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Empath sabotage type 8: karma shifting

abuse, empath, energy, holistic, intuition, karma, mind-body, narcissism, past lives, relationships, stress

This is a heavy topic. I’ve not only been through it myself but I have witnessed it happening to my clients. It’s miserable and it sucks, in all honesty. I’ve written seven (possibly eight) other blog posts on the topic of empath sabotage and this is one of the biggies. If you are highly sensitive or empathic, this has likely been happening to you your entire life, whether you have realized it thus far or not. 

Let me explain this phenomenon to you. 

We live in a world or duality. Up and down, day and night, sleeping and awake. We also live in a world of many different types of people. I am not speaking about external identifiers in this case (sex, religion, ethnicity, etc). I am speaking about matters of the soul: empathy versus narcissism. In this world exist three types of people: empaths, narcissists, and those somewhere in the middle. Also note that empaths can exhibit many traits of narcissists if they have been surrounded by them or otherwise influenced by them. Narcissists can play the empath part. It gets confusing. Only by feeling a person’s energy and intention can you differentiate. 

We all also have our own individual and collective karma. That is, the problems we need to work through in the here and now in order to spiritually ascend. Without resolving these things, you will come back lifetime after lifetime, or you will experience in this lifetime, the same problems, hassles, triggers, and pains. 

Empaths by and large carry a greater burden of karma because 1). you have been here so many times and hold the burdens of those lifetimes within your subconscious mind and body, and 2). others have shifted their own karmic consequences onto you to purposefully avoid the consequences of their actions, or to not be found out as egoic and you have accepted it. It’s the classic “shoot the messenger” archetype — it is easier for others to blameshift rather than accept the karma. It’s also like being thrown to the wolves while the proverbial mob cheers at the bloodshed because no one else wanted to be the sacrificial lamb. Empaths have always been the sacrificial lamb. 

Point blank, here’s how to stop that shit:

Undoing your own karma and that others have forced on you is the best course of action because then you will be free and find peace. You will no longer be sick, stressed, and indebted. It’s not fair and it is abusive when others do this to you, but you can make it better yourself — I have seen it and done it. 

If all else fails, remember this — judgment day will come. It may not be now. It may not be soon. They may keep getting away with the transplaced pain. But everyone will have to answer for what they have done. They will only get away with this for so long. And unfortunately for them, the groupthink will mean nothing when it comes to the scales of justice. 

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Understanding karmic storylines

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Karma isn’t just a sequence of unfortunate events or punishment for bad behavior. It is a long trail backwards of cause and effect, and it happens for a variety of reasons, not necessarily because you “deserve” it despite what you may have heard. Instead, it’s a reflection of Newton’s third law: everything affects everything else and will have an impact down the road, whether we anticipate it or not. And it will happen to you no matter your religious or spiritual beliefs because it is basic physics. 

I was sitting in a salon yesterday for a haircut and while I waited, I listened to a hairdresser (rather loudly) tell another client her lengthy family history and drama without abandon: her mother grew up as the mother figure when she was only a child; this woman’s mother acted more like a teenager rather than caregiver, and when they all tried to move in together this week (despite the painful past), the grandmother (who happened to be dying of cancer) realized after one day and one too many fights it wasn’t going to work out so she secretly packed up her bags and headed back home from Texas to Michigan. And no one wanted to talk about it. Whew. 

As I always say, we all have problems. Every person and every family or circle of friends/community has deep-rooted underlying issues, despite many working hard to pretend there are no issues. I enjoy the people who are brave enough to admit to the problems — and respect those who actually want to work through them. 

In a situation like the above you may think, well, those are some family issues that are unfortunate and may never be resolved. But when I hear these kinds of things I think back to what led these people to this place in life and what would be required to make it better (and therefore change the karma).

There are really simple ways to understand karma and I want to challenge you to begin using these tools so you can see how karmic storylines are playing out in your life and therefore, how to improve them — which is everyone’s responsibility while alive here.

First, dig really deep to identify the core wound associated in the situation. In this example, the core wounds would be abandonment (getting triggered in the mother, based on her childhood) and lack of help, and a grandmother who is always avoidant, shuts off, and runs when things gets hard or leaves others to pick up the pieces. Realistically, the daughter wants her mother to be the adult, do the responsible thing, admit to what she lacked as a parent, and show unconditional love despite her daughter’s resentment. You see, the roles were reversed and it caused everyone great pain. The daughter wants a mother (instead of having to be her own mother) and the grandmother likely had a childhood in which she was expected to be responsible far too young and she rebelled which could overwhelm her, or perhaps because she was now sick she also needed care and unconditional love. Do you see how the cycle keeps repeating?

Once you understand the core wound, you can see why this situation is transpiring to begin with. It’s not for no reason — it’s because the people involved are triggering each other’s core wounds; if so, they will just repeat in situation after situation, lifetime after lifetime no matter which sex or role you are born into. When you address the situation head on and find compassion, empathy, and compromise, you can resolve your core wounds so this kind of thing doesn’t happen again. So you can grow instead of retreat and repeat.

