Each one of us has unique life lessons that dictate what we are here to do, to learn, and to become. Some choose to recognize these and resolve them, and others ignore them to continue a more “blissfully unaware” life. Truthfully, you can only go so many years before the weight of karma finally catches up with you. Unresolved karma will make you stressed and sick, no ifs, ands or buts about it. Your unresolved karma will also 100% be passed down to the people around you, including your friends, family, and especially children. If you love yourself and others, you will interrupt the karmic cycle and break it once and for all. Don’t make others bear the burden of the dysfunctional generational cycle — in essence, it’s passing down a life sentence of pain and illness. And the toxic masculine system is behind it all.
“Toxic masculine” is the designation for the unhealthy ways the masculine is expressed. A healthy masculine seeks to support the feminine, engage, understand, compromise, lead with integrity, and move forward when it works (not when it is forced). The healthy masculine is the person who has gone into battle, recognized his own weaknesses and sought to correct them, and come out the other side able to understand the needs of the people around him and how to move things forward. The toxic masculine is the little boy who has never earned his stripes, only dresses up as king, and makes decisions that serve himself rather than the whole. And when this little boy gets caught making bad decisions, he blames and shames rather than admitting to the truth and changing his behavior.
The toxic masculine does not like to admit to problems because the “there are no problems” or “the feminine is the problem” deflection has worked for so long. It has helped the proverbial little boys remain in power while they otherwise should be guilty as charged. The toxic masculine says, lets’s rush this along, let’s ignore the real issues, let’s gloss over and cover-up the truth, let’s blame the victim, let’s remain amnesic, let’s overlook how this all connects, let’s enforce rules and regulations that work in our favor, let’s engage in extreme group think for our benefit.
If we started admitting to the problems, the toxic masculine would have no more power. The secrets are what uphold the toxic system and keep us stressed, sick, and un-actualized. If we started telling the secrets, the system would dissolve. The secrets are the karma. The toxic masculine would rather view problems as isolated instances rather than interconnected messages that contain a call to action. The sacred feminine says, if there is a problem we must fix it because it is affecting people. The toxic masculine says, there are no problems and you are a fool for ever thinking so.
As I have said before, please do not be fooled into thinking this is a man versus woman issue. It’s not. We each have masculine and feminine aspects to our bodies and personalities. I have seen done-up soccer moms and female holistic health professionals exhibit toxic masculine traits just as much as flower child “peace loving” male hippies. No one is safe from the toxic masculine system because we live in the system and have been indoctrinated into it from birth. Though, within the last year have we seen significant forward momentum towards balancing the scales in honor of the sacred feminine, we first have to be aware of the toxic masculine system and its functions in order to break it down and finally resolve the karma.
Remember, karma is not about you being “bad” and it is not something you necessarily have to possess religious beliefs to understand. It is a reminder of Newton’s third law and it allows us to see that everything is interconnected and will come back around to haunt if not resolved. Even the Bible talks about the “sins of the father”. Your core wounds are the soul vulnerabilities or problems that you inherited from the ego of your caregivers (or beyond) because they never addressed the core wounds that were passed down to them and on and on back in time. Your life lessons are the patterns in your life that are dysfunctional, and are tasks you can do in order to overcome the core wounds. The karma is the overarching cause and effect of how you and everyone around you engages the life lessons — do you resolve them or will they come back around another time? Also, your lessons are not isolated — they are connected to everyone around you and vice versa. When one person overcomes the karma, it makes it easier for others to do the same.
Let me give you an example:
You have been married for 20 years but are now in the middle of a divorce. For nearly two decades, you listened to your mother-in-law complain about her divorce from your spouse’s father. You heard about the terrible backstabbing, lying, court ordeals, drug use, and abuse. He engaged in a total character assassination of her and took her kids away through the court system because his family had enough money to do so and enjoyed this privilege.
You watched your mother-in-law cry and recount the same stories each time you saw her for holidays and gatherings. You felt her pain. But each time you visited with her, she cried the same tears and told the same stories from nearly 40 years prior and never took advice or tried to change. You see that she has never gotten over the pain, understandably, but she has also never done anything to overcome the trauma.
Now that you are going through your own divorce, you think back to the stories she told you and see how the pattern this family engaged in for generations is coming back to haunt you and your ex. The court drama, the money struggles, the tug of war over children, the projection of guilt or innocence — the same exact tactics being used. What his dad did to his mom is what your ex is doing to you. From here, you can crack it up to coincidence or “that’s just what happens in divorce” or you can go back to what you learned from this family and use it to your advantage to break the cycle.
