There is no survival without empathy

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Empathic people are born “that way”. We can’t choose if we are born with a high, often painful, degree of empathy for others and the world. We see pain, we internalize it, we feel it, we fret over it, we end up hurting ourselves in the long run. We know something isn’t right here, but until recently, we didn’t know empathy is also a call to action — a remedy for a world full of ills.

Empathy can also be learned, or re-learned, though, as it is our normal human state and during the shedding of the ego process, hypothetically, anyone can access their true nature once again. That may be difficult to believe once you have taken off the rose-colored glasses and seen the degrees of narcissism we are dealing with on this planet. Thanks to our monkey brain remnants, vanity and self-protection, we’ve been told, are essential to our survival here. Want to get by? You better make sure you are liked, successful, and fit in.

So an empath tries to skate by, or fly under the radar most of their lives — not feeling entirely sure of their purpose here, or what they can do to make things better. They are but one person in a sea of cut-throat actors playing a part. One day, if they are lucky, they begin to piece together all of their life experiences, observations, and feelings about life and Earth. They begin to awaken out of the cognitive dissonance that has kept them small and quiet, unsure of themselves and what is truly transpiring. They begin to trust themselves enough to see clearly.

You see, the awakening process is only the start. After you have awakened, you then begin the process of healing old wounds via learning your life lessons. When you do, you realize you have the power you have never been naturally bestowed. You realize you have a mission here — and this transcends doing “good” deeds to help others. You realize you want to commit to this purpose no matter the external pressures or consequences. You see that the real purpose of empathy is not just about spreading loving kindness. The true purpose is to help ensure the survival of the species. And this, you will learn, is your reason for being here at this time.

Empathy is not just a feeling or high degree of care and concern for others. It is a method for preserving the planet’s natural resources and ecology, and teaching and engaging in animal-first, plant-first, water-first, air-first, and human-first ideologies in order to ensure our survival. In other words, empathy is in direct contradiction to entropy. Entropy is the decay and destruction that occurs when there is no purposeful plan, no central goal, no agreed upon desired outcome. Entropy is full of chaos, selfishness, confusion, and desolation. Entropy can only exist when a majority of people are not engaged in empathy because empathy naturally prevents entropy. Narcissism and the cut throat survival-of-the-fittest monkey brain tactics are the physical manifestation of entropy. Empathy, that is, acting from your higher self rather than your animalistic brain, naturally halts such destruction.

When you understand the cause and effect of your behavior, you are less likely to harm and destroy. You are more likely to understand what will be damaged or lost as a result of personal choices — even if it does not directly benefit you. You are more likely to show forethought and planning in order to reach a goal that can benefit everyone, not just one person — or a few “chosen” people. You will care about the wounding you inflict on others because you know that hurt people hurt others, and if we want to stop cycles of pain, loss, and disease, we have to stop hurting each other. If we are all hurt, there is no one to stop the cycles of entropy; at least, not without a monumental effort first.

The function of empathy is not just interpersonal peace, equality, and understanding. The function is world peace and world preservation. An ego-driven brain will only ever consider its immediate needs — things that bring it clout, money, “friends”, and power. As such, we will continue to live in an imperfect, slowly decaying world. People being sickened, animals dying, plants being edged out of their habitats, water and air polluted — all in an effort to make money, have industrial needs met, and show who is bigger and badder in the ways of commerce; bigger in badder in the ability to show off to friends and family what one has acquired in their time here.

Empaths, please hear me when I say this: you are not just here to feel. You are here to do. To show there is another way. To call out evil when you see it, not as a personal affront, but as a means of helping to preserve the planet and its species. If some people decide they don’t like you because you can no longer appease their ego, if you have to shake up some egos in the process, well, isn’t that worth it?

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As ascension occurs, be prepared — much is lost in translation

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A few years ago I had a long-time client sitting in my office. She had initially seen me for nutrition support for a goiter (we had success) then she came to me for mind-body work. I remember we were speaking about some difficult family relationships, but she started musing on the story of the Tower of Babel. She was a Christian woman with a penchant for Energy Readings and she was able to seamlessly integrate the two. Spiritual work and her faith were not at odds with each other, they were supportive.

Her stream of consciousness about stress in her relationships lead her back to this Biblical story. She wondered if, although perhaps just parable, it held a deeper meaning for our lives. What if the story of the Tower of Babel (in which God saw the pride in the people’s hearts and caused them to begin speaking different languages, unable to communicate with each other) wasn’t so much about language but more about confusion? What if was a story about ego — a false mask imposed on us, unable to see the truth in others or ourselves, leading to much confusion in our interactions? What if the ego keeps us from understanding each other since the ego is a projection of the past?

