Empath subcategory type 1: Indigos

Indigos are a specific class of empaths. While “empath” is the general term for people who are highly sensitive, pick up on the energy and feelings of others, Indigos are like empaths on steroids. They are very mission- and goal-oriented and expect nothing but the best. They see through every facade, and hate them all. They are warriors at their core and to an Indigo, the average empath may come off as weak. Indigos know they are here to fight for the truth, to fight the good fight, to change this place once and for all. It is not enough to feel, they also have to do. Please know, one is not better than the other, but you can think of Indigos like a royal bloodline — they think, no know, they are special and have a reason for being here. They don’t think they are better than anyone else, but they feel they are worthy in their own right because of who they are. And they want change.

It’s hard to determine if you are in fact an Indigo, but there are many factors that can lead you to believe this. First, your aura color will tell you if you are an Indigo and which hue. The Indigo spectrum ranges from blues to maroon to violet. You can visit a real intuitive or healer to determine your aura color. Additionally, you may feel drawn to the color purple — crave it in fact (much like the way an anemic craves iron), be mesmerized by higher spiritual information, and feel you are on a quest towards enlightenment. Generic and basic living bores the hell out of an Indigo and so you are always seeking and questioning. You will not accept anything at face value and until it feels true in your soul, you will not believe it.

It is said that many Indigos have had past lives as Native Americans and so, past life recall may also help you determine if you are in fact Indigo. This could also explain the warrior spirit. Touchy-feely happy spirituality doesn’t interest an Indigo because they know they are participating in a war between good and evil; feeling good does nothing for an Indigo; creating good is what drives them. Many mystics believe the first great wave of Indigos were born in the 1970s, 1980s and 1990s but to be honest, your birth year doesn’t matter so much here. Indigos have been with us for all time, but have recently incarnated in larger groups to help earth ascend.

You can also do a self-assessment to see if the below traits have always described your personality. I will say, there are thousands upon thousands of videos and articles on the internet about Indigos. Many people think they are when they are not. Indigos make up only a small percentage of the empath community. You only know another Indigo when you feel it on them. It is like you have found a long lost friend in a stranger. They have pure hearts but they also don’t put up with bullshit. It may take them decades to get to the place where they begin acting out their true nature but they eventually will — if they don’t, they will become very sick and disconnected.

How to tell if you are in Indigo:

You know you have a specific purpose
You may not know what this purpose is but you know you have one. You feel odd or different at times, knowing something inside of you is different compared to others. You may go out of your way to hide this feeling which can leave you sick and stressed. You feel some higher calling is part of your plan here. Part of the ego unraveling process will lead you to your ultimate purpose. Until you do so, you will feel like a wanderer in a strange place. After you shed your ego, you will make peace with your oddness. Others may take this internal confidence as cockiness or narcissism. They won’t understand why you are so different and accept this.

You have very high expectations and standards
You expect nothing but the very best out of yourself and others. While you hold others to a high standard in relationships, you also demand this of yourself. You can become perfectionist and disillusioned if you are not careful, and you will want to develop a sense of grace and forgiveness for those who are not as spiritually inclined as you. Expecting ethical interactions is not a negative but realistically, no one but you can live up to these standards. You should also work hard to not be your own worst enemy or only find fault with yourself when you cannot be perfect.

You are highly intuitive and perceptive
Indigo people see the world differently. You have an innate sixth sense that has called to you your entire life. You can read people’s energy (though perhaps you have never been aware of it), understand other’s thoughts, feelings, and intentions, and are at risk of internalizing all of it. You may posses a range of psychic abilities. Because of these things, you have an inherent self assurance, and you may not understand why others cannot develop these abilities in order to see the truth. It may also rub people the wrong way that you can see through them.

You have problems with authority
You don’t hate authority for no reason — you hate authority that serves no good purpose, or despise it when those in authority do not act in ethical ways. You have likely questioned authority your entire life, including laws, the way society has built-in checks and balances, why bosses and teachers treat subordinates in a certain way, and more. You know your soul is old and you know you posses an internal wisdom that deserves to be respected, no matter your age, income level, education level, sex, and more. This is completely contradictory to the 3D system.

You are creative
You could be a writer, artist, musician, etc. You find unconventional ways to express your subconscious mind and emotions because you have not felt safe expressing these things outright. Because you see the world in a different way, you naturally want to communicate these things to others through artistic mediums so they can grow. Even if you have never pursued the arts, you may feel like you would one day like to.

You want to be a change-maker
You easily see the failings of society and how things can be improved. Solutions abound for an Indigo, while others see only dead ends. You can’t believe so many societal, environmental, and health problems have not yet been eradicated when there are numerous genius solutions to these issues. Eventually in life, Indigos will come to a point where they can no longer sit by and wait for someone else to remedy the problems. You will begin to take a stand and take charge.

You feel out of place
To an Indigo, it feels like Earth is not your real home. It feels odd at times to live in a place so full of hatred, evil, and pain. When you see others having a great time here, you can’t wrap your head around it and feel you are the only one who truly feels how you do. You may have loner or rebel tendencies.

