A few years ago I had a long-time client sitting in my office. She had initially seen me for nutrition support for a goiter (we had success) then she came to me for mind-body work. I remember we were speaking about some difficult family relationships, but she started musing on the story of the Tower of Babel. She was a Christian woman with a penchant for Energy Readings and she was able to seamlessly integrate the two. Spiritual work and her faith were not at odds with each other, they were supportive.
Her stream of consciousness about stress in her relationships lead her back to this Biblical story. She wondered if, although perhaps just parable, it held a deeper meaning for our lives. What if the story of the Tower of Babel (in which God saw the pride in the people’s hearts and caused them to begin speaking different languages, unable to communicate with each other) wasn’t so much about language but more about confusion? What if was a story about ego — a false mask imposed on us, unable to see the truth in others or ourselves, leading to much confusion in our interactions? What if the ego keeps us from understanding each other since the ego is a projection of the past?
Have you ever tried to have a conversation with someone and they literally couldn’t hear you? I don’t mean they weren’t listening (though maybe they weren’t) — and I don’t mean with people who are genuinely hard of hearing or have a sensory processing disorder. I mean they had a hard time hearing the actual words you were saying. I mean a conversation with someone who is capable of hearing you but just can’t — for whatever reason: you’re in line at a quiet restaurant and the waitress can’t understand your order but can hear the person behind you perfectly fine — or something to that effect. We have all been there. It becomes frustrating.
Communication isn’t just about the words we speak, the intonation of our voice, our word choice, the language of origin, etc. Communication is also infused with energy and intention, each and every time we speak or express ourselves non-verbally. Empaths do this hard without realizing. Those who are not empathic do it as well. The difference is that empaths expect others to “get it” on an instinctive level and are usually disappointed when others cannot feel their intentions. They get caught in a merry-go-round, often, of vague communication because “you should be able to feel my intention”.
Narcissistic people also use their energy to communicate that which cannot be said. They use strong, heavy energy that feel intimidating to an empath, in order to get their way. These are the people you know if you say “no” to they will not be happy. Or the people with whom you are scared to express your needs. You just know it won’t go over well because their energy doesn’t ask or implore — it downright tells you what to do.
Now, as the planet shifts further into ascension mode (that is, forgoing the 3-dimensional distractions and illusions that kept us busy or semi-satisfied but altogether distracted from your life’s purpose in the past, into pursuing matters of the soul), miscommunications are bound to occur — in fact, they are already transpiring. You see, communication is about frequency. As a highly sensitive person, you are in tune with the frequency of others, whether you realize it or not. Unless you were born with an unshakable external confidence (not so common for empaths who have been bullied their whole lives), you have always mimicked other people’s frequency — their soul’s blueprint, thumbprint, energetic intention, if you will — to blend in.
Now that you are no longer able to blend in like you were in the past, and as you become more confident in your pure energy body (the energy from your soul that you no longer want to change or alter to please others), they won’t be able to understand you as readily. In the past you came to their level, you changed yourself, you adapted. Now you can’t do that without feeling you are somehow cheapening yourself; without feeling used or taken advantage of, or controlled.
When the frequencies between their expectations and your actions diverge, they won’t be able to hear you — plain and simple. You can say blue and they’ll hear green. That sort of thing. It is about basic wording as much as it is about intention at this point. Or perhaps you’ll have good intentions with your words but they’ll assume the worst of you. It can get frustrating because as an empath you are living both in the present and you are also being called to a future in a world that isn’t fallen or imperfect. You see both at once and aren’t always sure how to navigate.
Begin to take stock of these interactions. It will help you make sense of your ascension process. And it is a good benchmark for your progress. You may also begin to notice you are becoming increasingly dissatisfied with interactions with others in general because you sense their hearts are closed, they are judgmental, they are cold or curt, they are disconnected, they lack a spark behind their eyes, and on and on. You will begin to seek out people who not only understand you, but people you can feel at home with — who get you without you having to explain. This is another good sign. Since ascension is all about raising your own vibration to one of love, peace, and harmony, anyone who does not fit that energetic profile will no longer seem appealing to you.
Sometimes in these interactions it is hard to decipher what deserves your attention and what does not. You no longer want to be a doormat but you also don’t want to get energetically pulled into drama. If they were rude, do you say anything back? Do you call them out on it? Or do you go about your business? My rule of thumb is this: I call out evil when I see it is affecting me or others on a deep level. One rude interaction doesn’t affect me because I see it is about them. Someone going out of their way to make life harder for you or someone else, though, that is an evil unto itself and should be doused with the light of day in order to stop the cycle. Use your discretion of course, according to the situation.
