What is karma?

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The political and professional scandals we’re witnessing at the moment are a reckoning of karma. Righting of wrongs, destruction of the old, restructuring of new, secrets and skeletons coming to light, memories and systems being questioned. It’s not just politics and celebrities — justice is coming for us all. 

Karma is considered myth by some and religious fact by others. While karma gets characterized as “woo” or spiritual, there is another way to think about it and a widely accepted designator for it: Newton’s third law. In other words, for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. It means that in every interaction, “there is a pair of forces acting on the two interacting objects. The size of the forces on the first object equals the size of the force on the second object.”

You don’t have to believe in past lives to believe in karma or the idea that what is affecting one thing will affects something else, only for the cycle to repeat. Again, karma teaches us about the true nature of our decisions, whether immediate or very delayed. There’s the classic robber slip-and-fall instant karma, the “bad” karma some wish on those who wrong them, and then there are much more hidden ways karma presents itself: fears, phobias, health problems, toxic cycles, recurrent dreams, soul urges, talents, and relationships with people who seem oh so familiar.

I’m here to tell you that what happens in the recesses of your subconscious mind or in your body is not by chance — they are cues and clues to the greater mystery of your karma. There are several ways we can deconstruct your karma.

Fascia — the connective tissue that runs in lines up and down your body, from the top of your head to the tip of your toe — teaches us about cause and effect (and therefore karma). Fascia doesn’t care which secrets you want to forget — it stores memories of the movements you have made in your life and why (and there is a why). Your fascia is your proof. It takes cues from your body and mind and creates fascial adhesions (aka: bad fascia where restrictions occur) where there was emotional duress/resulting physical tension, acidifying stress responses, improper diet, and poor structural alignment.

Deconstructing your “bad” fascia (aka: fascial adhesions) is possible and encouraged (I explain this in Body Readings), but it also is a backwards unraveling of you. What led you to this point? How did you get here? Can your problems be traced back to a much earlier time? It’s like pressing rewind on a cassette tape. After some recoil, you eventually you get to the first track. 

Abuse also teaches us about cause and effect because we can see for ourselves what happens when people are treated inhumanely: physical and emotional pain. People aren’t depressed, anxious, or fearful for no reason. People feel things because of something. “The size of the forces on the first object equals the size of the force on the second object”. 

There is always an impetus, we simply have to discover what that is. As we are seeing, for many, they now realize it was abuse. It is far easier to blame an “untraceable” emotion on someone, rather than asking what caused that person to feel that way to begin with. Because abuse has been so normalized in society, it is not uncommon for abuse victims to go their whole lives without knowing they were abused or why they suffer at present. Karma keeps repeating itself and everyone calls it chance.

Thus far, we have not been able to learn the true consequences of cause and effect because the toxic masculine system is very adept at preventing and covering up. What would normally be a string of facts back to the truth becomes a game of deceit — who can outwit, outsmart, outmaneuver?

You see, fascia, abuse, and karma are generational, but chances are no one wanted to recognize it was a pattern, not a life sentence. This means not only have your parents likely been abused in some way, but they are the product of the abuse their parents endured, and so on and so forth. What you are experiencing now is a projection of a past cycle that was not broken. Until you identify the cycles, you will be a slave to them. It’s a sick culture when the onus is on the victim to stop the problems, but that’s where we’re at.

For example, the men in your family bottle up emotions, only later to “explode”. You tried to improve the situation yourself but got nowhere. You then understand this “angry stunted male” archetype so you can prevent yourself from turning into it. Or, conversely, you can make peace with family members who display this behavior because you can see it was subconsciously passed down, unbeknownst to them and sadly they are not at a point where they can break the cycle. (FYI: if there is abuse involved, I do suggest finding a safe way to get out, despite any attempts at acceptance).

Abuse goes somewhere. Abuse is energy. And energy doesn’t dissipate — it changes, gets stored, or gets hidden. Abuse goes right into your body, in the form of stress-related ailments, but especially in the form of fascial adhesions. Your fascia tells us what your karma is.

Some people view karma as a bad thing… your punishment. It’s not though — karma isn’t a life sentence and you don’t get a punishment because you “deserve it”. We all have “bad” karma and it doesn’t necessarily mean you have been a bad person, will continue to experience hardship, or that the hardship should be blamed on you. It means you have many unresolved energetic issues that are keeping you under the grey cloud though the sun is shining. It means the relationship issues, things you know you need to do but are scared to, the circumstances you realized weren’t right but stayed in anyway, the ways you need to grow but aren’t willing to — they’re going to hang over your head and keep you stressed. Only by addressing them do we self-actualize and release the old toxic cycles that no one before us ever broke. 