Have you ever tried to have a conversation with someone and they literally couldn’t hear you? I don’t mean they weren’t listening (though maybe they weren’t) — and I don’t mean with people who are genuinely hard of hearing or have a sensory processing disorder. I mean they had a hard time hearing the actual words you were saying. I mean a conversation with someone who is capable of hearing you but just can’t — for whatever reason: you’re in line at a quiet restaurant and the waitress can’t understand your order but can hear the person behind you perfectly fine — or something to that effect. We have all been there. It becomes frustrating.

Communication isn’t just about the words we speak, the intonation of our voice, our word choice, the language of origin, etc. Communication is also infused with energy and intention, each and every time we speak or express ourselves non-verbally. Empaths do this hard without realizing. Those who are not empathic do it as well. The difference is that empaths expect others to “get it” on an instinctive level and are usually disappointed when others cannot feel their intentions. They get caught in a merry-go-round, often, of vague communication because “you should be able to feel my intention”.

Narcissistic people also use their energy to communicate that which cannot be said. They use strong, heavy energy that feel intimidating to an empath, in order to get their way. These are the people you know if you say “no” to they will not be happy. Or the people with whom you are scared to express your needs. You just know it won’t go over well because their energy doesn’t ask or implore — it downright tells you what to do.

Now, as the planet shifts further into ascension mode (that is, forgoing the 3-dimensional distractions and illusions that kept us busy or semi-satisfied but altogether distracted from your life’s purpose in the past, into pursuing matters of the soul), miscommunications are bound to occur — in fact, they are already transpiring. You see, communication is about frequency. As a highly sensitive person, you are in tune with the frequency of others, whether you realize it or not. Unless you were born with an unshakable external confidence (not so common for empaths who have been bullied their whole lives), you have always mimicked other people’s frequency — their soul’s blueprint, thumbprint, energetic intention, if you will — to blend in.

Now that you are no longer able to blend in like you were in the past, and as you become more confident in your pure energy body (the energy from your soul that you no longer want to change or alter to please others), they won’t be able to understand you as readily. In the past you came to their level, you changed yourself, you adapted. Now you can’t do that without feeling you are somehow cheapening yourself; without feeling used or taken advantage of, or controlled.

When the frequencies between their expectations and your actions diverge, they won’t be able to hear you — plain and simple. You can say blue and they’ll hear green. That sort of thing. It is about basic wording as much as it is about intention at this point. Or perhaps you’ll have good intentions with your words but they’ll assume the worst of you. It can get frustrating because as an empath you are living both in the present and you are also being called to a future in a world that isn’t fallen or imperfect. You see both at once and aren’t always sure how to navigate.

Begin to take stock of these interactions. It will help you make sense of your ascension process. And it is a good benchmark for your progress. You may also begin to notice you are becoming increasingly dissatisfied with interactions with others in general because you sense their hearts are closed, they are judgmental, they are cold or curt, they are disconnected, they lack a spark behind their eyes, and on and on. You will begin to seek out people who not only understand you, but people you can feel at home with — who get you without you having to explain. This is another good sign. Since ascension is all about raising your own vibration to one of love, peace, and harmony, anyone who does not fit that energetic profile will no longer seem appealing to you.

Sometimes in these interactions it is hard to decipher what deserves your attention and what does not. You no longer want to be a doormat but you also don’t want to get energetically pulled into drama. If they were rude, do you say anything back? Do you call them out on it? Or do you go about your business? My rule of thumb is this: I call out evil when I see it is affecting me or others on a deep level. One rude interaction doesn’t affect me because I see it is about them. Someone going out of their way to make life harder for you or someone else, though, that is an evil unto itself and should be doused with the light of day in order to stop the cycle. Use your discretion of course, according to the situation.

Remember, we’ve been witnessing an unraveling of karma these last few years. Those who are unaware they have any karma to begin with will be in constant reactionary mode and will be addicted to negative emotions and behaviors. Those who have done the soul work are the ones ascending. The differences in our energy and behavior makes this distinction clear. I don’t say this to judge, I say it to help you. If you have pure intentions, these miscommunications aren’t about you — it is about the journey you are on and it about others trying to project their ego onto you. Be prepared to have to go out of your way to be clear from here on out.

Understanding karmic storylines

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Karma isn’t just a sequence of unfortunate events or punishment for bad behavior. It is a long trail backwards of cause and effect, and it happens for a variety of reasons, not necessarily because you “deserve” it despite what you may have heard. Instead, it’s a reflection of Newton’s third law: everything affects everything else and will have an impact down the road, whether we anticipate it or not. And it will happen to you no matter your religious or spiritual beliefs because it is basic physics. 

I was sitting in a salon yesterday for a haircut and while I waited, I listened to a hairdresser (rather loudly) tell another client her lengthy family history and drama without abandon: her mother grew up as the mother figure when she was only a child; this woman’s mother acted more like a teenager rather than caregiver, and when they all tried to move in together this week (despite the painful past), the grandmother (who happened to be dying of cancer) realized after one day and one too many fights it wasn’t going to work out so she secretly packed up her bags and headed back home from Texas to Michigan. And no one wanted to talk about it. Whew. 