You see, in such an example, although they are now divorced, the divorce itself was never the “end goal” — the way they handled it is. The mother still carries the extreme trauma of the past, and the father did not act in justice or righteousness in this situation. Therefore, neither were able to truly resolve the karma. The father still has energetic strings he holds over the mothers head, and she feels the sadness and weight of this.
Ironically, your mother-in-law supports her son (of course) despite him doing the same thing to you that his father did to her. Because she is unaware of the family cycle, she cannot see how the abuse she endured is the abuse she is now supporting.
To complicate things further, you have your own karma from your family as well. Perhaps, like many with thyroid disease, you inherited a family pattern of running and hiding or getting quiet when things got hard. You can throw your hands up and give up or give in, or you can say to yourself, I don’t want to run from this — I will be seen, be heard, process and resolve it, and then be done.
What no one else has done in the past is what you must do in order to stop the karma.
Again, breaking your karma is not easy but please don’t get discouraged — this doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t try — you absolutely should and it is the true way to peace, health, and self-actualization. However, if you choose to recognize the cycles and stop them, you will come up against systems and people who want to prevent the unraveling of the problems, who want to keep the secrets, who want to poison and subdue the subconscious mind so that you question yourself and reality, and who will harm anything that seeks to expose the truth. You’re not just exposing one person or one situation, you are exposing entire lineages that have never done the right thing. The present is a reflection of past cycles that were never broken, until someone becomes aware of them.
As I said before, the toxic masculine system is at the root of the karma cover-up. It prefers to pretend everything is fine so it can maintain control. If you choose to tell the secrets, admit to the problems, and do what no one before you has done, you resolve your karma. Then you will be free from the energetic strings that are pulling you down and keeping you stressed and sick. Resolving your karma means you don’t have to live in a traumatized state forever. It is a path to happiness. Undergoing this journey is up to you and do not be surprised if you face spiritual warfare while doing so. In the end, it is still worth it.
The political and professional scandals we’re witnessing at the moment are a reckoning of karma. Righting of wrongs, destruction of the old, restructuring of new, secrets and skeletons coming to light, memories and systems being questioned. It’s not just politics and celebrities — justice is coming for us all.
Karma is considered myth by some and religious fact by others. While karma gets characterized as “woo” or spiritual, there is another way to think about it and a widely accepted designator for it: Newton’s third law. In other words, for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. It means that in every interaction, “there is a pair of forces acting on the two interacting objects. The size of the forces on the first object equals the size of the force on the second object.”
You don’t have to believe in past lives to believe in karma or the idea that what is affecting one thing will affects something else, only for the cycle to repeat. Again, karma teaches us about the true nature of our decisions, whether immediate or very delayed. There’s the classic robber slip-and-fall instant karma, the “bad” karma some wish on those who wrong them, and then there are much more hidden ways karma presents itself: fears, phobias, health problems, toxic cycles, recurrent dreams, soul urges, talents, and relationships with people who seem oh so familiar.
I’m here to tell you that what happens in the recesses of your subconscious mind or in your body is not by chance — they are cues and clues to the greater mystery of your karma. There are several ways we can deconstruct your karma.
Fascia — the connective tissue that runs in lines up and down your body, from the top of your head to the tip of your toe — teaches us about cause and effect (and therefore karma). Fascia doesn’t care which secrets you want to forget — it stores memories of the movements you have made in your life and why (and there is a why). Your fascia is your proof. It takes cues from your body and mind and creates fascial adhesions (aka: bad fascia where restrictions occur) where there was emotional duress/resulting physical tension, acidifying stress responses, improper diet, and poor structural alignment.
Deconstructing your “bad” fascia (aka: fascial adhesions) is possible and encouraged (I explain this in Body Readings), but it also is a backwards unraveling of you. What led you to this point? How did you get here? Can your problems be traced back to a much earlier time? It’s like pressing rewind on a cassette tape. After some recoil, you eventually you get to the first track.
Abuse also teaches us about cause and effect because we can see for ourselves what happens when people are treated inhumanely: physical and emotional pain. People aren’t depressed, anxious, or fearful for no reason. People feel things because of something. “The size of the forces on the first object equals the size of the force on the second object”.
There is always an impetus, we simply have to discover what that is. As we are seeing, for many, they now realize it was abuse. It is far easier to blame an “untraceable” emotion on someone, rather than asking what caused that person to feel that way to begin with. Because abuse has been so normalized in society, it is not uncommon for abuse victims to go their whole lives without knowing they were abused or why they suffer at present. Karma keeps repeating itself and everyone calls it chance.