In the above example, changing the karma would require a hard conversation. It would require all parties see beyond the circumstantial triggers (arguments about silly things that never get to the root of the issues/core wounds) and talk about the depth of their wound in order for the other to truly understand. It would also require genuine listening and the desire from others to resolve the issue no matter what, ie: weakening their own ego for the sake of someone else.

Secondly, look back to all famous works of literature, or even popular shows and books. What is embedded into the collective unconscious is no mistake. The stories we keep telling and sharing with the world at large are as old as time itself. Yes the characters and intricacies of the plot change, but the overarching themes are the same. In nearly every story you read or watch, a common denominator is that the characters are presented with a choice: do I repeat the past or do I venture into the brave unknown? Do I forgo what everyone else wants or expects of me or do I choose my own path? Are we all going to keep doing what is easy or will anyone choose the difficult thing? Who will prevent the truth or good from rising and who will fight to expose it? Who will come up with solutions and who will allow the problems to persist? If I choose my own path, what is the punishment I will face? Does the fear of that outweigh the truth of what is in my soul?

Karmic storyline character roles:

  • The twin flames: fight constantly, passive aggressive if only for comedic effect or can also be overtly aggressive, very high masculine and high feminine, or one is integrated and one not; abusive relationship. One may actively try to make things better (grow), but not always.
  • Distractor: comes in to “swipe” the scene clean and create a transition to a new topic, or so everyone forgets what just happened – sometimes for comic relief, to control the conversation or groupthink, sex appeal, etc.
  • Narcissist: the fearless, egoful leader who gets everyone into trouble and out of trouble, manipulates the entire situation to get his way or make sure no one lets onto what he is doing, earns the favor of others especially those in authority, abuses others then justifies or blames it on victim. He may try to do the right thing every now and then to save face but will always go back to control or abuse.
  • The lackeys: carrying out sinister deeds on behalf of the narcissist leader(s) so they stay in the good graces and receive benefits from the leader. They assume they will be protected, but the leader may eventually turn against them too. 
  • Empath: the sweet, sensitive, king or queen type energy who tries to bring everyone to their senses and do the right thing but is not heard or purposefully quieted. The narcissistic leader/abuser generally targets them to “astroturf” their reality. The narc may eventually fess up and say they will never do it again and there may be a forgive and forget mentality, or the victim may remain hurt.
  • Soul mates: any two people on the same wavelength and always work together when problems arise. 
  • The wise one/mentor: warns the characters about the dangers, but the characters often do not listen then feel bad afterwards and realize he/she were right; helps others learn the lesson.
  • The groupthink background actors/the “mob”: mindlessly supporting the narcissists in order to not be targeted themselves or in order to fit in. May remain silent or may perpetuate groupthink gossip. Refuse to think for themselves.

Use this information to your advantage to identify the storylines you are in, your role and the role of others, and how to escape them or turn them on their heads.

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What is karma?

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The political and professional scandals we’re witnessing at the moment are a reckoning of karma. Righting of wrongs, destruction of the old, restructuring of new, secrets and skeletons coming to light, memories and systems being questioned. It’s not just politics and celebrities — justice is coming for us all. 

Karma is considered myth by some and religious fact by others. While karma gets characterized as “woo” or spiritual, there is another way to think about it and a widely accepted designator for it: Newton’s third law. In other words, for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. It means that in every interaction, “there is a pair of forces acting on the two interacting objects. The size of the forces on the first object equals the size of the force on the second object.”

You don’t have to believe in past lives to believe in karma or the idea that what is affecting one thing will affects something else, only for the cycle to repeat. Again, karma teaches us about the true nature of our decisions, whether immediate or very delayed. There’s the classic robber slip-and-fall instant karma, the “bad” karma some wish on those who wrong them, and then there are much more hidden ways karma presents itself: fears, phobias, health problems, toxic cycles, recurrent dreams, soul urges, talents, and relationships with people who seem oh so familiar.

I’m here to tell you that what happens in the recesses of your subconscious mind or in your body is not by chance — they are cues and clues to the greater mystery of your karma. There are several ways we can deconstruct your karma.

Fascia — the connective tissue that runs in lines up and down your body, from the top of your head to the tip of your toe — teaches us about cause and effect (and therefore karma). Fascia doesn’t care which secrets you want to forget — it stores memories of the movements you have made in your life and why (and there is a why). Your fascia is your proof. It takes cues from your body and mind and creates fascial adhesions (aka: bad fascia where restrictions occur) where there was emotional duress/resulting physical tension, acidifying stress responses, improper diet, and poor structural alignment.

Deconstructing your “bad” fascia (aka: fascial adhesions) is possible and encouraged (I explain this in Body Readings), but it also is a backwards unraveling of you. What led you to this point? How did you get here? Can your problems be traced back to a much earlier time? It’s like pressing rewind on a cassette tape. After some recoil, you eventually you get to the first track. 

