The empaths who can’t emote

3D, 5D, abuse, brain, children, core wounds, ego, empath, energy, intuition, mind-body, narcissism, stress, Uncategorized

First, an announcement. I wrote a book. A book full of invaluable information for you that will be published in the next few months. It’s called How To Become Intuitive. As soon as this current editing stage is done with the publishing company, I’ll be sharing pieces of it here on my blog. The knowledge contained in it is so vast and complex but essentially, it’s a guide to trusting your first instinct, why you/humanity hasn’t thus far, and how to tap back into your logical and mystical intuition once more in order to spiritually ascend — and the reality of what happens when you do. I explain how I once was an agnostic using my intuition for “second opinion” approaches with nutrition and my client’s physical health, and how a silent vow to the sky landed me in a world full of metaphysics, chakras, past lives, and supernatural experiences. My ego was dying and I began to see the world for what it really is, beyond the veil of falsehood. Through experience, I learned the words of the great ascended masters are true and everything they tried to teach us so long ago is still applicable — integral, in fact — to our daily lives. I learned that truth is truly stranger than fiction. As I say in my book, it wasn’t something I necessarily wanted to publish — it was something I needed to publish. I will be opening up pre-orders soon. Thank you for your support in advance. <3

Now, onto the empaths who can’t emote.

I have written before about strange adaptive methods empaths adopt, including The Empaths Who Act Like Narcissists. You can think of all human beings as possessing two separate operating systems. One is the subconscious mind which houses our real selves and true vibrational operating system. The other is the ego, the false persona we are forced into — or find our way into on our own — in order to be liked, successful, and never have to confront our own wounding. Most people operate out of either the ego or a mixture of both. Empaths, however, may take on an ego but it never truly feels like home. So a person can be born an empath, have a soul vibration of empathy, and yet act entirely narcissistic because of adverse experiences. It’s like they’re hiding their scared inner child.

Recently I have come across another kind of empath adaptation that is much harder to spot. These are the empaths who can’t presently emote. In other words, the hallmark sign of an empath is the level of emotion they release as an energetic frequency. That doesn’t mean these people are always crying and sad. It means they’re adept and have the inherent skill for turning a thing (intention, feeling, experience, expectation) into an invisible energy they then project as their own. They transmute and/or they translate a thing into an energy, an energy into a meaning, a meaning into an understanding. The empaths who can’t emote, though, lack the emotional programming in order to feel such feelings at all.

Typically, an empath’s emoting is directed inwards but ends up leaking outwards because empaths (until they are aware, at least) do not know how to stop leaking energy. This means an empath’s personal emotions will be leaked, how they feel about others and external circumstances will be leaked, how others are feeling will be leaked, how they feel about others leaks, and they will leak when others flat out ask or subconsciously demand it of them. This is because an empath’s subconscious mind is their natural state and this part of the brain is where authentic feelings are housed. Simply put, they leak vibrational frequencies all day long in response to what has happened in the past, what is presently happening, or who they or others are on a soul level.

The empaths who cannot emote (let’s call them ECE’s for short), on the other hand, share some similar characteristics. First they were either neglected as children, received no love or emotional nurturing, were otherwise abused, or shut down due to another trigger as they went on in life. They stopped feeling or never learned how to in the first place. Sometimes it presents in the form of pain in the body but cluelessness regarding their own emotional pain (aka: “I’m fine. I don’t think I have any trauma” despite having tons). It can also manifest as someone who feels apathetic but wishes they didn’t. Or in some cases it’s the person who wants a better life for themselves but feels a literal blank spot in their mind like they’ve blacked out certain memories which they therefore cannot access or feel.

The difference between these people and narcissists or sociopaths is that the ECE’s still possess compassion, still give love, and still on some level desire to work through their pain. They are OPEN to the idea of personal development, change, and correcting their thoughts or behavioral patterns. They also have a fair perspective of others and do not actively work to harm. They want to change, they just don’t see how they can. They want to feel, they just don’t remember what it’s like to do so. In other words, they don’t want to be in denial but aren’t sure how or why to get out of it.

In the past I may have considered these people somewhere on the middle of the empath to narcissist spectrum; not narcissistic but not highly sensitive. Now though, I see these people are a severe manifestation of abuse. In fact, as an Intuitive, ECE’S are the hardest people for me to “read” because it’s not enough for me to listen to what a person is telling me or observe how they are acting — I also have to read their energy for the truth. Naturally, ECE’S cannot presently emote so these tend to be my most difficult cases. Even they themselves do not know how they feel.

