Stages of development of the female intuition part 2: the teen years

If you haven’t already done so, please go back and read my first blog on this topic: Stages of development of the female intuition part 1: the early years. Once you get a good understanding for the backdrop to this post, it will all likely begin to click for you — the ways your intuition has been suppressed, why you don’t trust yourself, how to raise up a new generation of daughters (children) who aren’t in constant states of cognitive dissonance about the abuses around them, and who can take control of the energy that is being displaced onto them rather than internalizing it and becoming sick.

So here comes the second part to this series: the teen years. The teenage years are hard for most everyone — the kid, the parents, the teachers, everyone. Teenagers are not only experiencing an influx and sudden surge of hormones, they’re also smack dab in the middle of third eye development, which can and will cause a clusterfuck of problems for everyone involved. That is, unless everyone is operating in the truth (pretty freaking rare). Teen girls have a keen eye for bullshit and truly, deep down know certain people are asking or demanding they keep up lies for sake of appearances. They know their true nature will not be accepted. But because they are only just stepping into their personal power, chances are they will choose to act out or go within in order to combat the lies, rather than feeling comfortable stepping into a role of leadership in order to change the situation for the better.

A teenage girl is going through a lot. Socially, she is trying to fit it and not stand out so she can avoid mocking, bullying, and being picked on. This means she’s going out of her way to adopt a false personality of sorts that works with her circle of friends and what her caregivers expect from her, while she’s trying to attain a perfect body or certain look. External validation is all she has known and getting this from her male peers and from those in authority are number one on her list.

On top of that, she is wise beyond her years. We know that girls develop prefrontal cortex function — plan, plot, strategize — well before their male counterparts who won’t catch up until, best case scenario, their mid-twenties, worst case, their mid-forties! Cliques are a fierce force to be reckoned with and no one wants to be the odd one out at this age. So she plays along to fit in, which largely means acting younger to appease more immature male peers and adopting the social mores of her female circle. She just doesn’t know where her real self, if anywhere, fits in.

She also feels the incessant demands from her parents to perform a certain way in school and in extracurricular activities, project a good girl virginal image, and never cross the line into doing what feels good for her (the horror). In essence, her soul is being stripped by the demands of the external world. She knows she has to fit in for survival but she also knows who she is playing is not who she really is. But because she has never realized (aka: never been told or encouraged) she does not in fact need external validation, her worst fear is losing the approval of others.

The girl’s home life will also play a big role in the development of her intuitive abilities. She is keenly aware of the underlying energy in the home and relationship dynamics and while she may play along like life is fine because that is what the caregivers project, she is absolutely in touch with the problems that stick out like a sore thumb to her. Cheating parents? Check. Parents who drink too much or abuse other substances? Check. Parents who are emotionally unavailable? Check. Parents who fight in private but act like high school sweethearts in public? Check. Parents who don’t care to listen to her? Check. The way she is treated differently than her other siblings? Check, check, check.

If you remember, around age six she begins to realize there is more than one side to the coin, so to speak, and sees that duality and polarities exist. When she reaches her teen years, she not only now has a deep understanding of the polarities (people saying one thing but doing another, people acting in unethical ways, people telling her who she should be despite her not being that thing at all), but she begins to harbor a deep resentment and frustration over them. This is where things can get toxic. “Hormones” is what most people will call this stage of anger, attitude, tantrums, and resting bitch face. What they don’t understand is that the hormones are but a bit of kerosene adding fuel to an already burning fire. What they don’t understand is that she is sick of the lies.

Lies aside, the girl is also walking a fine line between adolescence and adulthood around the corner. She knows hypothetically she could assert her personal power to create some changes in the family/school dynamics. But she also knows those in authority do not easily rescind their power and will never hand it over to her without a fight. She has likely tried this before and it got her nowhere but punishment and loss of love. “Why don’t they trust me?” she wonders. “Why won’t they let me make good decisions for myself?”, “Why won’t they let me learn organically?”, “Why must I keep the secrets for everyone?”, “Why won’t they listen?” she asks herself. This is where core wounds begin to form and she resents those who are forming the wounds for her. Deeper she goes into herself, or deeper she goes into creating her own secret world in which she can act out without risking punishment.