Not breaking the karmic cycle means you are choosing the pattern over the brave unknown. Breaking the karmic cycle means you are self-actualizing to your highest potential.

This is why the ego exists — to cover up karma and pretend like it’s not there. The ego wants to project pain, not feel it. In order to overcome your karma, you must be willing to feel and overcome your pain.

You can’t buy alms or tokens for good karma. And you can’t ignore the problems while expecting to be healthy and happy. Karma is the result of choices others made as well as the choices you made for yourself. It’s also about the projections other people impose on you. For that reason, karma can’t fully be blamed on one individual — many factors come together to create your karma.

Let’s say you have hypothyroidism (and therefore a blocked fifth Chakra) and have largely remained silent for most of your life. You may not be shy and you may have an active social life but your true personality or thoughts have been repressed. You play a role you don’t enjoy, in order to keep those around you happy. As a result, you haven’t let many people get to know the real you. One day, someone at work starts a nasty rumor about you. Your initial reaction is shock and hurt. You retreat and go to a place of shame. Why would they say that about me, you wonder. Why would they do that? Don’t they see who I really am? I didn’t do what they said I did. To your surprise, no one comes to your defense. But they never got to know you because of your fifth Chakra problems so how could they defend you? The hurt stings deeper.

From here, you have a few options:

1. Pretend it isn’t happening but secretly be hurt.

2. Recognize your pattern of being silent and say something to the people who engaged in the gossip, standing up for yourself and addressing it head on.

3. Leave the situation because you see these people won’t change.

The “best” action is dependent upon your past karmic cycles. If in the past you ignored the problems, this time you need to confront them. If in the past you argued and pursued, you may need to give yourself more time to reflect. It’s the flipping that is essential to break the karma.

Your fifth Chakra blockage allowed there to be doubt about your character. But this problem was subconsciously imposed on you by the ego of your caregivers growing up. While it’s not your fault, it is an energetic vulnerability that was exposed by the ego of others. You can do something about it to work through the hurt or you can do what you’ve always done. See the cycle?

Few people want to resolve abuse — get to the root, pluck it out, and change the system because it is hard as fuck and because it will ruin what you or others forced life into becoming for you. But owning up to the lessons and righting the wrongs is what is required to absolve yourself of karma/your ancestral patterns that were never broken. Myofascial release provides an entry point to this because by deconstructing your fascia, you deconstruct your problems.

What led to the problems is karma. On the other side of the karma is your dharma or true life purpose here. Which do you choose?

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How to build or develop empathy

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We assume most all people are born with adequate levels of empathy. People who already know they are empathic go about life with a glass-half-full, rose-colored glasses mentality because we know we could always have it worse. We may expect the best of new people we meet and expect the best in situations we’re involved in. We may walk into a room and be surprised when there is “bad energy”. We want to get to the root of it, help, and stop the problems because when other people are in pain, we are in pain. 

The reality, though, is that not everyone possesses true empathy for the experiences of others. And aside from traditional explanations for low empathy (bio-chemical imbalances, mental health disorders), it makes sense to think about it this way too: we primarily develop empathy by undergoing, examining, and coming to terms with our life lessons.

Imagine if no one engaged in meaningful personal growth — would they be able to understand the emotions, challenges, and hardships of others? Would they care to make things better even if it didn’t directly benefit them?

What if, instead of pursuing personal growth, people pursued more tangible benefits and outcomes like money, exclusive personal belongings, socially acceptable rituals, and letters after their name — experiences that didn’t necessarily require them to learn how specific emotions feel? How much empathy would they develop?

To develop true empathy, we must first understand what our core wounds and life lessons are. The core wounds are the deep scars we carry from childhood or beyond. The fears, insecurities, and triggers. These then dictate our life lessons — the things we are here to do and become in order to overcome the core wounds. Once you figure out the repeating patterns of events in your life and relationships, your core wounds and life lessons become very obvious and you can then begin making different decisions in your life to break the patterns (I do this with clients in Energy Reading sessions). This is when you grow and further refine your empathic abilities and stop the recurrent problems. 

There is another way I like to explain this. I use this technique myself and now, as a mom, teach my daughter to do the same. This technique is basically the traditional “spider web” story outline that we were all taught in middle school or high school English. It’s where you create a bubble/circle in the middle of a page, then draw lines around the circle and connect the lines to other bubbles that support the main idea. 

We can use this technique when a difficult event transpires and we would like to understand and develop empathy or compassion for what has happened and to whom. The main circle represent what actually happened. From there, try to figure out why each person acted as they did. What could be going on in their life that would cause them to say that? What stresses are they under that would cause them to do that? What is their frame of reference or what are their underlying preexisting beliefs that would cause them to feel that way?