You have a strong work ethic
You feel very driven in life and let nothing stop you. You may have temporary setbacks but you always pick yourself up and keep going. You may have laser vision and really hone your talents and focus on your goals. Sometimes, Indigos can be prone to laziness because of the demands of the external world and how they pick up on others’ energy, but you will also feel guilty for taking a break so you get back on your mission. Once you understand your life path, you will begin to understand why you are so driven and will not give up.

You are prone to existential crises
Your soul is naturally restless and lives for change. You like changes of scenery, and new activities. Because of this, you can become easily frustrated with the same old day-in, day-out shit. Many Indigos are prone to depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts because reality is often so harsh and contradictory to what they need from the world. Working the same job for 30 years will not appeal to you. Trying to fit in with others and society may be an adaptation strategy you implemented in the past, but you know it doesn’t truly make you happy. All of this leads you often to question the nature of reality, why we are all here, what you should be doing with your life, and can lead you to frustrations with your current situation.

Indigos need special treatment because of their highly intuitive and driven nature. Unfortunately, they may spend their entire lifetime seeking someone who understands and not find it. But once you understand these things for yourself, you can form adaptation strategies that help you survive the 3D world while pursuing the 5D. Keep on your purpose and you will be able to abate the existential crises.

The messy ones are learning their life lessons

I spoke with a client this week who had a life story you wouldn’t believe. Abuse after abuse, loss after loss, abuse after abuse, loss after loss. Unfortunately for her, as an empath, she kept pouring from an empty cup because cup-giving was all she had ever known. She served others, she gave to others, she directed good energy towards people and all she got in return was more problems, effort, non-reciprocation, punishment, and burden. In these circumstances, it’s kind of like the boy who cried wolf: too much mess for the average person to believe; they assume you must be a liar and exaggerator. They won’t get it unless they have been through it themselves. Which is why this woman came to see me.

I listened to her story, in full belief. I asked her if anyone had ever acknowledged what she had been through, if anyone had ever said, “you have been through the worst of the worst and you did it — you’re still here”. “No, I guess not. I don’t really have anyone” she said. “Do you recognize that for yourself?” I asked her. “I guess I never thought about it like that”, she said. Instead of mess and chaos and drama, I only saw a brave soul who faced the spiritual warfare her whole 40-some years and had a beautiful, albeit weathered, body and soul that made her most worthy.

Learning your life lessons will not be easy, nor will it make your image squeaky clean. It will force you to think in the ways of the divine, no longer expecting a straight line point-A-to-point-B path; it will lead you into labyrinths and dead ends, peep-hole-sized windows to look from, and steps to repeat. No one will understand why you choose these circles and zig zags when the accepted path to success is so obviously linear. You’ll be forced to do things others won’t like, let alone understand, and you yourself will wonder what the point of it all is. You will be forced to face your demons.

You see, the only way out, at first, is backwards. Retrace your steps. What landed you in where you are now? How do you resolve, absolve, or flip it? To remember what landed you here, you stare down evil, remember the bad times, regret your compromises, and beg the divine for help. In working backwards to remember why you are at this place now, the skeletons you hid long ago in that closet of yours will come tumbling out. The whole world will see them. “Eww. Too messy. Why are you going backwards?” everyone will wonder. “Why can’t you forget like everyone else?” Forward progress is the only progress here and all they will see is forensic muck. “Stop digging up old bones” they will tell you. “Let sleeping dogs lie” they will say. But your soul has always been a detective and so, you retrace your steps alone.

As it becomes more obvious that this digging and mess is in fact the point of life, you will wonder why more people are not doing it. “If it were true, more people would be doing it”, you will think. “If it were true, they wouldn’t keep pretending”. Still, you keep digging. After many years and much mud and mire, you finally strike something — some pot of gold, some buried treasure you had hidden for many many lifetimes. Underneath the mess of the lessons was your soul.

You will begin to shine. You will begin to care more, and less. You will begin being who you have always been, but had forgotten. You got lost somewhere between the expectations of others, the desire to fit in, the easy compromises that felt good in the moment, and the running from your wounds. It was never a marathon, it was a stroll through a labyrinth and a treasure hunt.

I can guarantee you that everyone who is still running the marathon is missing the point. Stop looking up to them, stop trying to get in their good graces, stop trying to be like them. Going backwards through the mess is the only way out. Too squeaky clean and predictable and you don’t learn a damn thing.

Stages of development of the female intuition, part 1: the early years

As a woman and a mother to a little girl, and a coach whose client base has been comprised of women 98% of the time over the last eight years, I can only speak to what I know: females. I know there are a good number of men who follow this blog, or who have worked with me a few times over the years and while this won’t apply to you directly, please still take a read and use it to your advantage to understand the ladies in your life. It is my firm belief that all children are born highly sensitive and highly empathic, but society talks them out of this. As such, they need you to “get” this just as much as they need to get it for themselves. Without a tag-team effort, we’ll continue to bring up girls who are sheepish, disconnected, ignorant to the abuses around them, don’t trust themselves, act out, or go through life disillusioned and distrusting. The problem isn’t them — it is what they have been told about what they observe and how much to trust their reactions to it (and how much punishment they receive as a result).

