The 3 archetypal wounds all empaths share

3D, 5D, abuse, ascension, chakras, core wounds, ego, empath, energy, holistic, intuition, karma, life lessons, mind-body, narcissism, past lives, relationships, stress

In my work doing Energy Readings, I illuminate for clients what their core wounds and life lessons are (among other fascinating things). These are evident based on your energy, the energy of those around you, your fears and phobias, your talents, your beliefs about yourself and the world, your history and experiences, the roles you seem to fall into, the things you dream about pursuing, and more. In other words, we all have our own unique wounds that are holding us back and keeping us sick. Once recognized and acknowledged, we can become fully self-actualized people, able to be and do whatever we like in order to fulfill our souls need for peace and longevity.

But there are also collective, long-standing archetypal wounds that all empaths share. These are the things you keep subconsciously avoiding by living smaller than you really are, adopting a false persona of sorts to keep others happy, which means you’ll never be able to live out your true wonderful purpose here. These three wounds are so deeply embedded into the empathic psyche that, until you have someone elucidate these subconscious belief systems and fears, you will truly go your entire life running from them. And they are “collective” because we all have them.

These fears stem from past life trauma, plain and simple. As I have said before, I would not have ever believed in the concept of past lives had I not had dramatic supernatural “remembrance” experiences in which I recognized strangers — and them, me. This is not something I can quantify to convince anyone. Once it happens to you, your whole world changes and everything you think you once believed about the nature of reality is stripped away, leaving you with a whole new perspective on the world.

Once I understood we have all been here many times before, the wounds I saw my clients carrying suddenly made so much more sense. They weren’t just running from unhealthy relationships in this lifetime. They weren’t just choosing dysfunction over order and direction. They were trying to avoid that which had happened in previous incarnations — because what had happened before left them dead, destitute, sickened, and alone. But as with everything in life, until you understand the system, you cannot understand the experiences. Until you see there is a greater rhyme and reason, you cannot make sense of the nonsense and bullshit you have lived — or why you are so fearful of things that have not yet happened in this incarnation.

As I’ve tried to convey again and again, the world and its people can be split into one of three categories: empaths, narcissists, and those who fall somewhere in the middle. Empaths and narcissists will always be at odds because empaths are here to preserve the planet and narcissists wish to destroy the biological technology and resources which would help future generations. Of course, few people know they’re acting this out because these desires reside deep within the subconscious mind. But a person’s actions and intentions (energy) will always show you which side they are on: do they make paths straight or do they inflict pain and chaos whenever possible? Up until this point, narcissists have relegated empaths to a status of subservience, and narcissistic personalities have taken positions of leadership all over the globe.

As such, empaths have had to play the offense and defense against narcs lifetime after lifetime. There are three subconscious, archetypal wounds all empathic people have learned to “avoid” by catering to narcissists. They include:

  1. The wound of seeing the veil. This means you feel guilty, weird, wrong, and ashamed that you are naturally able to differentiate between the 3-dimensional world and the world of spirit (the 5D). Even if you do not call it this, you know in your soul that there is the world we use to “get by”, pay bills, engage in entertainment, and work a job. Then there is also a world that resides in how you and others feel, how you know there is more to life than money, and how you want to help cultivate change for the better. You know there is more. This is an ability you have come to hide because you have seen in present and past lifetimes that the “seers” are mocked, shamed, and shunned — and sometimes put to death.
  2. The wound of the “mob”. This is the subconscious fear that if you expose or forgo groupthink, you will be at the mercy of punishment from the cognitive dissonance you have instilled in others. In other words, if you do not go along with the directives of “normalcy” that your group/community/family operates under, you will become the black sheep. And the black sheep always faces some sort of punishment for being different or exposing the unethical nature of the group.
  3. The wound of the gift. Empaths aren’t just highly sensitive people, able to feel and read the energy/intentions of those around them. They are also seekers, lightworkers, healers, and helpers. They are here to change the world. But because of the previous two wounds, we suppress our true intuitive nature in order to please others. What should be a natural ability becomes a dangerous secret we protect at all costs. Then, each time we face a situation that requires us to use our intuitive, healing nature, we go into hiding instead of activating it. Each time this happens, we become more stressed, sick, and ashamed of ourselves that we have this gift in the first place. Over time, our physical and emotional health suffers greatly — all because we have a gift that we feel we cannot use.

You see, these fears are your karma. When we think of karma, we think of punishment. But actually karma is all of the unresolved problems you have never dealt with so you are no longer tied to the past. In my experience, the only ways to overcome these subconscious collective fears is to confront them head on. This requires not only recognizing they are present to begin with, but also doing the opposite of them — acting on our gifts, allowing the mob to do what it wants, then rising above it all in the end. Yes, they will hate you — and get others to hate you. Yes they will take your money, your good name, your clout, your definition of self. But after you do so, you will come to find that no matter which fear tactic is thrown your way, you can indeed overcome them all. And you will no longer be scared or subconsciously hold yourself back from your true life’s path. You will step into your “I Am” presence, unaffected by the sabotage or judgment of others. You become free of karma. Only you get to define who you are.