From there, create a third ring of line and bubbles. In these circles, you can even further examine why what they did was a trigger for you. “Because they did this, I felt _______.” Then create a fourth ring of line and bubbles. In these circles, ask yourself, why did I feel that way based on what they did? Your core wounds are likely to come up as answers. “Because I always felt _____ about myself”, “Because my parents taught me _________ about myself”, “Because I feared rejection”, etc. You can repeat this until you feel you have sufficiently deconstructed the issue. 

It looks like this:

empathy spiderweb1

After doing this, you will feel you have a better understanding of the situations, develop compassion for people who perhaps wronged you, situations you don’t “get”, and difficult emotions that pop up. Instead of asking “why did this bad thing happen to me”, ask, “why did this happen to us all and what can we learn from this? Why did they feel that way? What personal growth do I need to do? Which area in myself did I overlook that caused them to feel that way? Why do I feel this way and how can I grow so this isn’t a trigger again?”

Once you understand why they felt or acted how they did, you will understand why you felt and acted like you did and how far deep this kind of lesson runs for you. As a result, you’ll develop your empathic skills and begin recognizing how everything is one big interconnected web. 

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The “Eve” wound is resurfacing – is it affecting you?

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Eve is the prototypical empath/intuitive in the Judeo-Christian religious texts and we can learn much from her experience. The Temptation of Eve, as told in Genesis, sets the tone for all intuitives and is embedded into the subconsciousness (or, collective unconscious – take your pick) of many. While some consider it fact, others allegory, and still others the product of imagination, I believe, like all religious texts or mythological stories, we can learn from it much about how to navigate the current state of affairs and why we feel, think, or act the way that we do. This is one interpretation, but know there are many. 

The story begins with God outlining firm commandments for man and woman in the Garden of Eden. Adam and Eve obey what God has told them, including which trees to eat from — all but one in the middle of the garden. Then a serpent comes to Eve in Genesis 3:4-5 and encourages her to eat from the forbidden tree: “You will not surely die. For God knows that in the day you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.” The serpent encourages Eve to think for herself and plants seeds of doubt in her mind: Why wouldn’t God allow you to eat from the tree of good and evil? Why wouldn’t God allow you to see the truth? Why would a loving god keep you blind?

Eve begins to question this herself. Why wouldn’t an all-knowing and all-loving god allow his creation to see things clearly for what they really are? Why isn’t Eve allowed to fully access her own decision making skills? Why can’t Eve be powerful? In Genesis 3:6 we see Eve’s thought process: “So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree desirable to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate.” Eve took a hint, questioned the higher authority and made a decision for herself because she wanted to see the truth. She wanted to learn cause and effect, she wanted to see things from a different perspective. She wanted to be free to fully embrace the experience — without rules. 

Eve also gave fruit from the tree to her husband, Adam, and then he blames her for their error. It’s interesting that only Eve is required to engage in critical thinking skills, not Adam. (Remember my last blog where I spoke about the “Mother” archetypes putting up with bad behavior from the “Youth” archetypes because we’re scared to force them to grow up?). Eve knows she broke a law but if the law is unjust should one follow it? And should she be punished for allowing others to question the unjust laws? Adam surely could have said, “No, I don’t wish to break this commandment with you.” Rather, Adam blindly follows and is made out to be a bit of a dunce while Eve is painted as a premeditated temptress who should have known better. The man blames the woman’s personal decision making power (aka: intuition) and the woman blames the serpent for her desire to experience her intuition. It was truly a case of “I don’t know why I trusted my gut. I feel so ashamed for not obeying. My intuition made me do it”. 

As a result of Eve’s choice to discover, explore, and learn, she is punished — quite severely with no chance of forgiveness. Genesis 3:13-19 goes on to say,

“And the Lord God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?”
The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”
So the Lord God said to the serpent:
“Because you have done this,
You are cursed more than all cattle,
And more than every beast of the field;
On your belly you shall go,
And you shall eat dust
All the days of your life.
And I will put enmity
Between you and the woman,
And between your seed and her Seed;
He shall bruise your head,
And you shall bruise His heel.”
To the woman He said:
“I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception;
In pain you shall bring forth children;
Your desire shall be for your husband,
And he shall rule over you.”

“Then to Adam He said, “Because you have heeded the voice of your wife, and have eaten from the tree of which I commanded you, saying, ‘You shall not eat of it’:
“Cursed is the ground for your sake;
In toil you shall eat of it
All the days of your life.
Both thorns and thistles it shall bring forth for you,
And you shall eat the herb of the field.
In the sweat of your face you shall eat bread
Till you return to the ground,
For out of it you were taken;
For dust you are,
And to dust you shall return.”

