfuck a mindfucker. Pure souls are not good at this. Sometimes narcissistic attorneys are, curiously enough, great at this.
  6. Analyze your attorney’s reviews on Yelp, Facebook, Google, etc. What do the worst reviews accuse them of? Is this something you could potentially live with?
  7. Check in with your lawyer often. You must make sure they are doing their job. You cannot assume they know what is in your best interests and just automatically do it, then will update you. They need to be checked on as if you were their employer. They may not like it, and it may cost you more money in the end, but if you want to succeed, you need to make yourself visible and clear to them. Remember, they work for you. Narcs already know this but empaths will feel guilty for being “pushy.” But when your life is on the line, sometimes you need to get bossy. Of course, if your attorney has a difference of opinion and wants to direct you otherwise, take their counsel into great consideration.
  8. Get your ducks in a row. You need to look perfect on paper. Remember, a narc will go into court with the sole intention of finding any weakness and using it against you in order to deflect from the truth. So identify, what are your weaknesses? Do you need a better paying job? Do you need to work more, or find a more flexible schedule? Do you need to add in some acts of public service and volunteering to create a better case for yourself?
  9. Do not give your narc any evidence against you. I feel torn about telling you this because it is in direct opposition to my beliefs about speaking from the fifth chakra. Just know, if you do or say anything that can be used against you, it will. Personally, I prefer to buck the system rather than engage in it, but often it is safer to adhere to the system in place. “Anything you do or say can and will be used against you.”
  10. Have explanations for the accusations your narc will bring against you. Think of every which way they could accuse you and have your defense ready. You know your narc better than your lawyer does so no amount of preparatory work your attorney does can compare to what you know the narcissist wants to punish you for.
  11. Drug test your narc. Narcs are notorious for breaking the law yet acting perfectly lawful on the surface. Exposing their secret drug habits will give you the upper hand nearly every time.
  12. Never react to them, it only gives them more evidence against you. It also pains me to say this because reacting to abuse is normal. It is normal to react to torture! Sadly though, if you defend yourself it will be used against you. The court expects a victim to look like a soft white virgin doe with beaming innocent eyes who’s never said a curse word in her life, which is totally unrealistic. In other words, they will continue to abuse you and you have to “allow” them, by legal standards. This is ridiculous and unfair but legally, unless someone is threatening to harm or kill you, abuse will not be taken seriously and you will look bad in the eyes of the court for reacting. (Please know I mean methods of intimidation that will not cause you immediate harm. If physical abuse is involved, you should of course, leave or defend yourself when necessary).
  13. Report everything you can to police, immediately. Do not wait and do not hesitate. If it was illegal, report it and get a copy of the report. If possible, do not tell the narcissist you are reporting it so that they cannot immediately retaliate and turn the problem into a he said/she said shit show.
  14. Report to other authorities. If the abuse is not something you can report to police because it isn’t under such jurisdiction, then report to H.R., any form of administration, etc. and make sure you receive documentation.
  15. Understand that the court likely will not care that you’ve been abused. Unless you have multiple pictures or videos of attacks, bruises, black eyes, hospital records, other forms of abusive or illegal activity will not be taken seriously. Now, in some more rare cases, the court does consider abuse to be a serious matter, but in most, it is considered interpretation and therefore, not accepted as a decision-making factor. So yes, you have to have evidence of the abuse in the event the court takes it seriously, even if the court does not end up caring. Again, a ridiculous double standard and completely unfair, but it is the state of the legal system. The court often doesn’t care to distinguish a “mean” person from an abuser. Judges witness nasty behavior from people all day long. Someone mentally or emotionally harming you will barely register on their radar.
  16. Expect your narcissist to call you abusive. You will need a defense. You will need evidence to the contrary. Everything you say about your narc is what they will immediately turn around and say about you. You need evidence to support yourself as well as prove the abuse.
  17. Expect your narcissist to call you mentally insane. Get a psychological evaluation by a licensed doctor to prove them wrong. Or, see multiple doctors to get varying opinions in order to build a solid case.
  18. Compile records of every time you went to counseling, therapy, or a medical appointment due to the abuse. If you can, get records of the counselor’s notes so that you can have a record of what was discussed and how much it impacted your life. A narcissist will likely not have years or decades long notes from therapy sessions because they never believe there is something wrong with them. There is a good chance that you, on the other hand went to counseling to talk about your marriage, work, self-esteem, anxiety, or depression.
  19. Do as much research as possible. Research local laws, narcissistic behavior, and listen to the stories of those who have succeeded.
  20. Do not let them intimidate you. Believe me, they will try. They will taunt you, threaten you, remind you how far you have to go to catch up with them. Stay strong and do not let them get to you. This is but a tactic of a very insecure and sociopathic person who is scared of the truth.