Remember, we’ve been witnessing an unraveling of karma these last few years. Those who are unaware they have any karma to begin with will be in constant reactionary mode and will be addicted to negative emotions and behaviors. Those who have done the soul work are the ones ascending. The differences in our energy and behavior makes this distinction clear. I don’t say this to judge, I say it to help you. If you have pure intentions, these miscommunications aren’t about you — it is about the journey you are on and it about others trying to project their ego onto you. Be prepared to have to go out of your way to be clear from here on out.
I want to tell you some more truth today and let you in on some personal details; how I ended up in this place because it speaks to the heart of why I do what I do as a coach and how it can help you. The very startling supernatural experiences I have had have led me down a road I never thought I would trek: into past lives, chakras, and energy work. I didn’t want to go here. I didn’t know it was real. I avoided it for as long as I could. I shoved my intuition so far down my throat it got lodged there. Every time I read someone’s ego without realizing it, I tried to hide it by internalizing it as a stress response. I tried to pretend it wasn’t there for their sake. Then I realized it was a gift I could use to help people, instead of make myself sickened by its strength. It’s weird, it’s different, sometimes off-putting, and very few believe it. Not exactly a money-making scheme. I wish I could come up with twenty Paleo recipes each week and make that my shtick. It’s just not my path and I’ve carried a great deal of shame (the lowest vibration) because of it. I’ve finally made peace with it.
Every word I write comes from an intention of the heart and every piece of advice I share comes from living these things myself — not regurgitating words from a book — and from asking my intuition or higher power what it all means, then channeling the results for you. I say the things that need to be said, not because it is popular or cool but because it is the deepest truth I have been able to find and because I have wished for someone to share such insights with me. I want you to be prepared in ways I was not.
The backstory is this: I only operate in the “light” side of things. I have never dabbled in any black arts, shamanism, or witchcraft (I know I can get crucified for calling these out because many believe in “good” spells but I don’t mess around with intention after what I have witnessed). I have never “tried” to conjure anything or speak with the dead. I was never allowed to use a Ouija board (even writing that word gives me the creeps). The law of attraction bores me because it is wishing for things we think are good for us when the Universe may have other plans. In all honesty I don’t even pray in the traditional hands-folded sense but I believe in the final authority of a higher power (though I don’t think it is what we have been told it is) and ask I questions which always seem to be answered which has aided in my spiritual ascension and weakening of the ego. I was shown my blind spots then I changed. I learned how things connected, the cause and effect. I saw what I had to do in order to “flip the karmic script” and self-actualize. Often I get forced into it because not following this path is harder than just giving into it. I ask for help and I always receive it thought I don’t speak with angels, saints, deceased love ones. Simply put, I know that both good and evil are real and that’s why I work hard to fight against the latter when other human beings present in that abusive form. It’s like the line from that movie: “The greatest trick the Devil ever pulled was convincing the world he didn’t exist.” He exists in us when we choose it.
If we live in a dumbed-down groupthink state in which we live for the holidays, Facebook interactions, sitcoms, etc. we are distracted into believing that bad things only happen from time to time; or to other people, and there’s nothing you can do about it. We think if we are good people bad things won’t happen. The truth is, once you choose to self-actualize at all costs and no longer sell your soul for 3D acceptance, you will be tested by dark forces be it narcissists, karmic debt, or your Biblical interpretation of Satan. Bad things don’t happen randomly, they happen as a result of karma, or as a result of choosing the light. I have had people test me, tear me down, and throw wrenches in my path for pursuing my healing work. I have had to prove myself time and again and at the end of it, they got scared because of how accurately I saw their intentional misdeeds for who, what, why, when, and how they really occurred. Details, people, and they were spot on.
I have almost never shared my personal beliefs on these things because well, I thought it was a distraction from what my clients believed. My main goal is to support you in what you believe, not talk you out of it; to strengthen you so you cannot be f*cked with any longer. I put my personal beliefs aside so that you can shine and I can lead you to your higher truth. But when it comes to past lives, I cannot stress enough that they are real, we have all been here before many times, your fears and phobias don’t come from nowhere, your health problems don’t come from nowhere, your attraction or repulsion to certain people is not for no reason, and until you resolve your karma you will be stuck in a prison system. Past-life karma is energetic bars of indebtedness, after all, keeping you at one plane of self-realization.