The serpent is the representation of intuition. What God says to the serpent as he curses it is especially significant. God says that because the serpent offered Eve a choice that he should be distanced from woman. It is this distance that points to the loss of matrilineal intuition. It is no longer inherited or passed down; we must learn it ourselves despite great pain and consequential punishment. 

Intuition is learned through observation, choice, and the resulting cause and effect. (If you were born empathic, there’s a good chance you’re naturally intuitive, though you can greatly refine this skill by learning your life lessons.) If we understand that we have a right to have experiences in life and learn from them, we learn the principle of cause and effect. “If I do this, that happens”, “when this happens, I feel this way”. If we don’t know we even have a choice in the matter, we don’t have experiences — or don’t have the right experiences — and therefore we don’t learn how to become intuitive. It is that simple.

Women (and men’s) natural ability to engage in this kind of learning cycle is severely thwarted by the left-brained patriarchal system. There are unspoken rules we must follow in order to be successful in life: look good, act nice, talk sweet, don’t rock the boat, don’t usurp anyone’s power, don’t get messy. For many, their lives are planned out well before they have a decision in the matter and life starts a trajectory course to become the closest thing to whatever our family, friends, peers, or colleagues deem worthy. We can choose these in order to be successful, or we can choose ourselves against the odds. 

We tend to become very ashamed when we explore, experiment, live freely, or trust ourselves and it goes wrong. We can be blamed, scapegoated, mocked and shamed. “I told you that would never work out”, “I knew that was a pipe dream” we will be told. Then, if we have an experience that ends up being traumatic and we choose to speak out, we are often dissected and analyzed as though we cannot be trusted — as though we are guilty for having the experience. What we are seeing with the #MeToo movement is a reflection of this original Eve wound. If you think for yourself, you risk punishment. If your experience goes terribly wrong, it’s all your fault. If you choose to speak up against injustice, you will be punished. 

In the story of the Temptation of Eve, God is saying that Eve does not have permission to live an experiential life. He did not approve of her unintentional power play. As a result, Eve is punished with pain — literal physical pain in the form of childbirth — but also spiritual pain in that she will seek good energy from her spouse but not be able to see it reciprocated, and she will not be able to access the greater knowledge even though she is now aware it exists. Her punishment for questioning and experiencing is servitude, pain, and disconnect. It will be a life of pretending despite the knowing.

Yes it sounds archaic, but how many women would describe their marital relationships like this to this day? Many of the women I know and have worked with secretly feel this way even if they pretend things are fine or fair. Women seek the affirmation and desire of their spouses within the patriarchal system even if they are feminists. It is because we have been told, “if you do this and don’t do that, you will be happy.” “If you work to please me and ignore the real stirrings of your soul, you will be happy.” It is only when we question why we are in this system to begin with that we can see the system will never bring us peace or joy. 

The woman withdrawals because her spouse cannot intuit her needs, perhaps even though she can intuit his — or vice versa. She gets jealous when she sees him looking at other women and it is as though he is seeking someone or something that she will never be. Why does he see through me, she wonders. She quiets her intuitive abilities altogether because she seeks to get her husband’s love through the loops of patriarchy. She becomes more soft, more or less opinionated, more “done up”, and takes an interest in things she doesn’t really enjoy — or on the other extreme, she becomes withdrawn and resentful to try to get her needs met. Either way she works within this system, she cannot seem to quantify what she wants, why she misses it, or why she cannot get it no matter how “acceptable” she becomes.

She may seek the counsel of older women in her life only to have the same tired talking points reflected back to her: “what were you wearing?”, “why did you make him mad?”, “you shouldn’t have been there to begin with”, “but you’re not perfect so how can you be a victim?” Or perhaps you turn to a loved one to reveal abuse. They may choose the easy road and ignore your cries for help in lieu of upholding the family structure they don’t want to see fall apart. “They would never do such a thing; you are lying” you may be told.

I will say it again: just because someone is older or more accomplished does not mean they have undergone the life lessons which gives them character and a strong intuitive sense for right and wrong. It is why we are seeing friends and family turn against each other as problems arise in life and in the global political sphere. All that matters is how much soul work you have done and the masks are being lifted so everyone can get a glimpse. 

The most important thing to remember is we cannot win within the toxic masculine system. There is no real way to get emotional needs met, have truly liberating experiences, learn what we want to, become who we want to, or make things fair while the system is still present. It only perpetuates victim blaming and shaming and a loss of feminine intuitive abilities. If you naturally feel guilty or have a shame complex, please know it is not you — it is the system. This is a deep wound many carry that originates long ago but is still societally acted out to this day. The only way to beat it is to not participate in the system. You are not Eve and you don’t deserve to be punished. 

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