As I always say, we all have problems. Every person and every family or circle of friends/community has deep-rooted underlying issues, despite many working hard to pretend there are no issues. I enjoy the people who are brave enough to admit to the problems — and respect those who actually want to work through them. 

In a situation like the above you may think, well, those are some family issues that are unfortunate and may never be resolved. But when I hear these kinds of things I think back to what led these people to this place in life and what would be required to make it better (and therefore change the karma).

There are really simple ways to understand karma and I want to challenge you to begin using these tools so you can see how karmic storylines are playing out in your life and therefore, how to improve them — which is everyone’s responsibility while alive here.

First, dig really deep to identify the core wound associated in the situation. In this example, the core wounds would be abandonment (getting triggered in the mother, based on her childhood) and lack of help, and a grandmother who is always avoidant, shuts off, and runs when things gets hard or leaves others to pick up the pieces. Realistically, the daughter wants her mother to be the adult, do the responsible thing, admit to what she lacked as a parent, and show unconditional love despite her daughter’s resentment. You see, the roles were reversed and it caused everyone great pain. The daughter wants a mother (instead of having to be her own mother) and the grandmother likely had a childhood in which she was expected to be responsible far too young and she rebelled which could overwhelm her, or perhaps because she was now sick she also needed care and unconditional love. Do you see how the cycle keeps repeating?

Once you understand the core wound, you can see why this situation is transpiring to begin with. It’s not for no reason — it’s because the people involved are triggering each other’s core wounds; if so, they will just repeat in situation after situation, lifetime after lifetime no matter which sex or role you are born into. When you address the situation head on and find compassion, empathy, and compromise, you can resolve your core wounds so this kind of thing doesn’t happen again. So you can grow instead of retreat and repeat.

In the above example, changing the karma would require a hard conversation. It would require all parties see beyond the circumstantial triggers (arguments about silly things that never get to the root of the issues/core wounds) and talk about the depth of their wound in order for the other to truly understand. It would also require genuine listening and the desire from others to resolve the issue no matter what, ie: weakening their own ego for the sake of someone else.

Secondly, look back to all famous works of literature, or even popular shows and books. What is embedded into the collective unconscious is no mistake. The stories we keep telling and sharing with the world at large are as old as time itself. Yes the characters and intricacies of the plot change, but the overarching themes are the same. In nearly every story you read or watch, a common denominator is that the characters are presented with a choice: do I repeat the past or do I venture into the brave unknown? Do I forgo what everyone else wants or expects of me or do I choose my own path? Are we all going to keep doing what is easy or will anyone choose the difficult thing? Who will prevent the truth or good from rising and who will fight to expose it? Who will come up with solutions and who will allow the problems to persist? If I choose my own path, what is the punishment I will face? Does the fear of that outweigh the truth of what is in my soul?

Karmic storyline character roles:

  • The twin flames: fight constantly, passive aggressive if only for comedic effect or can also be overtly aggressive, very high masculine and high feminine, or one is integrated and one not; abusive relationship. One may actively try to make things better (grow), but not always.
  • Distractor: comes in to “swipe” the scene clean and create a transition to a new topic, or so everyone forgets what just happened – sometimes for comic relief, to control the conversation or groupthink, sex appeal, etc.
  • Narcissist: the fearless, egoful leader who gets everyone into trouble and out of trouble, manipulates the entire situation to get his way or make sure no one lets onto what he is doing, earns the favor of others especially those in authority, abuses others then justifies or blames it on victim. He may try to do the right thing every now and then to save face but will always go back to control or abuse.
  • The lackeys: carrying out sinister deeds on behalf of the narcissist leader(s) so they stay in the good graces and receive benefits from the leader. They assume they will be protected, but the leader may eventually turn against them too. 
  • Empath: the sweet, sensitive, king or queen type energy who tries to bring everyone to their senses and do the right thing but is not heard or purposefully quieted. The narcissistic leader/abuser generally targets them to “astroturf” their reality. The narc may eventually fess up and say they will never do it again and there may be a forgive and forget mentality, or the victim may remain hurt.
  • Soul mates: any two people on the same wavelength and always work together when problems arise. 
  • The wise one/mentor: warns the characters about the dangers, but the characters often do not listen then feel bad afterwards and realize he/she were right; helps others learn the lesson.
  • The groupthink background actors/the “mob”: mindlessly supporting the narcissists in order to not be targeted themselves or in order to fit in. May remain silent or may perpetuate groupthink gossip. Refuse to think for themselves.

Use this information to your advantage to identify the storylines you are in, your role and the role of others, and how to escape them or turn them on their heads.

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