All of this leads the teen to one horrible conclusion: she is worthless and not good enough. If she weren’t, she could be herself and have her needs met. Because her hierarchy of emotional needs is so rarely met, she understands that forgoing her intuitive reflexes is a must for sheer survival. Whatever she has observed and felt no longer matters. She becomes disconnected and no longer cares. She becomes the teen who hates family outings, vacations, dinners, and holidays. Why would she engage with people who are wounding her? She becomes the person who would rather be alone in her room on her phone because it is a form of escapism from the reality of life. Sometimes the escapism takes much larger and more drastic turns.

There is a way to change all of this, of course, but it will require a monumental effort by those around her. You see, she isn’t the problem. She is a symptom of larger dynamics no one wants to talk about. In order to make her healthy, everyone would have to come clean and few want to do this. To reverse this karmic residue, teachers, parents, and those in her life would need to overcome their ego. The ego that says there are no problems, the ego that says she needs to change to make them comfortable, the ego that doesn’t listen to her heart and mind when it is important. Their egos are blocking her intuition and she is almost ready to live in the truth.

Stay tuned for part 3 of this series.

Empath subcategory type 2: Rainbows

If you read my last post Empath subcategory type 1: Indigos, you know that there is a small percentage of the empathic/highly sensitive people in the population that are warriors at heart, see through facades, and are here to break down old toxic systems. These people have a driven mind-set and are irritated by basic ways of doing things that do not lead to positive progress. “Empaths on steroids” as I lovingly referred to them.

In contrast to those kinds of empaths are another kind, Rainbows, which are much more calm, even-tempered, and naive. If Indigos are empaths on steroids, Rainbows are empaths on Xanax. Rainbow people comprise a larger percentage of the empath community and are the stereotypical peace-loving flower child. They often look like hippies, free spirits who wear the long, flowing and brightly colored clothes, pick daisies for enjoyment, and care deeply about the earth’s ecology. They may be tree huggers, environmental activists, and care about the welfare of animals. While Indigos become angry and frustrated at the plight of the world and the complacency of others, Rainbows can become emotional and sad about the state of things, wishing all beings were cared for and loved as they love. They are more likely to join in a cause, rather than start one themselves.

Rainbows are classified by a distinctive multi-colored aura that often resembles a rainbow — neon or pastel whites, blues, yellows, and pinks comprising the majority of their soul’s colors. They do not resonate with one color or the other — they are a mixture of all, hence their name. Because of their high-vibrational aura color, they can also be high energy, hyperactive, and always ready to move on to the next bit of fun. Life is always an adventure for a Rainbow and they want to experience as much as they can in their short existence here. They likely do not carry quite as much karmic residue as an Indigo and so they are able to be much more free-spirited and open to the world.

A Rainbow is easy to spot because their energy is so naive, loving, and kind that you will be blown away by their easy going nature. Rainbows are the kind of people who gravitate towards lovey-dovey spirituality and may overlook the bad energy of another because it is simply not on their radar. They love regardless of how they are loved, and they give regardless of how they are given to. A Rainbow child is the one who knows no strangers, waves hello and smiles at everyone in the grocery store, attracts the love of others wherever they go, and runs over to a friend in need to give a hug. In other words, they see the good in everyone and everything and just want the world to find peace. The love they exude is contagious and people are naturally drawn to them.

A major hangup for Rainbows is that, because they are so trusting, they will need to develop their third eye or intuition to be able to discern who is truly a healthy part of their life and who is not. While they want to believe everyone is good like them, the truth is this is not always the case. Their naivete is beautiful but can also become an issue if they never learn how to discern people’s true intentions. Additionally, they will need to find ways to channel their energy into productive matters rather than looking for the next fun activity.

How to tell if you are a Rainbow:

Love is your natural state. You have never considered withholding love or affection from the people in your life and give it freely. It doesn’t bother you if others are not able to reciprocate because it just feels so good to give.