There is hope for ECE’S, though. Reversing this phenomenon requires a person tap back into their divine feminine energy (aka subconscious mind) in order to begin expressing emotion without fear. They typically operate from a purely logical mindset in which they fit into the toxic masculine system quite well as left-brained reasoners rather than right-brained spontaneous feelers. They must admit to their suppressed emotions and actually, actively make a point to feel them whenever and wherever they arise. Balancing these two aspects of the self and no longer being ashamed of the “irrational” feeling self is essential for healing.

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There is no survival without empathy

3D, 5D, abuse, ascension, core wounds, ego, empath, life lessons, narcissism, relationships, Uncategorized

Empathic people are born “that way”. We can’t choose if we are born with a high, often painful, degree of empathy for others and the world. We see pain, we internalize it, we feel it, we fret over it, we end up hurting ourselves in the long run. We know something isn’t right here, but until recently, we didn’t know empathy is also a call to action — a remedy for a world full of ills.

Empathy can also be learned, or re-learned, though, as it is our normal human state and during the shedding of the ego process, hypothetically, anyone can access their true nature once again. That may be difficult to believe once you have taken off the rose-colored glasses and seen the degrees of narcissism we are dealing with on this planet. Thanks to our monkey brain remnants, vanity and self-protection, we’ve been told, are essential to our survival here. Want to get by? You better make sure you are liked, successful, and fit in.

So an empath tries to skate by, or fly under the radar most of their lives — not feeling entirely sure of their purpose here, or what they can do to make things better. They are but one person in a sea of cut-throat actors playing a part. One day, if they are lucky, they begin to piece together all of their life experiences, observations, and feelings about life and Earth. They begin to awaken out of the cognitive dissonance that has kept them small and quiet, unsure of themselves and what is truly transpiring. They begin to trust themselves enough to see clearly.

You see, the awakening process is only the start. After you have awakened, you then begin the process of healing old wounds via learning your life lessons. When you do, you realize you have the power you have never been naturally bestowed. You realize you have a mission here — and this transcends doing “good” deeds to help others. You realize you want to commit to this purpose no matter the external pressures or consequences. You see that the real purpose of empathy is not just about spreading loving kindness. The true purpose is to help ensure the survival of the species. And this, you will learn, is your reason for being here at this time.

Empathy is not just a feeling or high degree of care and concern for others. It is a method for preserving the planet’s natural resources and ecology, and teaching and engaging in animal-first, plant-first, water-first, air-first, and human-first ideologies in order to ensure our survival. In other words, empathy is in direct contradiction to entropy. Entropy is the decay and destruction that occurs when there is no purposeful plan, no central goal, no agreed upon desired outcome. Entropy is full of chaos, selfishness, confusion, and desolation. Entropy can only exist when a majority of people are not engaged in empathy because empathy naturally prevents entropy. Narcissism and the cut throat survival-of-the-fittest monkey brain tactics are the physical manifestation of entropy. Empathy, that is, acting from your higher self rather than your animalistic brain, naturally halts such destruction.

When you understand the cause and effect of your behavior, you are less likely to harm and destroy. You are more likely to understand what will be damaged or lost as a result of personal choices — even if it does not directly benefit you. You are more likely to show forethought and planning in order to reach a goal that can benefit everyone, not just one person — or a few “chosen” people. You will care about the wounding you inflict on others because you know that hurt people hurt others, and if we want to stop cycles of pain, loss, and disease, we have to stop hurting each other. If we are all hurt, there is no one to stop the cycles of entropy; at least, not without a monumental effort first.

The function of empathy is not just interpersonal peace, equality, and understanding. The function is world peace and world preservation. An ego-driven brain will only ever consider its immediate needs — things that bring it clout, money, “friends”, and power. As such, we will continue to live in an imperfect, slowly decaying world. People being sickened, animals dying, plants being edged out of their habitats, water and air polluted — all in an effort to make money, have industrial needs met, and show who is bigger and badder in the ways of commerce; bigger in badder in the ability to show off to friends and family what one has acquired in their time here.

Empaths, please hear me when I say this: you are not just here to feel. You are here to do. To show there is another way. To call out evil when you see it, not as a personal affront, but as a means of helping to preserve the planet and its species. If some people decide they don’t like you because you can no longer appease their ego, if you have to shake up some egos in the process, well, isn’t that worth it?

As ascension occurs, be prepared — much is lost in translation

ascension, empath, energy, karma, mind-body, narcissism, relationships, stress, thyroid, Uncategorized

A few years ago I had a long-time client sitting in my office. She had initially seen me for nutrition support for a goiter (we had success) then she came to me for mind-body work. I remember we were speaking about some difficult family relationships, but she started musing on the story of the Tower of Babel. She was a Christian woman with a penchant for Energy Readings and she was able to seamlessly integrate the two. Spiritual work and her faith were not at odds with each other, they were supportive.