Watch my Instagram video for more information on these three wounds and what you can do to overcome them.


How to not give your abuser your energy forever

3D, 5D, abuse, ascension, brain, chakras, core wounds, empath, energy, hormones, karma, life lessons, mind-body, narcissism, past lives, relationships, sex, stress

I want to start off this post by saying two things: abuse is never the victim’s fault — ever — and you cannot prevent abuse. Abuse happens because perpetrators choose to abuse, bottom line, plain and simple. Abusers should posses self-control just like any other person and of course, they do not. It is not the victim’s fault that someone else lacks self-control. There was nothing you could do to make them possess self-control because that has to come from within a person.

That said, I have been through enough abuse in my life that I know this: just because someone terrorizes you does not mean you have to allow yourself to give your perp your fearful, angry, resentful, frenetic, or sad energy forever. Yes, you will be a victim when someone victimizes you. But you do not need to continue to give them your power after the abuse has transpired.

See, what I have learned is that abuse is by and large about energy. One person craves a certain form of energy (be it sex, money, codependency, attention, control) and one person has theirs usurped. In the moment of abuse, there’s not much you can do. Someone overpowers you physically, someone takes your money, takes your good name — you are legitimately a victim –there’s no way to prevent this. Because one person pursues, the other person naturally runs, fights back, or freezes. One abuser, one victim; one chaser, one runner. One in power, one with no power. Abuse itself is what puts you in the role of the victim because of the dynamics between victimizer and victim. You had no choice.

But abuse doesn’t end there. Abuse is also the mindfuck and energy drain that happens for years and years and years after. It is the subconscious fears, the new phobias, the anxiety, the depression, and possibly, suicidal thoughts. Abuse is being scared to answer your door, answer your phone, go to the grocery store because everything reminds you of that terrible thing that happened. It is a mental prison that often becomes a physical prison. It is never knowing who to trust and being unable to relax and remain comfortable even in non-threatening scenarios because your brain, hormones, and nervous system have been rewired.

After abuse has transpired, continuing to think of yourself as this person’s victim is what continues to give them power even when they are no longer a threat. Continuing to think of yourself as beneath them is what makes you their eternal victim and makes them eternally powerful. This is exactly what an abuser wants. And that is ultimately why they abuse in the first place. This is one reason I wrote the blog post Understanding Abuse From A 5D Perspective, FYI. An abuser wants your energy forever and ever. They want you to think of them, think of the horrible things they’ve done to you, think of the ways they took your power, the ways you were forced to bow down to them. They live for this. They get off on it. Because when you reflect back to those moments, they are sent energetic food. This is what gives them fuel to keep going. They want you to be an energetic provider — a slave — your entire life.

The truth is that energy doesn’t just go away. And this is what leaves many victims feeling like a victim well after the abuse has transpired. See, energy changes, gets hidden, or gets manipulated. If no one teaches you to transmute the energy that was forced onto you, then you will live with that same terrifying, powerless energetic profile your entire life. And it will continue to make you sick and miserable. This isn’t something talk therapy can fix, though having a professional to speak with is of course a great idea. Healing abuse requires an understanding of energy.

Healing trauma is a lengthy process. My clients don’t heal lifelong trauma overnight. Though I will say this — after every single session, they emphatically thank me because they were given a new way of looking at what has happened to them, which led them to have new understandings about how to get over it, which allows for healing. I don’t offer the loveseat therapy sessions we’ve all come to know — I offer a 5th dimensional perspective on why it happened (this connects to karma and past life perpetrators), what happened to them as a result, how it connects to or created core wounds, how they’re still acting those wounds out, and how to release the energy to self-actualize. A therapist can’t offer the eternal lens of the divine but an Intuitive can.

If you are new to energy work or are interested in using energy to help you overcome abuse and trauma, the best advice I can give you is this: become extremely self-aware. Identify every single thing that triggers you on a daily basis, or all of your adaptive habits (aka “bad” habits that stem from trauma). Then connect it back to its origin. Where did it come from? Why does it bother you? Why do you do certain things? Once you know these answers (I tell you these things in an Energy Reading appointment), it becomes very easy to release the energetic chord or attachment that your subconscious mind has created to prevent the trauma from happening again. Energy (aka: intention) from the subconscious mind forms an invisible thread that gets lodged in certain parts of your body via association with the trauma. You can begin to logically connect the dots and understand what it all means. “When I feel this way emotionally, or have this thought, I feel this way physically. I felt this way physically when the trauma occurred. Therefore, I am living out past cycles”, or “This unrelated person/situation triggers me because it is the same boundary that was crossed when the abuse happened”, or, “I am choosing this unhealthy habit because it helps me prevent myself from thinking about the triggers”, or, “I subconsciously stew about the abuse every day and am therefore sending energy to my perpetrator whom I still feel has power over me”, etc.