Please understand, this isn’t legal advice. This is firsthand advice that I wish someone had told me. Use what works for you. Find new things that should be added to your list. Above all, don’t give up and work tirelessly until you get what is fair.

How to Become Intuitive has arrived!

This is me posing with my first shipment of my just-released book How to Become Intuitive! I received them in the mail today, and chances are, if you’ve already ordered yours, it will arrive shortly as well!

Thank you so much to everyone who has already ordered! Next month, I will begin doing book readings and signings. I’ll start at Unlimited Thought Life Enrichment Center in San Antonio, Texas. They are already carrying copies of the book and I’ll be doing a reading and following Q&A session as well as signings on December 14th and 15th from about 12-5 pm each day.

Other local bookstores are soon to carry How to Become Intuitive as well for those who are in the greater San Antonio area and want to pick up a copy from a small business, in person.

Order a few copies for your friends and family who are open to holistic health, metaphysics, and questioning all that is for the upcoming holiday season. It’s the kind of gift that will leave a lasting impression and feed the soul. Please share your feedback with me and if you would be so kind, leave a review on Amazon.

And yes, as I’ve said before — I’m already working on book #2!

Thank you guys!!

Anatomy of a Narcissist’s truth

My newly-released book How to Become Intuitive is an amalgamation of the experiences I had lived and desperately sought to understand, over the course of thirty-two years, and more specifically, a very intense and abusive three. I was completely fascinated with the way some people deflect the truth and are unable to allow even a hint of universal truth to shine it’s light on the recesses of the subconscious mind; how some people are so good at denying the truth that they in fact go to great lengths to protect lies without caring for the consequences. I’m fascinated by why people do certain things and where it stems from, as well as the resultant consequences on an empathic person’s body and soul. And I am greatly fascinated with interpreting what it means for the larger times we find ourselves in — the Age of Aquarius, and the age of the undoing of lies until there is, eventually, only truth.

My book outlines in great detail not only what a narcissist is, but also the play-by-play of how they think and operate and I want to share some of this information with you here today. Not only will this help you in your personal life, it will also help you begin to spot the greater facades that are currently crumbling in the media and politics. This isn’t a mistake, it is a sign of the times and becoming intuitive in this chaotic time will provide you a level of safety, purpose, and protection. See, this info isn’t merely a tool to be used to help yourself against energy vampires preying on your health and happiness, it is also the predominant theme of the global awakening we are currently undergoing as a species. And it is the responsibility of each one of us to awaken to this reality.

Here’s how narcissists deal with the truth:

  1. Narcissists promote their “good side” to earn trust from members of the group or community, so that eventually, when and if the real truth comes out, everyone will by default believe what the narc says since they have “proved” themselves and no evidence to the contrary will ever be believed.
  2. Brainwash the empath into thinking they are wrong always. Brainwash the empath into thinking there is something wrong with them or their perception and thus, must atone for this sin of “wrongness” to their narcissistic handler(s).
  3. Program an empath’s brain, hormones, and nervous system to become a continuous fuel supply for the narcissist. This means the empath is almost always in a subconscious state of reaction rather than rest and homeostasis. Empaths are programmed to react physically and emotionally to certain negative cues the narc gives them (i.e. anger or frustration elicits fear or confusion which is transposed as an energetic fuel).
  4. Isolate empaths from each other so the truth cannot be agreed upon in consensus and so that empaths live in constant states of self-doubt and cognitive dissonance.
  5. Prevent the truth from ever coming out by way of coercion, groupthink, threats, energetic intimidation, and other forms of abuse.
  6. When and if the truth does come out, develop smear campaigns to sabotage the truth from being believed. If the “witnesses”, “whistle blowers” or other truth teller is smeared first, their character will be tainted and thus, the truth will not be taken seriously.
  7. Blame the victim. If defaming the victim’s character isn’t enough, narcs will flat out blame the victim for the narc’s bad behavior. They didn’t do it, you did.
  8. Take resources from the empath/victim. They will ensure you cannot succeed financially, socially, in the workplace, and more. They take away rights or resources so you have little to no way to survive or support yourself.
  9. Pretend as if nothing is happening. In addition to the covert bad behavior that is done on an underlying level, they will also act as though nothing has happened at all so that the reaction from the empath or victim seems completely out of place and psychotic. This will further drive home the point that they are blameless and the victim is a maniac who caused the problem. Because they are pretending and therefore, subconsciously encourage others to pretend as well, they believe their reality is the truth.