I give you this background info today because I want you to see that I once too did not believe. I had no reason to and was happily agnostic. God was a question I saw no rush to answer. I wanted my atheist friends to accept me. I didn’t want to upset my Christian friends. My spirituality was yoga and writing and trying to be kind. It wasn’t until I saw flashes of light come from multiple people’s eyes (both friend and foes), saw good omens, repeated very obvious past lives in this incarnation, experienced inexplicable synchronicity, had telepathic connections, saw auras, saw angels, and more did I believe it. It’s easy to say these things, but it’s harder to believe them. One person can’t confirm this but two people can, if they are honest. Some of us are here to tell others this place isn’t what we have been told. The interpretations I learned in Sunday school were vastly misleading.
Supernatural occurrences do not happen for no reason; they are a call to action, a form of confirmation, or an answer to prayer. However, seeing them requires a process of tearing down one’s ego because the ego blocks all sorts of supernatural phenomena from being seen. The ego is the skeptic. The skeptic keeps you seeing what it wants you to. Also, these things cannot be seen or felt by those who do not trust or are not open to them. As an empath, you are open. It’s a catch 22 because you must have a trusting, inquisitive energy first in order to be able to see the magic second. You do not have to believe it is real in order to find it. You simply have to be open, ask, and trust that in due time, or with necessity it will appear.
Now, onto past lives.
Think back to almost every piece of literature ever created. The commonality is that the protagonist is generally always faced with a choice: do I choose the head over heart, or heart over head? Does the king choose the peasant, or does he choose the royal lady in waiting? In his heart he knows what he wants, but the external pressures to maintain appearances may get the best of him. When he makes the heart over head decision, the audience loves it because it’s what we all wish we could choose in life: forgo the karma (stock societal expectations) and venture into dharma (your true life path). Head over heart, head over heart, head over heart — in many lifetimes we could not choose this because of taboos. In many lifetimes, heart over head decisions were forbidden or punishable by death or severe loss.
In order to understand who you really are, why you operate the way you do, how to overcome your dysfunctions and health problems, you first have to uncover who you have been before. The longer you have been open to such things, the easier it will be to see them: the patterns that keep presenting themselves, the cycles you always find yourself in, your hidden fears and talents, your roles, your energy, your health problems, your likes and interests, and on and on and on.
But the purpose of uncovering your past lives is not just about finally understanding yourself. It is about finally letting go of the past so you can remain in the present and be open to the future. It’s about relinquishing the power your assumed roles and the expectations of others have had on you in incarnation after incarnation. It is about choosing what your higher power/intuition/the Universe has for you at the expense of your ego.
Once you accept who you have been, you can begin the lengthy process of transmuting the pain; the pain of what has happened to you, what others have done to you, what you have chosen to your own detriment, how you died, the cycles you’re repeating with others in this lifetime, etc. etc. The ego wants you to remain in the pain, the prison, forever. It’s what keeps the good from rising. It’s what keeps us enslaved to the evils of the past. Processing what has happened to you, trying to understand and come to terms with it, then forgiving and releasing it because you see it is no longer relevant and no longer serves you is the only way to peace. It is living a life in which you are not constantly triggered, brought down, and stressed. It is where you can make healthy, independent choices that are for your enlightenment and future. It doesn’t happen overnight and can take quite a while. It will take you to your darkest places, your core wounds. But it’s what we all need on a personal level and it’s what humanity needs at this point in its evolution in order to break free into peace.
Despite being told we “don’t know” why diseases happen or they only happen as a result of a shitty genetic Russian roulette, the truth is that illnesses come about for numerous external and internal reasons according to the individual’s gene mutations, experiences, core wounds, health history, chakra imbalances or karma, chemical exposure, and more. Therefore, the specific diet a person should be eating will vary according to this personalized history. It is why, although I believe there are dietary practices or theories that are in many ways superior to a standard western diet, there is truly no one-sized-fits-all approach. Who you are determines what you should be eating, not the other way around.
This is the standard I have held myself to over the last 8 years while directing clients in comprehensive nutritional plans. You are unique, your diet should be equally unique. Unfortunately, we are saturated with programs, books, classes, and internet experts telling us there is only one perfect diet (Paleo, Autoimmune Paleo, Keto, Vegan, etc etc). Will you trust your body or will you trust these money-making schemes?