You care deeply about environmental or animal welfare issues. The planet and the animals on it are one of your biggest priorities. You want to save the beings who can’t stand up for themselves. You may participate in non-profits and organizations that promote animal rights and environmental preservation.

You routinely get called a hippie. People assume you are a tree hugger or flower child archetype based on how you dress, speak, and your interests. You enjoy others seeing you this way.

You feel that nature is a second home to you. You love sitting in the grass, watching flowers sway in the breeze, and getting your hands and feet dirty in the ground beneath you.

You are drawn to spirituality that is feel-good in nature. You love reading books, listening to podcasts, and finding blogs that promote a “do no harm” approach to life. Your number one priority is sharing your infectious good energy with others.

You hate conflict. Because Rainbows are so naive and loving, they expect everyone shares this view. It surprises you when other people cannot meet you on that level, but it rarely upsets you — you just go about the business of being high-vibe. You simply don’t know how to participate in conflict.

You may feel restless. As I said, because of their high vibrational energy, Rainbows are always on the move. True social butterflies, they flit about from one thing to the next, always looking for the fun in life. They can become very restless when asked to sit still, focus, and get serious.

You can be prone to sadness. While 99% of your time is made up of love and happiness, you do sometimes get down when there are conflicts you can’t avoid. You just want everyone to get along and when this isn’t possible, you turn to internal sadness.

You have a hard time standing up for yourself. Because you assume everyone has good intentions, you likely have never developed self-survival skills. You simply don’t think they are necessary if you give enough love. Rainbows will eventually need to learn how to say no, how to put themselves first, and how to discern what is healthy and what is not.

Empath subcategory type 1: Indigos

Indigos are a specific class of empaths. While “empath” is the general term for people who are highly sensitive, pick up on the energy and feelings of others, Indigos are like empaths on steroids. They are very mission- and goal-oriented and expect nothing but the best. They see through every facade, and hate them all. They are warriors at their core and to an Indigo, the average empath may come off as weak. Indigos know they are here to fight for the truth, to fight the good fight, to change this place once and for all. It is not enough to feel, they also have to do. Please know, one is not better than the other, but you can think of Indigos like a royal bloodline — they think, no know, they are special and have a reason for being here. They don’t think they are better than anyone else, but they feel they are worthy in their own right because of who they are. And they want change.

It’s hard to determine if you are in fact an Indigo, but there are many factors that can lead you to believe this. First, your aura color will tell you if you are an Indigo and which hue. The Indigo spectrum ranges from blues to maroon to violet. You can visit a real intuitive or healer to determine your aura color. Additionally, you may feel drawn to the color purple — crave it in fact (much like the way an anemic craves iron), be mesmerized by higher spiritual information, and feel you are on a quest towards enlightenment. Generic and basic living bores the hell out of an Indigo and so you are always seeking and questioning. You will not accept anything at face value and until it feels true in your soul, you will not believe it.

It is said that many Indigos have had past lives as Native Americans and so, past life recall may also help you determine if you are in fact Indigo. This could also explain the warrior spirit. Touchy-feely happy spirituality doesn’t interest an Indigo because they know they are participating in a war between good and evil; feeling good does nothing for an Indigo; creating good is what drives them. Many mystics believe the first great wave of Indigos were born in the 1970s, 1980s and 1990s but to be honest, your birth year doesn’t matter so much here. Indigos have been with us for all time, but have recently incarnated in larger groups to help earth ascend.

You can also do a self-assessment to see if the below traits have always described your personality. I will say, there are thousands upon thousands of videos and articles on the internet about Indigos. Many people think they are when they are not. Indigos make up only a small percentage of the empath community. You only know another Indigo when you feel it on them. It is like you have found a long lost friend in a stranger. They have pure hearts but they also don’t put up with bullshit. It may take them decades to get to the place where they begin acting out their true nature but they eventually will — if they don’t, they will become very sick and disconnected.