It’s very important to begin identifying these tactics in order to understand that whomever is using them is in direct opposition to the truth and therefore, not on the side of the ascension or karmic undoing — that they are in fact a deterrent to the truth and need to be removed from your life. This will also help you understand the karmic undoing you are witnessing in the news media. It’s not a mistake. It is a sign of the times.

Overcoming energetic slavery

There are two kinds of hurt and trauma: one is intentional and one is unintentional. In my experience working with empathic people over the years, and based on my own life experiences, unintentional pain may still take years or decades to heal, but it is easier for empaths to forgive. Unintended pain still hurts, but it is possible to understand why someone did what they did, what they made a certain choice, and how to compare this to our own flaws and faults in order to forgive.

Intentional infliction of pain that results in trauma is a beast unto itself, however. It is much harder to forgive someone who did something painful on purpose, with the intention of harming you in the long run. For an empath, this kind of evil is incomprehensible. For an empath, since you would never do this, you have a hard time understanding why someone else would do it, which means you have a more difficult time rationalizing it and forgiving it. 

This creates a dilemma. Trauma isn’t just felt in the body; it is also relived in the mind for years and years after the event took place. Trying to reconcile intentional pain becomes a puzzle you spend an entire lifetime trying to solve. Rarely do we realize that there is no final clue, no final piece of the puzzle that will help us to understand why someone would harm on purpose. There is no logical answer other than some people are rooted in their ego, willing to do anything to get to the “top”, and some people are rooted in the subconscious mind, willing to do anything to understand their true divine nature and become less and less egoic. 

Day after day of your life may become but a flashback of said wounding and the big, bold life of adventure and excitement you had planned suddenly becomes a narrow-sighted vision of how to simply survive another day. You create a negative feedback cycle between the event and a corresponding physiological response. You think of the painful memory, which elicits an emotional reaction, which then generates a physical response. Depending on the physical response, you will also alter chakra function in the area of the wounding. 

Day after day, you relive the event and fall into the familiar “energetic” (emotional then physiological response) pattern as a result. It becomes a prison you cannot break free from. It limits who you are and who you can become in the world. It limits the potential for good you can create in the world. It means that your energetic field is directed outwards, to very specific people or circumstances, rather than directed inwards to heal and benefit yourself and your homeostasis. And this is a form of slavery. 

Do not for one minute assume that your perpetrator did not anticipate this reaction from you. This reaction is the very reason they acted out an abuse on you in the first place. See, as I outline in my newly-released book How to Become Intuitive, empaths are not the only people capable of reading and sensing energy. Narcissists are also very adept at this and indeed, get a high off of negative or reactionary emotions you send their way. Each time you relive the abuse or trauma, not only are you eliciting a response within your body, but you are sending them a source of fuel. Them having the power over you to elicit such a reaction is all the fuel — and control — they desire. They know you are under their control even if a hand has never been laid on you.

They know that escaping this energetic slavery requires extreme growth and personal work. They know that escaping means you completely die to your old self and your old way of being. Many people remain stuck in the trauma their entire lives, sweeping it under the rug, because neither family nor society has ever encouraged them to do something about it. “It didn’t happen,” or “It wasn’t that bad,” or “You’re making it up and exaggerating,” the victim is so often told. You begin to deny that the wound exists altogether and instead act it out via fears and phobias, low self esteem, cyclical thinking, physical ailments, and more.

You need not remain in this energetic prison forever. It is possible to free yourself. It requires deep inner work, personal healing, transmuting negative energy, and taking back your personal power. It requires a victim to do the unthinkable — heal herself despite her having little to no personal energy to do so. If all of your energy has been funneled back to your perpetrator, it becomes damn near impossible to break the cord and funnel it back to yourself. Your nervous system, hormones, and brain have been trained to give to your abuser. Your energetic field has been altered to act as a food source for your perp. So you must identify all false realities, non-reciprocal expectations and demands, and veiled or overt threats that have kept you in a state of subservience. Then you must do the opposite of what your programming tells you. Do this for years until it becomes your first response. Then you will be free.