Like I said, there are certain nutrition practices I think we should all to a large degree adopt (unless there is a specific contraindication for you personally). Take, for example, the fact that indigenous cultures and peoples instinctively understood things about food that our modern society overlooks and takes for granted: food should be consumed in its whole forms, it should come directly from the earth, it should be organic and unsprayed or not irradiated, and that you should consume what is local and available to you.
Another principle that transcends time and peoples worldwide is the idea that every meal should contain a raw or fermented food that is rich in enzymes. In Eastern Europe, we see this practice as the dollop of sour cream on the soup or the raw butter on toast; in Latino societies, we see it as the unpasteurized alcohol or fresh condiments consumed with food (tepache, chicha, salsas, curtido); in Asian cultures we see it as the fermented vegetables added to meals or used as side dishes (banchan, for example). These traditions are not “primitive”, they are ancient wisdom that should be respected.
You see, enzymes aide in digestion and not only help your digestive tract to break down foods so they do not end up as inflammatory immune threats, they also help the kidneys and liver in processing foods. Enzymes can also be called life force or energy: they are living and alive and killed by cooking processes. Energy isn’t just about picking up the bad attitudes of others when you walk into a room, it is about what you intake in other ways, including what you eat.
When you eat dead foods, your body has to compensate for the lack of enzymes or water that would normally be found in unprocessed foods. Over time, this creates a deficit that forces your digestive tract, kidneys, and liver to work extra hard. Imagine the consequences of a lifetime of eating foods with no life force. Think back to how many modern meals we eat that are completely dead and devoid of any enzymes: fried potatoes, meats, pizza, pasteurized dairy, roasted vegetables, rice, bread, and on and on. While many of these foods can be healthy when sourced from quality purveyors, or when prepared in certain ways (grass-fed burgers, for example), they are still dead and force your body into an energetic deficit.
Another way I’ve heard “life force” interpreted when it comes to food is this: the kind of food you eat, when, how, and at which pace, affects how you feel afterwards. For example, you will feel differently eating a salad versus a bowl of pasta. One will probably leave you feeling light and energized afterwards, and one will leave you feeling stuffed, lethargic, and ready for a nap.
In nutrition school, I also learned that coming together for a meal is about more than a social gathering; it is also an exchange of energy between the people sharing the food. Sure, you will get to talk, enjoy the people you are with, and get energized (or, perhaps, brought down) by their personal energy, but you will also end up collectively feeling the same way afterwards if you all eat the same thing. It’s one reason we congregate for meals: to get into a kind of positive groupthink with family or friends. This is in large part due to the fact that if you are sharing one big meal rather than everyone ordering something different so you will likely have similar blood sugar responses, levels of satiety, and therefore the same energy during and afterwards. On the flip side, we also know that having inhibitory responses (ie: getting stressed, nervous, holding back, being ashamed, etc) slows down the thyroid immediately and prevents thyroid hormone from being released, which aides in digestion. Food brings people together for many reasons, and energy is one of them.
My nutrition school professor also described the energetics of food with this example: a famous and highly sensitive Japanese nutrition expert (a leader in the Macrobiotics movement) was so energetically sensitive he could always feel the energy with which the food he was eating was prepared. So once, a man tried to purposefully trick him to see what his interpretation of the food “energy” would be. This chef danced around the kitchen, clapping his hands, yelling, jumping up and down as he cooked. When the food arrived to the table, the nutrition expert took a few bites and said he was very confused with what had been done to this food. While it tasted delicious, he said the energy was chaotic and crazy and couldn’t understand what had happened while it was cooking. Despite not being in the kitchen while it was cooking, he knew something was “off”.
If you are a highly sensitive person, you may not feel the food life force quite to this degree, but your body will likely internalize it and it could stimulate or sedate you based on who prepared it and the emotion with which it was prepared. Now think about what happens when you go out to eat: the food you’re eating may be prepared by a worker who doesn’t particularly care for their job, slaps the meal together in a hurry with little love or care, and gets it to the table as quickly as possible. It’s one reason home cooked food tastes so good and we crave holiday gatherings or food from the “mother”: most likely, she put her heart and soul into it and prepared it with love.
The takeaway here is that you are an energetic being with constant energetic requirements. You must in-put good energetic sources of food, and be surrounded by positive energy while eating in order to aide the digestive tract and other vital organs.