How to tell if you are in Indigo:

You know you have a specific purpose
You may not know what this purpose is but you know you have one. You feel odd or different at times, knowing something inside of you is different compared to others. You may go out of your way to hide this feeling which can leave you sick and stressed. You feel some higher calling is part of your plan here. Part of the ego unraveling process will lead you to your ultimate purpose. Until you do so, you will feel like a wanderer in a strange place. After you shed your ego, you will make peace with your oddness. Others may take this internal confidence as cockiness or narcissism. They won’t understand why you are so different and accept this.

You have very high expectations and standards
You expect nothing but the very best out of yourself and others. While you hold others to a high standard in relationships, you also demand this of yourself. You can become perfectionist and disillusioned if you are not careful, and you will want to develop a sense of grace and forgiveness for those who are not as spiritually inclined as you. Expecting ethical interactions is not a negative but realistically, no one but you can live up to these standards. You should also work hard to not be your own worst enemy or only find fault with yourself when you cannot be perfect.

You are highly intuitive and perceptive
Indigo people see the world differently. You have an innate sixth sense that has called to you your entire life. You can read people’s energy (though perhaps you have never been aware of it), understand other’s thoughts, feelings, and intentions, and are at risk of internalizing all of it. You may posses a range of psychic abilities. Because of these things, you have an inherent self assurance, and you may not understand why others cannot develop these abilities in order to see the truth. It may also rub people the wrong way that you can see through them.

You have problems with authority
You don’t hate authority for no reason — you hate authority that serves no good purpose, or despise it when those in authority do not act in ethical ways. You have likely questioned authority your entire life, including laws, the way society has built-in checks and balances, why bosses and teachers treat subordinates in a certain way, and more. You know your soul is old and you know you posses an internal wisdom that deserves to be respected, no matter your age, income level, education level, sex, and more. This is completely contradictory to the 3D system.

You are creative
You could be a writer, artist, musician, etc. You find unconventional ways to express your subconscious mind and emotions because you have not felt safe expressing these things outright. Because you see the world in a different way, you naturally want to communicate these things to others through artistic mediums so they can grow. Even if you have never pursued the arts, you may feel like you would one day like to.

You want to be a change-maker
You easily see the failings of society and how things can be improved. Solutions abound for an Indigo, while others see only dead ends. You can’t believe so many societal, environmental, and health problems have not yet been eradicated when there are numerous genius solutions to these issues. Eventually in life, Indigos will come to a point where they can no longer sit by and wait for someone else to remedy the problems. You will begin to take a stand and take charge.

You feel out of place
To an Indigo, it feels like Earth is not your real home. It feels odd at times to live in a place so full of hatred, evil, and pain. When you see others having a great time here, you can’t wrap your head around it and feel you are the only one who truly feels how you do. You may have loner or rebel tendencies.

You have a strong work ethic
You feel very driven in life and let nothing stop you. You may have temporary setbacks but you always pick yourself up and keep going. You may have laser vision and really hone your talents and focus on your goals. Sometimes, Indigos can be prone to laziness because of the demands of the external world and how they pick up on others’ energy, but you will also feel guilty for taking a break so you get back on your mission. Once you understand your life path, you will begin to understand why you are so driven and will not give up.

You are prone to existential crises
Your soul is naturally restless and lives for change. You like changes of scenery, and new activities. Because of this, you can become easily frustrated with the same old day-in, day-out shit. Many Indigos are prone to depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts because reality is often so harsh and contradictory to what they need from the world. Working the same job for 30 years will not appeal to you. Trying to fit in with others and society may be an adaptation strategy you implemented in the past, but you know it doesn’t truly make you happy. All of this leads you often to question the nature of reality, why we are all here, what you should be doing with your life, and can lead you to frustrations with your current situation.

Indigos need special treatment because of their highly intuitive and driven nature. Unfortunately, they may spend their entire lifetime seeking someone who understands and not find it. But once you understand these things for yourself, you can form adaptation strategies that help you survive the 3D world while pursuing the 5D. Keep on your purpose and you will be able to abate the existential crises.