Thus far, we have not been able to learn the true consequences of cause and effect because the toxic masculine system is very adept at preventing and covering up. What would normally be a string of facts back to the truth becomes a game of deceit — who can outwit, outsmart, outmaneuver?
You see, fascia, abuse, and karma are generational, but chances are no one wanted to recognize it was a pattern, not a life sentence. This means not only have your parents likely been abused in some way, but they are the product of the abuse their parents endured, and so on and so forth. What you are experiencing now is a projection of a past cycle that was not broken. Until you identify the cycles, you will be a slave to them. It’s a sick culture when the onus is on the victim to stop the problems, but that’s where we’re at.
For example, the men in your family bottle up emotions, only later to “explode”. You tried to improve the situation yourself but got nowhere. You then understand this “angry stunted male” archetype so you can prevent yourself from turning into it. Or, conversely, you can make peace with family members who display this behavior because you can see it was subconsciously passed down, unbeknownst to them and sadly they are not at a point where they can break the cycle. (FYI: if there is abuse involved, I do suggest finding a safe way to get out, despite any attempts at acceptance).
Abuse goes somewhere. Abuse is energy. And energy doesn’t dissipate — it changes, gets stored, or gets hidden. Abuse goes right into your body, in the form of stress-related ailments, but especially in the form of fascial adhesions. Your fascia tells us what your karma is.
Some people view karma as a bad thing… your punishment. It’s not though — karma isn’t a life sentence and you don’t get a punishment because you “deserve it”. We all have “bad” karma and it doesn’t necessarily mean you have been a bad person, will continue to experience hardship, or that the hardship should be blamed on you. It means you have many unresolved energetic issues that are keeping you under the grey cloud though the sun is shining. It means the relationship issues, things you know you need to do but are scared to, the circumstances you realized weren’t right but stayed in anyway, the ways you need to grow but aren’t willing to — they’re going to hang over your head and keep you stressed. Only by addressing them do we self-actualize and release the old toxic cycles that no one before us ever broke.
Not breaking the karmic cycle means you are choosing the pattern over the brave unknown. Breaking the karmic cycle means you are self-actualizing to your highest potential.
This is why the ego exists — to cover up karma and pretend like it’s not there. The ego wants to project pain, not feel it. In order to overcome your karma, you must be willing to feel and overcome your pain.
You can’t buy alms or tokens for good karma. And you can’t ignore the problems while expecting to be healthy and happy. Karma is the result of choices others made as well as the choices you made for yourself. It’s also about the projections other people impose on you. For that reason, karma can’t fully be blamed on one individual — many factors come together to create your karma.
Let’s say you have hypothyroidism (and therefore a blocked fifth Chakra) and have largely remained silent for most of your life. You may not be shy and you may have an active social life but your true personality or thoughts have been repressed. You play a role you don’t enjoy, in order to keep those around you happy. As a result, you haven’t let many people get to know the real you. One day, someone at work starts a nasty rumor about you. Your initial reaction is shock and hurt. You retreat and go to a place of shame. Why would they say that about me, you wonder. Why would they do that? Don’t they see who I really am? I didn’t do what they said I did. To your surprise, no one comes to your defense. But they never got to know you because of your fifth Chakra problems so how could they defend you? The hurt stings deeper.
From here, you have a few options:
1. Pretend it isn’t happening but secretly be hurt.
2. Recognize your pattern of being silent and say something to the people who engaged in the gossip, standing up for yourself and addressing it head on.
3. Leave the situation because you see these people won’t change.
The “best” action is dependent upon your past karmic cycles. If in the past you ignored the problems, this time you need to confront them. If in the past you argued and pursued, you may need to give yourself more time to reflect. It’s the flipping that is essential to break the karma.
Your fifth Chakra blockage allowed there to be doubt about your character. But this problem was subconsciously imposed on you by the ego of your caregivers growing up. While it’s not your fault, it is an energetic vulnerability that was exposed by the ego of others. You can do something about it to work through the hurt or you can do what you’ve always done. See the cycle?
Few people want to resolve abuse — get to the root, pluck it out, and change the system because it is hard as fuck and because it will ruin what you or others forced life into becoming for you. But owning up to the lessons and righting the wrongs is what is required to absolve yourself of karma/your ancestral patterns that were never broken. Myofascial release provides an entry point to this because by deconstructing your fascia, you deconstruct your problems.
What led to the problems is karma. On the other side of the karma is your dharma or true life purpose here. Which do you choose?