There is a rhyme and reason to how you feel. Until you connect the dots, you will live with resentment, anger, frustration, and fear because it makes no sense and you still feel powerless. Understanding the energy and how to break the energy up is how to truly heal.

The lost souls: the empaths who act like narcissists

3D, 5D, abuse, ascension, core wounds, ego, empath, energy, intuition, life lessons, narcissism, past lives, relationships, stress

This is one of those phenomena that boggles my mind equally as much as it pains me. You see, the spectrum of empathy to narcissism is strange indeed. Where one falls on that spectrum will depend upon how much wounding you have incurred in this life (and others), how much personal work you have done, and how susceptible you are to outside energies/forces. That means, you can be an empath with narcissistic traits. Or, there can also be narcissists (and there often are) who mimic empathic traits to get what they want. It takes a very well-discerning eye to be able to read the soul’s vibration in order to understand where someone falls on the spectrum, for what reasons, and their true soul’s intention.

I have come across several empathic people, with whom I have had close relationships, who vibrate an empath energy from their soul, but who have taken on the adaptive methods and tactics of narcissism because of their indoctrination and upbringing (abuse), lack of guidance from other empathic people in their lives, and self-worth issues. They possess a high degree of consciousness and do in fact have a conscience (narcissists do not). They are able to observe from a spiritual lookout point, so to speak, and assess who people really are and what their given intentions are in a situation. They are very good at discerning right and wrong, and therefore the truth. They posses third eye activity but they often doubt themselves because no one has ever affirmed they are correct.

The problem is, because these people are lost souls, floating from one relationship to another, one group to another, desperately seeking ways to fit in, desperately wanting to feel like they belong, they are willing to do anything to get the love and affirmation they desire. And that includes losing pieces of their soul for social acceptance. That includes mimicking behavior they deep down know is not healthy. But they are too scared to take a stand and act from their soul because their soul has never been acceptable in this world. These people will go huge portions of their lives exhibiting narcissistic behaviors because they have been taught these things are normal, in fact — it was done to them, and since they don’t trust their first reaction or innate knowing, they discount their soul in favor of societal norms and expectations.

On the other end of the spectrum are people who act like empaths a majority of the time (serving others, helping others, loving others), but when a major stressor arises in which they would need to put their foot down and make an ethical decision that would not be popular with the “crowd”, they forgo the right choice and their inner knowing because they do not want to feel left out, or because they are coerced into it. This is where they have only been partially confident in themselves and the slightest stress pushes them over the edge into cognitive dissonance, and because the crowd appears to have so many “intelligent, qualified” people affirming a certain decision (or trying to convince them to do so), they think they themselves must be wrong in their assessment and everyone else must be correct. Or, there is some sort of benefit they will receive from their “handler” if they act like them or agree with them (social standing, money, work, love, affection, friendship, etc).

Here’s an example: I’ve written before about abuse and the phenomena called “flying monkeys“. This is where an abuser utilizes friends, family, acquaintances, and business associates to taunt, shame, threaten, or guilt a victim so that the victim either can’t leave the abuse or is punished for doing so. As a result, an entire group of people are reinforcing the idea that the victim is at fault for the abuse and the perpetrator is innocent. It is complicity and turning a blind eye to abuse. An empathic person who is strong and confident in their discernment abilities would be able to feel the soul vibrations at play for the truth. Does the victim radiate fear, shame, or hopelessness? Does the perpetrator radiate the energy of acting, putting on a show, pretending? A strong empathic person would trust their first instinct about this and stand up for the victim.

On the other hand, the “lost souls” would forgo their inner knowing and put themselves into states of cognitive dissonance in order to be able to follow the crowd, play along, and please those around them. It’s like they were on the road to shedding the ego but a huge bump in the road throws them off course and they go back into an egoic monkey brain state. Because society is comprised of such a high narcissist to empath ratio, no doubt this empath would have to begin to emulate narcissistic attitudes and behaviors in order to fit in. Over time, this empath learns the only way to get the love and acceptance they so desperately seek is to act like a narcissist. When this pattern is engaged in for years and years, the inner knowing of the empath, their moral compass which has so strongly lead and guided them internally, becomes quieter and quieter until it cannot be heard at all. The empath then goes on to abuse people the way a narcissist would because the pull between the inner world and outer world is too much to handle.

In both of these cases, I don’t believe the empath ever stops being an empath. The tragedy is they are still empathic but have taken on adaptive methods to act like a narcissist. You can feel their conscience, you can see their soul behind their eyes, but their ego has imposed so much pain and suffering onto them, they are willing to do anything to try to get rid of it. And that usually involves trying to become someone else. Sadly, nothing can save these people except themselves. There is no amount of love, information, or acceptance you can provide these people to get them to see the truth of who they are. Those things are a good start, but ultimately they have to remember that there is another way; that there is a soul inside of them who wants to be themselves.