The feminine intuition is a wild beast, much like a horse, that starts out carefree, unrestrained, and observant of every movement, touch, and tone of voice. The wind moves a certain direction and she feels it. The grass shuffles a certain way and she hears it. A stranger approaches and she reads his energy to discern if he is trustworthy or not. Anything that could impede on her freedom is swiftly run from. Over time, though, this “animal” becomes trained in the ways of others for sheer survival or necessity. It doesn’t want to be tamed, but it does so because it has been tricked — roped and walked into fences and gated pastures where certain “benefits” are offered. “This will be good for you”, “look what I can give you”, it is told. It has been told it’s own spirit cannot be trusted — at least not fully — so it takes commands from those who say they know what they are doing. After a while, it believes others more than it believes the callings of its own soul. And this is, partly, what has landed us where we are now. Women have been talked out of their instinctual needs and reactions.

I was a first-time mom when my daughter was born over six years ago. I had no idea what I was doing in labor, in birth, in breastfeeding, and in caring for a new child. Everything I learned from my midwife, birthing videos, books about parenting, and even my education degree and years as a teacher could never have prepared me for the reality (and I definitely did try to prepare myself). Becoming a mother was my first initiation into intuition because, despite what any book told me, my own baby gave me every indication of what she actually needed at a moment’s notice. Her cries and their varying tones, her smiles and babbles and their causes, her likes and dislikes, her need to be at my side for damn well three years was contradictory to everything I had read in books written by professionals. I began to trust her just as much as I began to trust my reactions to her.

When she was born, I saw a wisdom behind my newborn daughters eyes; a wisdom I had never seen before. A wisdom that comes from something that had just been in touch with the divine and was yet untainted by any imposed ego. She didn’t just look at me, she looked through me and judged or questioned the things I was doing. I could see her trying to make sense of it. I could see her discerning whether she could trust. She wasn’t just fascinated by movement or speech, she was fascinated by intention. I wanted more than anything to prove to her that my intention was good.

I raised her the way I would have wanted to be raised. I exhausted myself to meet her needs, not because she demanded it, but because I knew if I broke her trust and showed her too early that the world was not a safe place, she would not consider me safe either. I wanted her to believe in her own needs and put them first, even when every book I scanned told me to put her on a schedule to meet my own. I wanted her to learn through experience and collaboration, not just because I said so.

What I have observed over the years, both from her, others, and myself, is that the female intuition largely begins developing around age six. The first six years are an amalgamation of input that the child begins processing and trying to translate: what is trustworthy and what is not? What can be expected out of life and others? Who makes her feel good? Who listens? Who believes? Who imposes or forces? Who takes her seriously? Who sacrifices of themselves to help her? She begins keeping a record though even she isn’t aware of this.

Around age six, cognitive dissonance begins to creep in which leaves the girl questioning deeper realities. Now she begins to understand there is not one side to the coin, but there are two: are they saying one thing but doing another? Are they telling the truth? Why do people treat her in certain ways? What does she deserve? No one has told her to question her sense of reality. In fact, she likely has been told what life is, what to believe, who to be, and how to act from day one. Regardless of the indoctrination, she secretly begins questioning and seeing duality or polarity. She may ask you outright questions about how things work, why things are the way that they are, and how come this or how come that. She seeks truthful answers and will quietly note any signs of falsehoods — or perhaps even delve into further lines of questioning if she feels you are sugarcoating or glossing over something important.

If the cognitive dissonance becomes too great to bear (if she becomes confused about the truth or feels she cannot trust her caregivers), the child will begin acting out in anger, frustration or resentment. Based on the dualities of what she has observed, she is keeping too much a secret at this point and you will need to find ways to gently draw out her confusion to help her gain clarity; to help her find a way back to her soul amidst the confusion. This means creating a safe space when she is relaxed and not distracted to figure out the source of the anger or frustration. Do not ask the question you want an answer to directly; ask around the question, so to speak, and once she feels it is safe, she will lead you to the question or problem herself. The way to earn her trust is to do this gently and to make a point to do it. If no one recognizes her frustrations and tries to help, she will go deeper into anger or hiding because she will feel you are not like her; that you are not empathic or trustworthy. And if you outright ask her for the source of the problem, she may feel too ashamed to even admit to it and pretend nothing is wrong (because she will feel guilty for questioning in the first place). She is smarter than you or she realizes.

It is important to take these things seriously when she is at a young age. Without doing so, the teen years (the sequel to this blog that I’ll write soon) will become chaotic and toxic. If she has not learned anyone can be trusted to tell her the truth, she will certainly not trust you when real life problems present themselves as a confused adolescent. The resentment will keep building over the years and explode when she is hormonal and stepping into her power as a young woman. Earn her trust now by honoring her instinctive needs, her questions, and her feelings with the truth, with help, and with recognition. Teach her she is right about things and can be trusted as well as trust her caregivers.