Her stream of consciousness about stress in her relationships lead her back to this Biblical story. She wondered if, although perhaps just parable, it held a deeper meaning for our lives. What if the story of the Tower of Babel (in which God saw the pride in the people’s hearts and caused them to begin speaking different languages, unable to communicate with each other) wasn’t so much about language but more about confusion? What if was a story about ego — a false mask imposed on us, unable to see the truth in others or ourselves, leading to much confusion in our interactions? What if the ego keeps us from understanding each other since the ego is a projection of the past?

Have you ever tried to have a conversation with someone and they literally couldn’t hear you? I don’t mean they weren’t listening (though maybe they weren’t) — and I don’t mean with people who are genuinely hard of hearing or have a sensory processing disorder. I mean they had a hard time hearing the actual words you were saying. I mean a conversation with someone who is capable of hearing you but just can’t — for whatever reason: you’re in line at a quiet restaurant and the waitress can’t understand your order but can hear the person behind you perfectly fine — or something to that effect. We have all been there. It becomes frustrating.

Communication isn’t just about the words we speak, the intonation of our voice, our word choice, the language of origin, etc. Communication is also infused with energy and intention, each and every time we speak or express ourselves non-verbally. Empaths do this hard without realizing. Those who are not empathic do it as well. The difference is that empaths expect others to “get it” on an instinctive level and are usually disappointed when others cannot feel their intentions. They get caught in a merry-go-round, often, of vague communication because “you should be able to feel my intention”.

Narcissistic people also use their energy to communicate that which cannot be said. They use strong, heavy energy that feel intimidating to an empath, in order to get their way. These are the people you know if you say “no” to they will not be happy. Or the people with whom you are scared to express your needs. You just know it won’t go over well because their energy doesn’t ask or implore — it downright tells you what to do.

Now, as the planet shifts further into ascension mode (that is, forgoing the 3-dimensional distractions and illusions that kept us busy or semi-satisfied but altogether distracted from your life’s purpose in the past, into pursuing matters of the soul), miscommunications are bound to occur — in fact, they are already transpiring. You see, communication is about frequency. As a highly sensitive person, you are in tune with the frequency of others, whether you realize it or not. Unless you were born with an unshakable external confidence (not so common for empaths who have been bullied their whole lives), you have always mimicked other people’s frequency — their soul’s blueprint, thumbprint, energetic intention, if you will — to blend in.

Now that you are no longer able to blend in like you were in the past, and as you become more confident in your pure energy body (the energy from your soul that you no longer want to change or alter to please others), they won’t be able to understand you as readily. In the past you came to their level, you changed yourself, you adapted. Now you can’t do that without feeling you are somehow cheapening yourself; without feeling used or taken advantage of, or controlled.

When the frequencies between their expectations and your actions diverge, they won’t be able to hear you — plain and simple. You can say blue and they’ll hear green. That sort of thing. It is about basic wording as much as it is about intention at this point. Or perhaps you’ll have good intentions with your words but they’ll assume the worst of you. It can get frustrating because as an empath you are living both in the present and you are also being called to a future in a world that isn’t fallen or imperfect. You see both at once and aren’t always sure how to navigate.

Begin to take stock of these interactions. It will help you make sense of your ascension process. And it is a good benchmark for your progress. You may also begin to notice you are becoming increasingly dissatisfied with interactions with others in general because you sense their hearts are closed, they are judgmental, they are cold or curt, they are disconnected, they lack a spark behind their eyes, and on and on. You will begin to seek out people who not only understand you, but people you can feel at home with — who get you without you having to explain. This is another good sign. Since ascension is all about raising your own vibration to one of love, peace, and harmony, anyone who does not fit that energetic profile will no longer seem appealing to you.

Sometimes in these interactions it is hard to decipher what deserves your attention and what does not. You no longer want to be a doormat but you also don’t want to get energetically pulled into drama. If they were rude, do you say anything back? Do you call them out on it? Or do you go about your business? My rule of thumb is this: I call out evil when I see it is affecting me or others on a deep level. One rude interaction doesn’t affect me because I see it is about them. Someone going out of their way to make life harder for you or someone else, though, that is an evil unto itself and should be doused with the light of day in order to stop the cycle. Use your discretion of course, according to the situation.

Remember, we’ve been witnessing an unraveling of karma these last few years. Those who are unaware they have any karma to begin with will be in constant reactionary mode and will be addicted to negative emotions and behaviors. Those who have done the soul work are the ones ascending. The differences in our energy and behavior makes this distinction clear. I don’t say this to judge, I say it to help you. If you have pure intentions, these miscommunications aren’t about you — it is about the journey you are on and it about others trying to project their ego onto you. Be prepared to have to go out of your way to be clear from here on out.