Abuse also teaches us about cause and effect because we can see for ourselves what happens when people are treated inhumanely: physical and emotional pain. People aren’t depressed, anxious, or fearful for no reason. People feel things because of something. “The size of the forces on the first object equals the size of the force on the second object”. 

There is always an impetus, we simply have to discover what that is. As we are seeing, for many, they now realize it was abuse. It is far easier to blame an “untraceable” emotion on someone, rather than asking what caused that person to feel that way to begin with. Because abuse has been so normalized in society, it is not uncommon for abuse victims to go their whole lives without knowing they were abused or why they suffer at present. Karma keeps repeating itself and everyone calls it chance.

Thus far, we have not been able to learn the true consequences of cause and effect because the toxic masculine system is very adept at preventing and covering up. What would normally be a string of facts back to the truth becomes a game of deceit — who can outwit, outsmart, outmaneuver?

You see, fascia, abuse, and karma are generational, but chances are no one wanted to recognize it was a pattern, not a life sentence. This means not only have your parents likely been abused in some way, but they are the product of the abuse their parents endured, and so on and so forth. What you are experiencing now is a projection of a past cycle that was not broken. Until you identify the cycles, you will be a slave to them. It’s a sick culture when the onus is on the victim to stop the problems, but that’s where we’re at.

For example, the men in your family bottle up emotions, only later to “explode”. You tried to improve the situation yourself but got nowhere. You then understand this “angry stunted male” archetype so you can prevent yourself from turning into it. Or, conversely, you can make peace with family members who display this behavior because you can see it was subconsciously passed down, unbeknownst to them and sadly they are not at a point where they can break the cycle. (FYI: if there is abuse involved, I do suggest finding a safe way to get out, despite any attempts at acceptance).

Abuse goes somewhere. Abuse is energy. And energy doesn’t dissipate — it changes, gets stored, or gets hidden. Abuse goes right into your body, in the form of stress-related ailments, but especially in the form of fascial adhesions. Your fascia tells us what your karma is.

Some people view karma as a bad thing… your punishment. It’s not though — karma isn’t a life sentence and you don’t get a punishment because you “deserve it”. We all have “bad” karma and it doesn’t necessarily mean you have been a bad person, will continue to experience hardship, or that the hardship should be blamed on you. It means you have many unresolved energetic issues that are keeping you under the grey cloud though the sun is shining. It means the relationship issues, things you know you need to do but are scared to, the circumstances you realized weren’t right but stayed in anyway, the ways you need to grow but aren’t willing to — they’re going to hang over your head and keep you stressed. Only by addressing them do we self-actualize and release the old toxic cycles that no one before us ever broke. 

Not breaking the karmic cycle means you are choosing the pattern over the brave unknown. Breaking the karmic cycle means you are self-actualizing to your highest potential.

This is why the ego exists — to cover up karma and pretend like it’s not there. The ego wants to project pain, not feel it. In order to overcome your karma, you must be willing to feel and overcome your pain.

You can’t buy alms or tokens for good karma. And you can’t ignore the problems while expecting to be healthy and happy. Karma is the result of choices others made as well as the choices you made for yourself. It’s also about the projections other people impose on you. For that reason, karma can’t fully be blamed on one individual — many factors come together to create your karma.

Let’s say you have hypothyroidism (and therefore a blocked fifth Chakra) and have largely remained silent for most of your life. You may not be shy and you may have an active social life but your true personality or thoughts have been repressed. You play a role you don’t enjoy, in order to keep those around you happy. As a result, you haven’t let many people get to know the real you. One day, someone at work starts a nasty rumor about you. Your initial reaction is shock and hurt. You retreat and go to a place of shame. Why would they say that about me, you wonder. Why would they do that? Don’t they see who I really am? I didn’t do what they said I did. To your surprise, no one comes to your defense. But they never got to know you because of your fifth Chakra problems so how could they defend you? The hurt stings deeper.

From here, you have a few options:

1. Pretend it isn’t happening but secretly be hurt.

2. Recognize your pattern of being silent and say something to the people who engaged in the gossip, standing up for yourself and addressing it head on.

3. Leave the situation because you see these people won’t change.

The “best” action is dependent upon your past karmic cycles. If in the past you ignored the problems, this time you need to confront them. If in the past you argued and pursued, you may need to give yourself more time to reflect. It’s the flipping that is essential to break the karma.

Your fifth Chakra blockage allowed there to be doubt about your character. But this problem was subconsciously imposed on you by the ego of your caregivers growing up. While it’s not your fault, it is an energetic vulnerability that was exposed by the ego of others. You can do something about it to work through the hurt or you can do what you’ve always done. See the cycle?

Few people want to resolve abuse — get to the root, pluck it out, and change the system because it is hard as fuck and because it will ruin what you or others forced life into becoming for you. But owning up to the lessons and righting the wrongs is what is required to absolve yourself of karma/your ancestral patterns that were never broken. Myofascial release provides an entry point to this because by deconstructing your fascia, you deconstruct your problems.

What led to the problems is karma. On the other side of the karma is your dharma or true life purpose here. Which do you choose?

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